jy Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 or so my friend says.she tried setting me up with a guy she knew and right from the start I made it perfectly clear that I wasn't interested in meating anyone nor getting involved in a relationship. After seeing my disinterest she went ahead and brought him to work one day to "say hello".I was pissed off that she went against my wishes but let it go. Then, she insisted that he was a great guy and that he was worth my effort. Thing is, i'm not attracted to the guy. Yeah he's good looking and i'm sure he's a super great guy and all but just not my type at all. Now she calls me a bitch because i'm not giving him a chance.grrrrr why are people so hard headed?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fantazy Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 I hate it when my friends get involved an try to set me up. The worst is when some of the family members try to act out as a dating service - forget about it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 You are definitely not a bitch. You cant help the way you feel. I have been in your shoes before and sometimes I did feel like a bitch but you know what, you have to do what makes you happy. Did she think you were going to marry the guy or something? And you told her from the beginning you werent interested. There is nothing worse then trying to act interested in someone you have no desire to be with! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gothzane Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 Your friends are just trying to help.Even though you definitly dont want it.Its what friends do.Dont fight it.Play along.Who knows....you may have some fun along the way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 11 Author Report Share Posted April 11 thats exactly what she told me she said "whats the worst that can happen".but what she doesnt realize is that I don't have that drive to be with someone right now. Despite what anyone thinks dating takes effort and right now I really just want to be alone, i don't see why thats so hard to understand.anyhow she's accusing me of being superficial stating that the only reason i'm not interested is because i don't find him good looking but i told her even before i met the guy that i didn't want anything to do with the situation.fuck i dont need someone to find me a man when im ready i'll find myself one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 ugggghhhh....friends are such bitches like that. There must be something she would be getting out of the deal, otherwise she wouldn't be pushing so hard...Sweets....go on w/ your bad self and do your thang....tell ur friend to eat it. She's not the boss of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 11 Author Report Share Posted April 11 she's just super pushy. She called me not long ago asking me if i wanted to go out for coffee with her and "a friend". I'm not playing these games anymore, i'm not 14 and i don't have time to play these cat and mouse games. I'm sure shes getting something out of it and from what i know it's simply the satisfaction of knowing if it were to work out i'd owe her something because she fixed me up. grrrrrr. sometimes no matter what you say just doesn't make something clear enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 Ok I know some people aren't goin to agree with me but I think Jy's friend was disrespectful...Her friend knew her wishes and she didnt follow through...my best friends try to do that to me too and I know theyre trying to help but its not their place to...Jy you are the one that has to be in the relationship not your friend...go for a guy when you're ready not when your friend thinks you are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 11 Author Report Share Posted April 11 i'm pretty sure everyone would agree that initially she was being thoughtfull but now she's just being ridiculous. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cool2223423123 Posted April 11 Report Share Posted April 11 Originally posted by jy fuck i dont need someone to find me a man when im ready i'll find myself one. Exactly. You don't need to do what other people tell you. When you need a guy, go and get one. There are 1,000,000s of them. No one's extra-special.Do what you want. Don't let other people make decisions for you. But if they offer, then it's an option. And a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, I've learned that from experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 11 Author Report Share Posted April 11 Originally posted by cool2223423123 When you need a guy, go and get one. i'm just going to rephrase that..when you WANT a guy then go and get one..no girl needs a guy, she wants one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siceone Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by jy or so my friend says.she tried setting me up with a guy she knew and right from the start I made it perfectly clear that I wasn't interested in meating anyone nor getting involved in a relationship. After seeing my disinterest she went ahead and brought him to work one day to "say hello".I was pissed off that she went against my wishes but let it go. Then, she insisted that he was a great guy and that he was worth my effort. Thing is, i'm not attracted to the guy. Yeah he's good looking and i'm sure he's a super great guy and all but just not my type at all. Now she calls me a bitch because i'm not giving him a chance.grrrrr why are people so hard headed?? You go BABY Werq !!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cool2223423123 Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by jy i'm just going to rephrase that..when you WANT a guy then go and get one..no girl needs a guy, she wants one Yeah, and guys want girls who want guys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 bitch... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djjonmartin Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 Thing is, i'm not attracted to the guy. Yeah he's good looking and i'm sure he's a super great guy and all but just not my type at all. So is it that you want to be single, or that you're not attracted to him? Which is it? huh? Huh? HUH? I am down with being single by choice, and HATED when people tried to hook me up when I chose to remain single, but it looks to me like you might be sending mixed messages, which could be misconstrued as "bitchy".Oh, and as forwhy are people so hard headed?? Your friend is probably thinking the same thing ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 13 Author Report Share Posted April 13 im just not interested in anyone which is making everyone unattractive right now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
