That's not the point. Ya know, when I go out with a girl I take her to the movies, to dinner, dancing and all that but if I decide on her birthday to not do anything, not even see her, is it excusable because, "there so many other things" that I do to satisfy her and make her happy? You kids really need to wake up and realize that there's nothing icky, degrading or negative about it because that truly is a childish way of thinking about it.