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Thanks for the advice dgmodel, It's true that I'm not gonna marry my parents/family (that's a great way to put it too, honestly), but then again, do I want my parents to like my girlfriend (future wife) naturally, or do I want my parents to like her in a forced manner? Because if I say "hey you know what mom and dad, i respect you and i love you, but i love this girl and i want to be with her forever....."............ my parents aren't gonna abandon me. But they'd be forced to accept my decision since I'm giving them no other choice. You also brought up a great point that no two relationships/break ups are the same, and no identical advice can be given, even for similar situations. I hear what you guys are saying, and I'm not the kinda guy to be like "hell yeah, i'm single...off to the whore house...or let me bang her friends". I still care for her and I wanna call her, but we broke up on Christmas night, and we haven't talked since. I'm just waiting for a little bit...maybe let the new year pass for a week or two... What's meant to be is definitely meant to be.

It's not so much the religion that's the issue. I really don't care about our differences in religion (Christian/Jewish). It's the cultural differences and how I'd disappoint my parents. I mean, they want my happiness, and my happiness comes from their happiness, as weird as that sounds.

I just broke up with my girlfriend last night (Christmas night). We were going out for one year, and it's really not possible to sum up the entire relationship in one post. She's 26, and she was looking for someone to marry. I'm 23 and I expressed to her that I don't want to get married anytime soon. Anyway, she wanted to be with me New Year's Eve, and I told her I couldn't because I had obligations with my family. I know that a couple SHOULD spend New Year's Eve together, but I cannot disrespect my parents (at least not after a year of a relationship). She's beautiful, sweet, smart, intelligent, cooks wonderfully, and is very down-to-earth and kick-back, which I love. We have a million things in common. However, we come from two different cultures and two different religions. In her point of view, none of that should matter. I agree with that, but in reality, it does play a pretty significant role in a relationship. I don't think I could have ended up marrying her, although I enjoyed her company immensely. I can't have my cake and eat it too though. It would be unfair of me to hold on to her, have fun with her, be very loving with her, yet know in my heart that I wouldn't be able to marry her *knowing* that she wants marriage (in a year or two). I'm just really sad now. It was my first relationship, and I ended it. I feel like a traitor. She cried a lot (me too), and she wished me the best. She said that no other girl could love me as much as she loved me. I told her the same. I treated her like a princess (she was one). I spent well over $5000 on her in one year in clothes, jewelry, sporting events, kitchen stuff, little things here and there, fresh flowers every week, and so on. I know that I was very kind to her. So that's it guys. One year, one beautiful relationship, and I think it had to have ended. It's not fair of me to continue something knowing that it will not work out in the end. I love her and I will always love her. I think that's why I'm hurting so much.