Jump to content
Clubplanet Nightlife Community
Sign in to follow this  
phatman

Public Displays of Affection: Where do U draw the line?

Recommended Posts

Just curious...it's changed for me as I've gotten older...I'm ok with holding hands, kisses, and so forth...but straight out heavy kissing and petting doesnt sit well with me...

Obviously, I think it's different in a dark club if you're both a bit elevated...did a bit of that myself this weekend...

Any thoughts?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yes, I agree with you... I guess you can say, lovey dovey stuff is ok, public foreplay is not. Even if seeing happy couples in love does make me wanna barf. :puke: (Where's Bitch420 when you need her)

As for clubs, stairwells, empty subway cars or any dark or secluded place... please feel free to get away with whatever you can...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

;) i second the 'get away with what you can' notion on semi-secluded places.

in straight up public though, a kiss (not a tongue-shoving extravaganza), hugs, holding hands and all that other shit that dainty Dave-Matthews-Listening people think is so special, it's okay.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

i am pda-phobic (does that make sense?) i am not a touchy feely person AT ALL .

even during those elevated times, i hate massages.

ugh, i didnt know what to do when a guy i was dating put his arm around my waist when we were standing together.... i felt so uncomfortable but i didnt do anything cuz i felt like a bitch saying something bc i know its not that unreasonable. lol :rolleyes: i have issues, i know :D

hehe behind closed doors is another matter though :tongue:

i can deal with holding hands and pecks :kiss2:... just no :makeout: ------> :vomit2:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

slobbing down someone in public just isnt cool. i duno y..but i tend to stay away from these displays...when i was younger it was different..any place was game...rain shine dark light..didnt matter...i guess when u grow up u start being a bit more considerate of others around u

i forgot to add this so im editing this bitch...

i had a friend who had a pretty got girlfriend. all this guy would do is like rape her in public...it didnt matter where we were. in the bar he was alllll over her..i mean hands on the boobies and up the shirt and all...i guess it was ok there cause it was a dim lounge type thingie...

worst place ever was on line waiting to get into a club. she had a skirt on and he was allll over her..i mean like seriously it made me sick..i had to ask them to stop ...well ...more like i made fun of them til they got the point....

seemed to me that all she was to him was a play thing and he got his jollies off when others would stare at him touching her..he told us on numerous occasions of what a freak she was in bed...i guess the fucker never understood the difference between outdoors and indoors

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

i'm up in the air on this one...

Normally I'm the type to shy away from major PDA's....((kissing and lil' things are ok))...but recently I got a lil' carried away in public....It wasn't too bad...people were around us but I don't know if anyone was really paying any mind....I just couldn't resist though....this bar had such a seductive air about it...

...regardless...I enjoyed it. Not like I'd make a habit of it...but sometimes it's just awesome to lose it...just once in a while...;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by marcid21

i'm up in the air on this one...

Normally I'm the type to shy away from major PDA's....((kissing and lil' things are ok))...but recently I got a lil' carried away in public....It wasn't too bad...people were around us but I don't know if anyone was really paying any mind....I just couldn't resist though....this bar had such a seductive air about it...

...regardless...I enjoyed it. Not like I'd make a habit of it...but sometimes it's just awesome to lose it...just once in a while...;)

I completly agree with you...Sometimes you just get caught up in the moment and....ahhh I'll stop myself here.. :tongue:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by marcid21

i'm up in the air on this one...

Normally I'm the type to shy away from major PDA's....((kissing and lil' things are ok))...but recently I got a lil' carried away in public....It wasn't too bad...people were around us but I don't know if anyone was really paying any mind....I just couldn't resist though....this bar had such a seductive air about it...

...regardless...I enjoyed it. Not like I'd make a habit of it...but sometimes it's just awesome to lose it...just once in a while...;)

i agree....it annoys me to see couples all over each other in public...show respect for everyone else...but hand holding and an occassional kiss and/or hug isn't too bad ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by ghhhhhost

slobbing down someone in public just isnt cool. i duno y..but i tend to stay away from these displays...when i was younger it was different..any place was game...rain shine dark light..didnt matter...i guess when u grow up u start being a bit more considerate of others around u

(SNIP)

i guess the fucker never understood the difference between outdoors and indoors

wow wow wow, wait a second here please

what about exhibitionistic (sp?) girls that ONLY get off on stuff like that? i mean when she´s getting that extra kick of pleasure out of it, fine, i´m game.

"when u grow up u start being a bit more considerate of others around u"?

ummm why do you care about that in the first place? i mean when you´re outside, say in a bar or in a park, you will most likely never see any of those people you meet there again. and even if you do, what will your reputation be like? what will be told about you?

you will be known as a guy that takes what he wants when he wants it, you will be known as the guy that made out with this fingerlicking hot blonde in central park, right in the afternoon.

okay, now let´s wrap it up, what is bad about that? the girls are gonna love you because you are labelled "sexual adventure" from the start. the guys that get some too will respect you and you will immediately be MUCH closer with them. and the guys that get none will be jaleous, perhaps they will badmouth about you, but inside they ENVY and RESPECT you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

hmm, holding hands and k-i-s-s-i-n-g it perfectly fine :makeout: ......like ghhhhhost, i too have had a friend with a hot girl and they would do shit everywhere~and it would get reeealy annoying~as for other couples sometimes i'm not so much annoyed, but JEALOUS...its agravating sometimes to see people touchy :love: feelie in public especially if the girl is attractive.....

