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thought on this...

i HATE jealousy in full-blown mode...but personally, i think a LITTLE bit of jealousy is healthy and shows that you care...not flipping out-type, but just that little twinge, you know?

**and p.s. hooray for me, it is my 1500th post :):bounce:

I have been waiting for this day for a really long time and now it has finally come true. oh wow, now I am finally cool!!

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Originally posted by suthrnbelle

thought on this...

i HATE jealousy in full-blown mode...but personally, i think a LITTLE bit of jealousy is healthy and shows that you care...not flipping out-type, but just that little twinge, you know?

**and p.s. hooray for me, it is my 1500th post :):bounce:

whatta geek

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...i used to say jealousy was a manifestation of insecurity...but i'd be a big fat liar if i said i didnt possess this trait...to some extent at least...idk when i'm with my girly, i maintain a little possessiveness...not a lot...just a healthy bout of it...and this translates into a healthy dose of jealousy as stated above by belle...only problem is, no girly to speak of right now, so sometimes i get jealous of myself...?...!...

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Originally posted by phatman

...i used to say jealousy was a manifestation of insecurity...but i'd be a big fat liar if i said i didnt possess this trait...to some extent at least...idk when i'm with my girly, i maintain a little possessiveness...not a lot...just a healthy bout of it...and this translates into a healthy dose of jealousy as stated above by belle...only problem is, no girly to speak of right now, so sometimes i get jealous of myself...?...!...

exactly :) when you get down here, you can be jealous with me ;)

and thanks Dknybabe :D i am glad to see that what i was thinking actually made sense, lol.

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Originally posted by suthrnbelle

I have been waiting for this day for a really long time and now it has finally come true. oh wow, now I am finally cool!!

thanks for helping me articulate my true feelings and adding this bit, gabo, lol :rolleyes:

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Jealously in full blown mode is just ridiculous and exaggerated. A little though is cute and in a way it does show me that the guy cares. I agree I think its healthy to be a little jealous too, as long as it doesnt go overboard. btw congrats suthrnbelle on the 1500:tongue:

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My girlfriend is not into clubbing and she doesnt like the same kinds of music that i like, so sometimes she gets really worried because i'll go out clubbing and come home like mid-day the next day. She tells me that this kind of lifestyle is for single people only and that all you do at these places is try to pick up the opposite sex...Now, that may be true at some venues, but I mean...how many of you pick up girls at Vinyl..i mean really....I'm now in the process of trying to get her to come out one night to show her that its not all what she has in her head (desperate guys skirt chasing and trying to get laid quick). Blah, wish me luck!

Joe

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yesterday i got guilty of jaleousy too, and i hate it.

i was out with my current primary (4 months and counting, knew her some time before we got together too) and a couple of friends and she flirted bad with that one guy while i was sitting about 5 m away. okay, i was talking with a girl too, but i wasn´t flirting, i was just socialising. not giving kisses on the cheeks and playful hits and giving that "doggy dinner bowl" look and the flirting like things. see, she has a lot of guys talking to her as she´s pretty attractive and i´m used to it, but i also know her bodylanguage in detail (body language NEVER lies), so i can tell pretty good when she´s got something on her mind with this guy or not. i got really pissed, to the point of where i considered getting up and getting myself another girl right there and leaving with her.

i told her later that i didn´t like that AT ALL, and that when she was out with me, she was out with me, period. i told her that i didn´t like the feeling and that she knows that i put distance between things that make me feel bad.

that was stupid and senseless to tell her, but i was pretty drunk so i didn´t really think about it then. it was senseless cause if something will happen, it will happen behind my back anyway. i have fucked so many chicks with boyfriends that it isn´t funny any more and i through that i lost my believe in faithfulness a long time ago.

what brings me to the conclusion: a monogamous relationship doesn´t work for me. a relationship where you are just together with one girl doesn´t work, as as a result, you care too much about this one girl. you need at least 2 girls, better 3. that way, jaleousy is not a matter to you as you then have other girls you can rely on.

i really disliked the feeling, and as is said above, i do not want nor intend to be in contact with matters that make me feel bad. it is now 0:20 and i didn´t intend to go out today as i´m pretty tired, but i think i´ll go out later anyway and get myself a new, additional girl.

anyway, thanks for listening and if you have any opinions or comments, let me know...

