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Originally posted by t0nythelover

especially when they come from guys. but seriously i just smile and say thank you, but some people get pissed like they expect something from you. whats up with that?

by "expecting something from you," do you mean when people compliment you just to get one in return?
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Originally posted by t0nythelover

after a compliment they just stare at you like waiting for something...

sometimes people want to know that you've heard them and believe them, they want you to know that they're not just bullshitting. you giving them a response lets them know that you've accepted the compliment as something valid and not just insincere words.

my mom, for instance, gets really frustrated when i blow off her compliments. i generally say that she'll just say she likes things i do because i'm her daughter - that she can't be impartial. this annoys her because she thinks i'm saying that she doesn't have a mind of her own or an opinion that counts. my considering her compliments as coming from fair actual evaluation or feeling shows that i respect her.

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Originally posted by weyes

sometimes people want to know that you've heard them and believe them, they want you to know that they're not just bullshitting. you giving them a response lets them know that you've accepted the compliment as something valid and not just insincere words.

my mom, for instance, gets really frustrated when i blow off her compliments. i generally say that she'll just say she likes things i do because i'm her daughter - that she can't be impartial. this annoys her because she thinks i'm saying that she doesn't have a mind of her own or an opinion that counts. my considering her compliments as coming from fair actual evaluation or feeling shows that i respect her.

that was a very well-written post. :heart:

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