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

tastey i see where ur coming from. maybe its just the type of person i am ..im kinda similar to nycchic all the way up there..

im not into all these mushy displays of affection..i dont mind if a girl doesnt hold my hand or gime a kiss..shit i actually enjoy it. i dont have to rape u in the middle of the street so others know ur my woman....i guess my demeanor should just project that im with the individual in question .

i never said that i mind ppl hookin up in bars..heyyyy for all i care go for it...outside is what bothers me i.e. bus stops..parks..parking lots..i duno...just open areas in general. i dont wana sound real mushy and gay but affection is an intimate thing..intimate implies some level of secrecy...and there sure as hell aint no intimacy if ur hookin up Porn Style in the middle of a Shopping Mall

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by tastyt

I'll repeat what Ghhhhhost said... When you *grow up* you become more considerate of others around you.

Don't worry Tastey, you haven't reached that point yet. ;)

aahhh that old "grow up" again. really i was hestitant to post my age here since everything you say will be labelled "immature".

it´s really weak to lead a discussion with that "immature" argument. show me where i am immature and i´m very willing to discuss it. if you see any flaw in my argumentation point it out.

that´s the same as when i would say to every argument of yours "women :rolleyes: " or "it´s just a woman, don´t listen to her, women are way too emotional to get a real grasp on the situation". see i don´t do that, you OTOH constantly bring up that "labelling".

so you would call an exhibitionist immature then? haha okay, I AGREE! YOU ARE RIGHT! HOW COULD I HAVE THOUGHT OTHERWISE?! :rolleyes:

just fuckin with u girl ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by tastey

aahhh that old "grow up" again. really i was hestitant to post my age here since everything you say will be labelled "immature".

Sorry, I couldn't resist- you have to admit that by quoting that sentence from Ghhhhhost, you stepped right into it. :laugh::tongue:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm a big PDA fan..but I have my limits too. Holding hands, kissing, walking arm in arm, standing together talking with arms around each other...they all work for me. Now like the rest of the group here i've seen it taken too far, and with no regrets have taken it too far myself. But that is not a regular thing for me and my girl. Even though we are both highly sexual people I think we know where the line is regarding PDA's.

I read what was written about PDA's in the clubs, and I have to admit that when we are lit up and partying there is a pretty good chance we are going to find an empty bathroom or dark corner booth to have some fun in. Our favorite club has 5 private bathrooms that we have access too which give us the privacy we need sometimes..so that all works out for the best for us alone or when we meet another girl we are attracted to and who is into some partying fun.

Anyway..PDA's are just fine with me........Within limits......Peace

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I agree that there are some situations where its uncalled for.

But most of the time PDA's are simply expressions shared by two sexual beings that have exhibitional tendencies.....maturity has nothing to do with it.

:flame:

"If you do it right....everyone has to sleep in the wet spot."

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh and another thing- if you examine the actual words- Public Display of Affection... not PDS, Public Display of Sexuality... I do think that age, maturity, whatever you want to call it *does* have at least a little bit to do with it. From my experiences anyway, most people tend to be able to control themselves a little better and chill with the public lasciviousness as they get older...

IMO, Exhibitionism can be related, but is not quite the same thing as PDAs...

Again, please disregard all of this when it comes to semi-secluded environments... :D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by tastyt

lasciviousness

lascivious

SYLLABICATION: las·civ·i·ous

PRONUNCIATION: l-sv-s

ADJECTIVE:

1. Given to or expressing lust; lecherous.

2. Exciting sexual desires; salacious.

ETYMOLOGY: Middle English, from Late Latin lascvisus, from Latin lascvia, lewdness, playfulness, from lascvus, lustful, playful. See las- in Appendix I.

OTHER FORMS:

las·civi·ous·ly —ADVERB

las·civi·ous·ness —NOUN

Just for the fact that you used that word:

I LOVE YOU

:PDMI - Public Display of Male Ignorance:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by tastyt

Oh and another thing- if you examine the actual words- Public Display of Affection... not PDS, Public Display of Sexuality... I do think that age, maturity, whatever you want to call it *does* have at least a little bit to do with it. From my experiences anyway, most people tend to be able to control themselves a little better and chill with the public lasciviousness as they get older...

i heard it´s the decreasing libido that´s responsible for that ;)

Again, please disregard all of this when it comes to semi-secluded environments... :D

lol, how cute. she wants to make sure we don´t think she´s a prude ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Originally posted by phatman

Just for the fact that you used that word:

I LOVE YOU

:PDMI - Public Display of Male Ignorance:

VEGAS, HERE WE COME!

the reception --->:beer::dj::party:

PS Tastey, you have approximately 6 hrs and 20 mins to get your digs in before my bday. Enjoy it while you can! :laugh:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

Sign in to follow this  

×