f0xyminx Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 Originally posted by jy fuck i dont need someone to find me a man when im ready i'll find myself one. i'm with u on that one hun, dont let anyone tell u otherwise, i'm in ur situation. the exact same shit happened to me, my friend tried to hook me up with this guy cuz she felt sorry for me that i wasnt seeing anyone, lord the whole nite was when ur ready, u'll find someone who makes u happyseriously, u can't help it if you feel that the guys u kno are a$$holes and ur not attracted to them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 14 Author Report Share Posted April 14 Originally posted by f0xyminx i'm with u on that one hun, dont let anyone tell u otherwise, i'm in ur situation. the exact same shit happened to me, my friend tried to hook me up with this guy cuz she felt sorry for me that i wasnt seeing anyone, lord the whole nite was when ur ready, u'll find someone who makes u happyseriously, u can't help it if you feel that the guys u kno are a$$holes and ur not attracted to them thank you babe people don't realize that when you're not interested in anyone or in dating or a relationship everyone just seems unattractive.I have this strange way of finding little problems with everyone so that I don't have a reason to like them. I know its not right but it's just the way I work. Right now, my standards are so high that no one will ever be able to fill them and as long as i keep it this way i know that i'm keeping clear of a relationship.messed up I know, but its just me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 Originally posted by jy I wasn't interested in meating anyone I love to "Meat" Girls...thats usually what dating leads to... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 14 Author Report Share Posted April 14 lol oooooooooooppppppppppsMEEEEEEETTTTTTTTTTINGGGGGG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 Originally posted by jy or so my friend says.she tried setting me up with a guy she knew and right from the start I made it perfectly clear that I wasn't interested in meating anyone nor getting involved in a relationship. After seeing my disinterest she went ahead and brought him to work one day to "say hello".I was pissed off that she went against my wishes but let it go. Then, she insisted that he was a great guy and that he was worth my effort. Thing is, i'm not attracted to the guy. Yeah he's good looking and i'm sure he's a super great guy and all but just not my type at all. Now she calls me a bitch because i'm not giving him a chance.grrrrr why are people so hard headed?? i get the same way when im in certain mooods... some ppl just dont understand... my sister and some of my friends constantly try to set me up with girls... and im like "nah chill pickle not for me im not into that right now blah blah blah" but theyre so persistant, that i wound up going on this extravaganza and its horrible... so i can relate... just do what makes you happy for now... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 14 Author Report Share Posted April 14 i wish some people who just understand the meaning of "NO" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 Originally posted by jy i wish some people who just understand the meaning of "NO" Some people are too dense...for example my friend who yelled at me for not going out with her, her bf, and one of her friends (aka the kid she wants to hook me up with) NO THANKS!!! I'm about to take a big neon pink and blue sign and put it on her window saying "WHO IM WITH IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 Originally posted by jy or so my friend says.she tried setting me up with a guy she knew and right from the start I made it perfectly clear that I wasn't interested in meating anyone nor getting involved in a relationship. After seeing my disinterest she went ahead and brought him to work one day to "say hello".I was pissed off that she went against my wishes but let it go. Then, she insisted that he was a great guy and that he was worth my effort. Thing is, i'm not attracted to the guy. Yeah he's good looking and i'm sure he's a super great guy and all but just not my type at all. Now she calls me a bitch because i'm not giving him a chance.grrrrr why are people so hard headed?? She probably did have good intentions ment, the first time, but her persistance to the idea is very annoying. If she is still trying to push into this guy thing, be firm and tell her what you told us.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 15 Author Report Share Posted April 15 well it came to the breaking point last night. I was supposed to be heading out for some friends to just have a couple of drinks. I hear the honking outside so i ran down the steps and I saw the guy sitting in the car with my friends and I said fuck it and walked back inside. My friend then ran in after me and asked me why i wasn't going to go and I told her I didn't want to lead the guy on. She bitched and said that I was being unreasonable and told her that "since you can't respect my wishes then maybe we shouldn't be friends".I think she's finally got the point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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