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Originally posted by tastey

yesterday i got guilty of jaleousy too, and i hate it.

i was out with my current primary (4 months and counting, knew her some time before we got together too) and a couple of friends and she flirted bad with that one guy while i was sitting about 5 m away. okay, i was talking with a girl too, but i wasn´t flirting, i was just socialising. not giving kisses on the cheeks and playful hits and giving that "doggy dinner bowl" look and the flirting like things. see, she has a lot of guys talking to her as she´s pretty attractive and i´m used to it, but i also know her bodylanguage in detail (body language NEVER lies), so i can tell pretty good when she´s got something on her mind with this guy or not. i got really pissed, to the point of where i considered getting up and getting myself another girl right there and leaving with her.

i told her later that i didn´t like that AT ALL, and that when she was out with me, she was out with me, period. i told her that i didn´t like the feeling and that she knows that i put distance between things that make me feel bad.

that was stupid and senseless to tell her, but i was pretty drunk so i didn´t really think about it then. it was senseless cause if something will happen, it will happen behind my back anyway. i have fucked so many chicks with boyfriends that it isn´t funny any more and i through that i lost my believe in faithfulness a long time ago.

what brings me to the conclusion: a monogamous relationship doesn´t work for me. a relationship where you are just together with one girl doesn´t work, as as a result, you care too much about this one girl. you need at least 2 girls, better 3. that way, jaleousy is not a matter to you as you then have other girls you can rely on.

i really disliked the feeling, and as is said above, i do not want nor intend to be in contact with matters that make me feel bad. it is now 0:20 and i didn´t intend to go out today as i´m pretty tired, but i think i´ll go out later anyway and get myself a new, additional girl.

anyway, thanks for listening and if you have any opinions or comments, let me know...

did you have issues with monogamy as a child? were your parents doing the same thing when they were young or when you were a child? there has to be a good reason why you feel this way, and i don't think your attitude is healthy, it's practical sure in some ways....but not healthy.

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Originally posted by suthrnbelle

thought on this...

i HATE jealousy in full-blown mode...but personally, i think a LITTLE bit of jealousy is healthy and shows that you care...not flipping out-type, but just that little twinge, you know?

**and p.s. hooray for me, it is my 1500th post :):bounce:

I have been waiting for this day for a really long time and now it has finally come true. oh wow, now I am finally cool!!

i agree, i am not jealous really...if a guy is not content with my company and does not want to keep his hands and eyes off of other girls...fine, be with them. my attitude is that it's ok to look (we are all human after all) but when you cross the boundaries and attempt to talk/flirt/touch someone, then i'll get pissed off, not jealous. jealously is a weak emotion. it makes you feel insecure,and i hate feeling insecure.

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Originally posted by sassa

did you have issues with monogamy as a child? were your parents doing the same thing when they were young or when you were a child? there has to be a good reason why you feel this way, and i don't think your attitude is healthy, it's practical sure in some ways....but not healthy.

nah, my parents are "normal" people, still married (going for 30 years now). my attitude develloped through contact with girls (MANY girls), observing relationships, getting into how to make girls fall for you, "hunting" in clubs, studying psychology in my free time, etc.

i don´t undestand why it should not be healthy. i dislike feeling bad, so i do what i have to do to make my life good and to make me feel good.

basic psychology principle: people ALWAYS either move away from something that causes them pain or more towards something that gives them pleasure.

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Originally posted by sassa

i agree, i am not jealous really...if a guy is not content with my company and does not want to keep his hands and eyes off of other girls...fine, be with them. my attitude is that it's ok to look (we are all human after all) but when you cross the boundaries and attempt to talk/flirt/touch someone, then i'll get pissed off, not jealous. jealously is a weak emotion. it makes you feel insecure,and i hate feeling insecure.

exactly my point. not as extreme as my girls can talk to any guy they want but flirt/touch is out of the question for me, ESPECIALLY when i´m around.

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Originally posted by tastey

nah, my parents are "normal" people, still married (going for 30 years now). my attitude develloped through contact with girls (MANY girls), observing relationships, getting into how to make girls fall for you, "hunting" in clubs, studying psychology in my free time, etc.

i don´t undestand why it should not be healthy. i dislike feeling bad, so i do what i have to do to make my life good and to make me feel good.

basic psychology principle: people ALWAYS either move away from something that causes them pain or more towards something that gives them pleasure.

i say it is not healthy because it seems to me that most human beings want to be appreciated, to be loved...to be lusted after...and if you are swapping people left and right....it seems that you are missing out on these things...to know what it is like to look at someone and know that you have made a commitment with them, to love and honor only them...or maybe i am too old fashioned... i don't know.

if you're fine with your life, i have no reason to say anything, but i do wish that you will experience true love one day and see what it is like...having 3 girlfriends is any guy's dream, i know, but love...is another thing equally wonderful.

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