marcid21 Posted January 22 Report Share Posted January 22 . . . in relationships?Are you able to forgive actions / words that hurt you? Do you hold the grudge for a lil' while, and let it slide.......or do you hang onto it in the back of your mind...never letting it fade away... and always rekindling it when the going gets tough? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
totallytrance Posted January 22 Report Share Posted January 22 I forgive a lot even for something that I should not but when I'm in love I just can't help it.....but I think sometimes people take advantage of that.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nympho69 Posted January 22 Report Share Posted January 22 i can forgive certain thingshowever if i draw the lines and they are crossedits over Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnice35 Posted January 22 Report Share Posted January 22 Mostly I let alot of shit slide, but if its something that hurt me alot, It will always linger in the back of my head and from time to time it might resurface...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassa Posted January 22 Report Share Posted January 22 Originally posted by nympho69 i can forgive certain thingshowever if i draw the lines and they are crossedits over bravo, same here if someone knows your limits and proceeds to cross them anyways, then that means they don't have as much respect for you as you'd like them to. in this case, they can go to hell, and there are so many other people in the world, surely one of them will be more respectful not to cross these lines. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nycmuzik Posted January 22 Report Share Posted January 22 Break my trust and its pretty much impossible to get it back...Everything else I'm willing to forgive a person for, granted it might take some time...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scaredgirl Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by marcid21 . . . in relationships?Are you able to forgive actions / words that hurt you? Do you hold the grudge for a lil' while, and let it slide.......or do you hang onto it in the back of your mind...never letting it fade away... and always rekindling it when the going gets tough? mmmmmmmmmmm a little of everything i forgive u but I NEVER FORGET , is not like i will have it in my mind all the time , i live it with me to warn my self so i ill be careful of what may happend next ...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kelly0616 Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 If the person I feel is worth forgiving.....and means alot to me i would be more inclined to forgive. However, there are definately certain lines that may not be crossed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gothzane Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 People change their mindsets far too quickly to properly judge their complete character by a single moment. Sure you may take into consideration that in that particular moment they displayed a certain undesirable trait which may have caused and even less desirable effect....and now you become aware of that unwanted potential...But the truth of the matter is....we all have our moment when we are upset or rubed the wrong way and we were at our worst....should we be judged by that instant? or by our overall worthyness?....then again....who has the right to judge us?All in all....if a person displays a momentary undesirable trait that is not part of his or her overall charatcer...I believe they are well within deservence to correct themselves if in fact they are even aware that they have offended or made some form of error in the first place...:domo"What reason do you hold on to the mistakes of others when your faults have already sliped by your awareness?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
njdionysus Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by marcid21 . . . in relationships?Are you able to forgive actions / words that hurt you? I will not fight, dont have the time or negative energy for it. If it comes to that, my 'tude is like... whats on your mind and how can we fix it. Life is too short to waste it fighting with your sig other! Words can be forgotten, but actions last a lifetime. I still remember when I was in college and my girlfriend tried to run me over with her car, psycho! The one thing I cannot forgive is breaking trust, once she goes that far, its hard to move on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psychosweetie Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by marcid21 . . . in relationships?Are you able to forgive actions / words that hurt you? Do you hold the grudge for a lil' while, and let it slide.......or do you hang onto it in the back of your mind...never letting it fade away... and always rekindling it when the going gets tough? I definitely forgive when I'm in love b/c I'm a sucker, but I never forget! Sometimes I wish I could, b/c it would probably be easier, but I just cant. Things always hang in the back of my mind, and unfortunately NEVER fade it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghhhhhost Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 im like our lil mexican buddy up there...i never ever ever forget...and i will make sure u know i havent forgotten..'cause ill throw it in ur face every now and then....on the other hand..i 4give easily..and let ppl take advantage of me..but once ive been wronged..its tough to get me back Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nSyNcBaBy Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 i tend to be a lil too forgiving. sometimes it bites me in the ass because that just lets people take advantage of me more... but ... ive learned the hard way a couple times that i have to draw the line somewhere. and now i do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 like nympho i draw the lines beforehand. if they are crossed it´s over.however there are hard lines and soft lines. if a soft line is crossed i make it depend on if there was another soft line crossed in the past whether i want to continue or not.if decide to continue the relationship the girl will at least be "punished" though. meaning: taking something away that she likes (cuddling and chilling with her whole sunday, going to places with her, whatever it is that she really values (this includes sex)) for a limited time to show her that when she´s with me, she either gets in line or gets NONE of the special treatment Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Petty shit I let go...there's no use in holding a grudge...But if it's something that crosses the line in my eyes...Then expect to be on your way....I respect others boundaries & limitations & if someone can't do that for me...They are a waste of time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by ghhhhhost im like our lil mexican buddy up there...i never ever ever forget...and i will make sure u know i havent forgotten..'cause ill throw it in ur face every now and then....on the other hand..i 4give easily..and let ppl take advantage of me..but once ive been wronged..its tough to get me back Shit... that describes me to a tee... I definitely have a bad habit of letting people walk all over me... but once I've reached my breaking point, fuck you cuz there ain't go going back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nSyNcBaBy Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by tastyt Shit... that describes me to a tee... I definitely have a bad habit of letting people walk all over me... but once I've reached my breaking point, fuck you cuz there ain't go going back. tru- ill give myself some credit there... that i might have that problem sometimes too, but once u crossed me and i made up my mind about it, then good luck tryin to get back in Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 I think i'm way too forgiving, i try to talk things out and work through it. I wont forget though. I give people way too many chances, but once those chances are blown, then you're out of my life, no regrets on my part for your stupidity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by destiny779 I think i'm way too forgiving, i try to talk things out and work through it. I wont forget though. I give people way too many chances, but once those chances are blown, then you're out of my life, no regrets on my part for your stupidity. I am also way to forgiving. I hate holding grudges... Actually the one I am in right now with a friend of mine is the longest I have held one. And that is just because I am so sick of shit that has been going on. But other than that. It is so much easier to forgive and forget. Why hold a grudge. Tomorrow may never come... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timetraveler69 Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by marcid21 . . . in relationships?Are you able to forgive actions / words that hurt you? Do you hold the grudge for a lil' while, and let it slide.......or do you hang onto it in the back of your mind...never letting it fade away... and always rekindling it when the going gets tough? I am a mix of the last two. One of my flaws. I just can't get over things easily. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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