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My take on cheating...last one..

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Then why be in a relationship? Of course there is temptation out there but if you are in a relationship, you should not act upon it and if you do, then break up with the person. Cause if my boyfriend gave me this philosophy, I would tell him he should be single then!!!

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Originally posted by tommyarmani

regarding this whole cheating issue... It should be pointed out that relationships do not exist in a vacuum, meaning they are out there in the real world & a whole host of other variables do come into play. I believe to men, sex is more "physical" while for woman, its more "intimate" OF course this is a broad generalization, so relax. Given this broad statement, I believe that women MAY cheat when their relationship is emotionally unfulfilling or lacking & men on the other hand MAY fuck a girl because she's hot, EVEN if he is completely content in his relationship (if he thinks the risk of getting caught is non existent)..... it also must be pointed out, that for a guy that its much harder to be faithful when he is a "looker" compared to a fat, ugly guy who cant cheat EVEN if he wanted to...

agree 100%

for men sex=sex, for women however it´s sex=love.

there is a stupid macho joke that made me laugh hard because it really hit the mark of the whole sex/love thing

"why do women always want to watch a porno till the end?"

"cause they think the actors are getting married in the end ;) "

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Originally posted by tommyarmani

also isn't it possible to love someone with all your heart, but still FUCK someone else. isn't the concept of monogamy a cultural one that does not transcend all around the world??

But the thing is you are in America and we are expected to be monogamus. And if you are with someone and they expect you to be monogamus, then you should respect that person and be only with them. I'm sorry, temptation is not an excuse. Of course there are always going to be people who are better looking then the one you are with but you should see beyond looks and think about the other person's feelings!

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Originally posted by lollib

we are expected to be monogamus.

disagree here.

i think it is biologically useful to be and remain monogamous WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN, cause then all your energy should flow into your child and your family so you can provide a stable family and background for your child. that is what the monogamous expectations were made for in the first place.

now in a relationship (not marriage) where there are no kids these "rules" do not appy IMO.

also, a relationship should not SUBSTRACT from your your life, it should ADD. a relationship should not be a prison.

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Originally posted by tastey

disagree here.

i think it is biologically useful to be and remain monogamous WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN, cause then all your energy should flow into your child and your family so you can provide a stable family and background for your child. that is what the monogamous expectations were made for in the first place.

now in a relationship (not marriage) where there are no kids these "rules" do not appy IMO.

also, a relationship should not SUBSTRACT from your your life, it should ADD. a relationship should not be a prison.

Well, I just see it differently. Why bother being in a relationship if you are just going to do your own thing anway? I expect my boyfriend to be faithful as he does the same with me. If I wanted to go out and hook up, I wouldnt be with him then. I'm sure if I cheated on him and he found out he wouldnt be too happy about it and would break up with me. And I would do the exact same thing!!!

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Originally posted by tastey

agree 100%

for men sex=sex, for women however it´s sex=love.

for me; sex != love, sex is sex.

if a guy is going to fuck other people besides me i wanna know though. at least give me the choice, i dont want to be blind to the truth & it should be my decision whether i still choose to fuck him after h es fucked another person.

i guess i agree with lollib, if you are going to try to fuck every hot girl you see then why be in a committed relationship???

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Originally posted by lollib

Well, I just see it differently. Why bother being in a relationship if you are just going to do your own thing anway? I expect my boyfriend to be faithful as he does the same with me. If I wanted to go out and hook up, I wouldnt be with him then.

but it´s just sex! no emotions!

sex does NOT equal love!

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Originally posted by tastey

but it´s just sex! no emotions!

sex does NOT equal love!

Umm, yeah, good theory but I dont think so. If my boyfiend gave me that philosophy then I would say see ya, later!!! But you are a guy and I'm a girl so this is going to be a never ending arguement b/t us. Everyone has their own opinion and obviously we will never see eye to eye.

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Originally posted by somebitch

no i meant sex DOESNT equal love. only an idiot would think just because you fuck someone love is there. [/quote

Oh yes, I know that too but I just dont think that should be a valid reason for my boyfriend to sleep with someone else. Besides, there are too many diseases floating around out there!!!

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Originally posted by tommyarmani

no, i see your point, but what i mean is that if its not planned out & it happens in the heat of passion....what if the temptation is too great??

That is a crack of shit. Temptation is too great. Come on you can control it. WHen it "is to great" how about thinking of your girl...... if you really loved her and cared you'd stop............ or not even let it get to that point.

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Originally posted by tommyarmani

hypothecially speaking, what would the average man do if he came home one night & found carmen electra & pamela anderson in his bed wanting to fuck him, BUT he is in a committed relationship?? i think the average guy given the opportunity is as faithful as his OPTIONS allow him to & would plow them like snow..

Realistically speaking that woud never happen.

Realistic is a cute/hott girl at a club, says take me home.............

Men are so weak..............

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Please spare us... you are only trying to justify your behavior. Yes, monogamy is only a cultural thing, but guess what? If you led your partner to believe that you were going to be faithful to her and her alone, then you have broken that promise. Unless you COMMUNICATED with her in advance that you are only as faithful as your options- you've fucked up big time. Accept it. Don't try to justify your transgression to make yourself feel better. And I truly hope you're not using these excuses on your girl because that's only going to hurt her a million times more than you already have.

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Originally posted by tommyarmani

the purpose of the term hypothetichally was to show that some men are faithful because they dont have the opportunity to cheat...

i know its not realistic..silly..."NOW go get your fuckin shine box"

Your a pig Admit it .......... Oink Oink....................

:D

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Originally posted by tommyarmani

QUOTE]Originally posted by lollib

Obviously tommyarmani, if you didnt think what you did anything wrong, you wouldnt have to write a post trying to justify what you did!!!

you are exactly right, i was seeing how my "justifications" would hold up & they didnt do too well ;)

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