i gave the link to a girl i know who has a daughter, not married, so i guess she would have reason to want child support... but here's what she said.. she's M, i'm p M: thats deep M: well regardless of what the woman said or did... i dont think the child should be punished. even if he didn't want it, the baby is here... i dont know if he's playing a part in the childs life... but if he's paying he should. it is unfortunate and maybe unfair given the circumstances, but regardless of the mistakes of the parents the child shouldn't suffer M: $500 might be a bit much... maybe he could work out other arrangements or something M: what u think? p: you raise some valid points, about the baby not having to suffer b/c of the parents mistakes... but i think that in certain cases, deception, b/c you often hear stories (the girl told me she couldn't have children) the guy was deceived and mislead p: and i don't think it's fair to him p: i knew this girl in college p: she was dating a track star p: he had real potential to go to the olympics p: she cheated on him many times p: she was like oh well, if i have his kid, he has to take care of me until that kid is 18 p: so i think depending on certain circumstances p: it could be fair p: and it others it's not fair p: but then if they try to enforce this p: a lot of guys who should be paying that don't want to pay p: can fall through M: yeah definitely M: its touchy cuz of the way they have the laws set up M: that and because most pregnancies arent' planned M: i feel for guys in most cases cuz they get screwed M: either by the female or by the courts