sweetie029 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 If you were in a serious relationship & your partner came clean to you & said they cheated is it something you would ABSOLUTELY NOT tolerate...or because you care for the person would you try to work it out ?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnice35 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by sweetie029 If you were in a serious relationship & your partner came clean to you & said they cheated is it something you would ABSOLUTELY NOT tolerate...or because you care for the person would you try to work it out ?? If he/she confessed, It shows they have a concience and respect you enough NOT to lie. So.... yeah, unless it bothers you so much that you bring it up everytime u fight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrmatas2277 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 damn...good question....i will say that i wont tolerate it....i am not second plate to anyone, i should be the only person she should be having "relations" with...but then again i havent met THE ONE that would make me change my stance, but if that person WAS THE ONE...she would not have cheated on me... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meli2444 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 I WOULD NOT TOLERATE IT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. THE WAY I SEE IT IS IF THEY REALLY LOVED ME, THEN THEY WOULDN'T CHEAT ON ME. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 If they come clean, it means they can't deal with the guilt. Maybe they do care about you and don't want "hurt" you anymore than they have.... It's a hard call, it totally depends on the two people involed...Was it one night, one month, one year... Can yo honestly say you forgive and not use it as blackmail or to pick a fight. Some people can get over it and move one, some people hold on to as their reason for unhappiness.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnice35 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 It all depends when it was done too, what if it happened at the begining and you are ..... lets say 2-3 years into the relationship? would you blow it for a mistake done so long ago? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnice35 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by SPYGIRL2 If they come clean, it means they can't deal with the guilt. Maybe they do care about you and don't want "hurt" you anymore than they have.... It's a hard call, it totally depends on the two people involed...Was it one night, one month, one year... Can yo honestly say you forgive and not use it as blackmail or to pick a fight. Some people can get over it and move one, some people hold on to as their reason for unhappiness.... I totally agree with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by dnice35 I totally agree with you. Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Good points, Spy and Dnice... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrmatas2277 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by dnice35 I totally agree with you. Originally posted by SPYGIRL2Thank you GET A ROOM U TWO!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by mrmatas2277 GET A ROOM U TWO!!!! You want in on it??????...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturephunk Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 . . . coming clean, like cheating is just another act of self-gratification . . . . . . should not be forgiven . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heatherlynn Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 are worth forgiving. even cheating...... take all things and circumstances into consideration. i've had clouded judgement a time or two myself. it takes a better person to admit their mistakes and REGRETS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ou812 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 I make it very clear from the outset with a girl that I will NEVER cheat on them, because I won't. I tell them straight out, I would sooner come to you and tell you "Look, I can't do this anymore, I can't be faithful, we should break up". I've not had the need to do that yet though.............basically, I'd expect the same in return, so if they break that trust, even if they come clean after the fact...............see ya latah alligatah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted November 21 Author Report Share Posted November 21 IDK....If the person came clean & fessed up it MIGHT make it a little easier to forgive & move on...but by doing that you ultimately put yourself in a vulnerable position....setting yourself up to have something like this happen AGAIN...I would probably be able to forgive the person...but not be able to continue with the relationship...just end it on good terms Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabo Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 how about this... what if you found out that your partner was cheating, they didnt even tell you about it you had to find out for yourself..... would you forgive them then? thats what happened to me and i still forgave her. I was young and stupid, so was she. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vikkii123 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by gabo how about this... what if you found out that your partner was cheating, they didnt even tell you about it you had to find out for yourself..... would you forgive them then? thats what happened to me and i still forgave her. I was young and stupid, so was she. Ya that happened to me too... and I forgave as well.. only to be cheated on again... so I ended it and it's a good thing I did.. cause I found out after it was over that he was cheating on me with a bunch of different girls And now he's got a new girl and he's starting to do it to her too.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by ou812 I make it very clear from the outset with a girl that I will NEVER cheat on them, because I won't. I tell them straight out, I would sooner come to you and tell you "Look, I can't do this anymore, I can't be faithful, we should break up". I've not had the need to do that yet though.............basically, I'd expect the same in return, so if they break that trust, even if they come clean after the fact...............see ya latah alligatah. That's my theory, if you have to even think about cheating, then end it with the person you are with. No one likes to be made a fool of, on purpose or by accident.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrmatas2277 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by ou812 I make it very clear from the outset with a girl that I will NEVER cheat on them, because I won't. I tell them straight out, I would sooner come to you and tell you "Look, I can't do this anymore, I can't be faithful, we should break up". I've not had the need to do that yet though.............basically, I'd expect the same in return, so if they break that trust, even if they come clean after the fact...............see ya latah alligatah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by gabo how about this... what if you found out that your partner was cheating, they didnt even tell you about it you had to find out for yourself..... would you forgive them then?thats what happened to me and i still forgave her. I was young and stupid, so was she. Maybe she was just stupid for ruining a good thing...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by vikkii123 Ya that happened to me too... and I forgave as well.. only to be cheated on again... so I ended it and it's a good thing I did.. cause I found out after it was over that he was cheating on me with a bunch of different girls And now he's got a new girl and he's starting to do it to her too.. that is exactly how it works... thats why i say dont forgive for cheating. i think only a sucker or someone really down on themself would forgive someone who cheated on them, i dont care how much you "love" the person, if they cared they wouldnt have done it. why be in a relationship if youre gonna cheat, just be fuck buddies, thats how i see it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted November 21 Author Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by gabo how about this... what if you found out that your partner was cheating, they didnt even tell you about it you had to find out for yourself..... would you forgive them then? thats what happened to me and i still forgave her. I was young and stupid, so was she. Thats not cool If your gonna fuck up like that at least come clean with it...but people do come to moments of weakness & fall prey to temptation...but own up to what you do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrmatas2277 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by vikkii123 Ya that happened to me too... and I forgave as well.. only to be cheated on again... so I ended it and it's a good thing I did.. cause I found out after it was over that he was cheating on me with a bunch of different girlsthats why i say end it....what if they guy she is cheating with is having unprotected fun with other chics...and something is passed to ur partner...then she brings it to u? thats just one reason of ending things...forgiving? yea, with time...but i end that mess real quick....once u cheat, that person has lost respect for the relationship...and it should be terminated Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vikkii123 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by mrmatas2277 thats why i say end it....what if they guy she is cheating with is having unprotected fun with other chics...and something is passed to ur partner...then she brings it to u? thats just one reason of ending things...forgiving? yea, with time...but i end that mess real quick....once u cheat, that person has lost respect for the relationship...and it should be terminated I totally agree... I mean you live and you learn.. and I've learned never to forgive a cheater!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnice35 Posted November 21 Report Share Posted November 21 Originally posted by somebitch that is exactly how it works... thats why i say dont forgive for cheating. i think only a sucker or someone really down on themself would forgive someone who cheated on them, i dont care how much you "love" the person, if they cared they wouldnt have done it. why be in a relationship if youre gonna cheat, just be fuck buddies, thats how i see it. Once again what if it happened at the begining of a relationship, and lets say you are a few years into it? I mean would you break up for something that happened years before? what if they cheated on you and they were not in love with you at the time., But now you are both "In love"? that would be a tough situation. Personally I believe in forgiveness. After all no one is perfect.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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