stogiey2k2 Posted August 28 Report Share Posted August 28 A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on whatthey look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. Theyare most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or otherhairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after awoman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for womenwho's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carryscissors around to cut clothing.They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through theirpurse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guardand can be easily overpowered.The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is inthe early morning, between 5 & 8:30 a.m.The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at isgrocery store parking lots.Number two is office parking lots/garages.Number three is public restrooms.The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman andquickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worryabout getting caught.Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 yearsentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged becauseit only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after youisn't worth it because it will be time-consuming. These men said theywouldnot pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can beused from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent becauseyou have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon.So the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with youin an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it isso cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their faceand could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you andyell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'dleave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraidto fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it andcarries it with him wherever he goes), yelling "I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY"and holding it out will be a deterrent.If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can byoutsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or intheupper inner thigh HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him sheused the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and wasso upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands -- the guyneeded stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as youcan stand it; it hurts.After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularlyunfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremelypainful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want tohurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that theywant a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bendthem back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on themas possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of yoursurroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any oddbehavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a littlesilly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO ANY WOMAN YOU KNOW,IT'S SIMPLE STUFF COULD SAVE A LIFE. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunnyhost Posted August 28 Report Share Posted August 28 Thank you....we hear about this stuff and the facts that you put up all the time...but it can never be enough times I think! Thanks again;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stogiey2k2 Posted August 28 Author Report Share Posted August 28 Originally posted by sunnyhost Thank you....we hear about this stuff and the facts that you put up all the time...but it can never be enough times I think! Thanks again;) Your Welcome! As long as peeps read it that is all that matters.NO Thank U, Jorge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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