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you're right. 99% of the time they won't do it, but it is a possibilty. It all depends on what the person is doing that would concern them with being monitored. Like trying to convince an underage male/female to meet with you for instance. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Thank you... Took the words right out of my mouth. I'm in the IT department of my company, but on the hardware end, and if my department does decide to see whats going on with internet traffic on a certain person, that is one of the methods they use if they suspect you are doing something wrong, IE: sex websites, etc. I know there are other methods to track and snoop, but this is the method chosen by my IT department to have the hard "written" proof of what you were doing. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

The only way that I know that it is possible to monitor convo's or IM's is if they are accually mirroring your computer when you are doing it. What they can do if they choose to, is make their computer in the IT department kinda like another one of yours, doing exactly what your doing at the time. So if they mirror your computer while you are IM'ing someone, they'll see exactly what is on your screen... as you type, send, and get responses. Understand what I mean? What are the chances of them doing this??? Depends on what sites your hitting, and if they are concerned. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

I was saying the same thing to myself as I was reading this post again. People ARE entitled to have their own opinions... Drew ------------------ You know everything will flow...

I'm not a big fan of EXIT at all. I went the grand opening night, and then a few othernights and that place is missing some serious qualities. The club it self is really nice. A little too big, which in my opinion kills the vibe a little, but it is a nice looking place. The music is really weak, it's too hot in there, and most of the people in there are rude and generally not friendly. I went about 3 weeks ago for my boys b-day, and I hated it. There was about a handful of people who knew how to dance, and the rest of the crowd just stood there and took up space on the floor. It's just my opinion that the place blows. I love SF (which is also starting to change for the worse) and not everyone likes that place. But to each there own. Drew ------------------ You know everything will flow...

That's a pretty scary thought. I saw some dude at Factory last Saturday spanking it on the stairs while watching some girl dance... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Thank you sweetie... Unfortunately, I have a lot of expierience with fucked up relationships and the problems that come along with them. I guess I can really pick em... Drew ------------------ You know everything will flow...

What's up? Listen, I know exactly how you feel right now. But your at a point right now where your options are limited. Cheating should be out of the question though. Communication is the key here. You need to voice how you feel to her. If she doesn't know that you are unhappy with your sex life, then how can she make changes to help improve it? Try new things with her. I know you stated that you didn't want to do those kind of things with her, and that brings up another point. Why not? I'll have to agree with Risa, that you guys are more friends then lovers, and that isn't always a bad thing. But this is something that you need to think about. Are you still sexually attracted at all? No matter how shallow it seems, sex will make or break a relationship. You HAVE to be sexually attracted. Take a step back and look at the whole picture bro. Sounds to me like there might be more to this story then your letting out... Drew ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Seriously, all of those who are knocking it are the ones missing out. A one night stand did that to me in the shower, and it felt sooo good. I was frozen there until she stopped. Even if I could have moved, I probably wouldn't have anyway... Drew ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Currently, I work for a large cellular company. I am in charge of a small team of 11 people in our IT department. And I'm certified in Graphic Design, Java Script, MCSE + internet, Windows 2000, and Novel. I make more than most 30 year olds, and I'm 2 months away from being 23. I club every weekend for the past 5 years. But according to many, I am also an expection. The reason why we are so stereotyped is because there are a lot of low lifes that club. And the media makes people who don't club believe that it is just for crackheads. But it's something we have to deal with. What's that saying? One bad apple spoils the bunch? Drew ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Definately not bragging, but I took 11 in South Beach in 6 hours. N.Y.C.1

Honestly, if you think there is somehting that's not right, you should communicate with your B/F. If you're thinking that he wants to break up with you, ask him how he would feel about the both of you just having some space. Not breaking up, but just minimize the contact a little. Give eachother a little time to miss eachother or if it fits, what you both have. Space is a good thing sometimes, and it sounds like now might be the time. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

mmmmm. Tongue rings. How wonderful they are... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

The best thing about BJ's from a guys point of view is... just getting one. It makes everything bad seem meaningless... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

nope ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Ummm, never tried it, but I heard it was pretty uncomfortable... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Nothing sexier... Well, almost nothing...

Oh stop... I'm blushing. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

check your PM's girl... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

No sarcasim intended. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

I'll be there with a grin from ear to ear... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

You do have a point. But I guess for the same reasons why she would consider going back out with this kid. I look at her as a package. She might not have it all together with this relationship, but her good qualities outweigh it by a long shot. And plus, the truth is I really don't know ALL the details behind the relationship, so who really knows, ya know? I guess what I'm saying is it is hard to let go of a really good thing. It's not like I'm asking her to remove this kid from her heart, Ijust want her to make room for me. P.S. mysteriousss - Sorry if I offended you girl. It was wrong of me to classify ALL women as stupid. I'm sure your an exception.

I do have feelings for her. i care about her a lot. And of course, part of caring about her means that I need to be there for her, and support her in the choices she makes that will bring her happiness. But I know that even though taking this kid back would be temporary happiness, some where down the road, 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, whatever, she'll be dealing with this again. It will be that much harder then because she'll have that much more time invested in the relationship. I know that sometimes there are exceptions, but I really don't think so with this kid. Not with half the shit she's told me he's said/done. I don't know... This crap is pissing me off. ------------------ You know everything will flow...

No offense ladies, but seriously, I really don't understand how a girls brain works. There's this girl that I'm friends with, and I have serious feelings for, that just found out a few weeks ago that her boyfriend cheated on her. They have been going out for a year and a half. When she confronted him, he lied to her face about it, and kept denying it. When she told me the details and told me what he said, I pretty much said she was being stupid for believing him. Well, it turns out I was right. He did fully cheat on her and finally admitted it. Now here she is seriously thinking about giving this kid another chance after all of this nonsense. I mean I understand love and second chances are needed in a relationship, but come on. Not only cheated on her, but in the same bed that she sleeps in when she goes to his house, but then LIED about it to her face, and acted like what was the big deal? Why would any girl want to take someone back that did that to them? Especially now because it's like telling him it's ok, and giving him an invitation to do it again somewhere down the line. I don't know. Sorry, just had to vent a little... ------------------ You know everything will flow...

Don't do it! I moved out of NY to Jersey about 2 years ago, and hated every second of it. I couldn't wait to move back. Jersey sucks. ------------------ You know everything will flow...