What would you do...

[georgym]

Im not quite sure how to explain this, but here goes...

I found out a few years ago that my brother *most likely* is gay. I found this out by A) finding pictures of bare-chested guys on the computer, meeting his guy friends that came over, C) he collects Heubachs. Now the last one doesn't necessarily mean he's gay, but it's something to consider.

Now i was over my friends' boss' place this past weekend, and you know how you can see the most recent websites visited by clicking on the url arrow? Well, the most recent ones on his computer were all maleonmale.com, gayetc...

Plus, he kinda acts gay in his mannerisms, and a coworker that i work with who also worked with the guy has asked me if he is.

Now even though the guy has 3 children and has been married, it doesn't mean he's still gay. Another co-worker of mine said he knew an associate who was 51 when he "came out".

My question is: do i let my friend know that i saw those url's on the computer at their vacation home, or do i just let it all play out?

Thanks

[petp]

if the guy has kids and is married i wouldnt want to mess around with that. id keep my mouth shut and let it all play out however it may.

[phatman]

Originally posted by gmccookny

My question is: do i let my friend know that i saw those url's on the computer at their vacation home, or do i just let it all play out?

:nono:

...mind your busines...its your friend's boss...not husband, brother, etc...and even if it was, sometimes its best to let things play themselves out...'sides, you dont know enough to really make that call...what if someone else was using the computer..what if the wife knows and they have an "understanding"...etc...etc....

..get your nose out of there and move on...

[nympho69]

Originally posted by phatman

:nono:

...mind your busines...its your friend's boss...not husband, brother, etc...and even if it was, sometimes its best to let things play themselves out...'sides, you dont know enough to really make that call...what if someone else was using the computer..what if the wife knows and they have an "understanding"...etc...etc....

..get your nose out of there and move on...

i agree

whose to say it wasnt one of the kids??

anyways u shouldnt have been snooping

and uncovering this finding, might uncover shit u really didnt expect...

[nympho69]

i have a question

did u then continue to look at the sites urself???

[DANCEdeep]

Originally posted by gmccookny

I found out a few years ago that my brother *most likely* is gay. I found this out by...... C) he collects Heubachs. Now the last one doesn't necessarily mean he's gay, but it's something to consider.

about your friend, I would say something. But be ready for a range of reactions. He may get pissed off that you even looked at his computer ("why'd you even bother to look at my comps history?"...invading privacy), he may get offended that you think he's gay, or he may break down and think or even say, "thank god"...some relief...some support.

Always a possibility is that he clicked on a link and this gay site came up or it was sent to his email and he looked at it not knowing what it was.

I had a friend that ohhhhhhhhmyyyyyyyyygooooooood seemed gay...EVERYTHING...he "talked" gay and just fit the stereotype. He absolutely loved madonna...vogue was a fav of his (hmmmm ??). One thing that was weird about him was that he would say faggety sayings like, "talk to the hand 'cause the mouth ain't movin'." But he dated girls etc. etc. Last year, at age 24, he let everyone know the truth. Now he looooooooooooooooooooveeeeeeeees wearing skin-tight-gay-boy-shirts. Point is, doesn't matter how old you are..if you're gay, you're gay.

[georgym]

First of all, i wasn't snooping. He let me use his computer, and when you type a web page, those sites just come up anyway cuz they are the most recently visited.

And im just looking out. I wasn't going to just come out and tell his son. Im not that brash.

I appreciate your responses, but don't make it out like im some snoop

[georgym]

Originally posted by nympho69

i have a question

did u then continue to look at the sites urself???

I have a question.

When they were offering a life, did you purchase one?

[DANCEdeep]

Originally posted by nympho69

i have a question

did u then continue to look at the sites urself???

[phatman]

Originally posted by gmccookny

First of all, i wasn't snooping. He let me use his computer, and when you type a web page, those sites just come up anyway cuz they are the most recently visited.

And im just looking out. I wasn't going to just come out and tell his son. Im not that brash.

I appreciate your responses, but don't make it out like im some snoop

...george...between the stories of your brother and this, it DOES appear that you are a bit of a snooper...maybe not to the degree that it appears...but you probably got a little hint of something and dug a bit...it's ok to admit that, most of us would do the same...

BUT

...more importantly, you will appear to be a snoop and a meddler if you say anything to your friend...let it go man...let it go...

[georgym]

Originally posted by phatman

...george...between the stories of your brother and this, it DOES appear that you are a bit of a snooper...maybe not to the degree that it appears...but you probably got a little hint of something and dug a bit...it's ok to admit that, most of us would do the same...

BUT

...more importantly, you will appear to be a snoop and a meddler if you say anything to your friend...let it go man...let it go...

I am going to let it go, phat.

But if you were at your friends house, and found gay sites on his computer, NOT b/c you were snooping, but b/c they were the most recently visited sites, wouldn't you wonder?

It's not even that im digging.... i have better things to do with my life, like protect my dick from getting cut by a certain "dictator".

So i will let it go~~~

[phatman]

...that's what i was saying...I would wonder..but that would be the extent of it...trust me, i got a big mouth and would have a hard time biting my tongue....but that's what i would do...

[georgym]

Originally posted by phatman

...that's what i was saying...I would wonder..but that would be the extent of it...trust me, i got a big mouth and would have a hard time biting my tongue....but that's what i would do...

And that's what im going to do too.

When it happened to my brother, that's one thing. But with another family, i'll just let it be

[nympho69]

Originally posted by gmccookny

I am going to let it go, phat.

But if you were at your friends house, and found gay sites on his computer, NOT b/c you were snooping, but b/c they were the most recently visited sites, wouldn't you wonder?

It's not even that im digging.... i have better things to do with my life, like protect my dick from getting cut by a certain "dictator".

So i will let it go~~~

:laugh:

well like i said before what if it isnt the dad and its one of the son's???

or what if it was the wife looking at that shit?

sometimes i look at gay porn...

bottom line people should come out of the closet when they feel like it, not cause someone was snooping around in their room and opened the door...

[nympho69]

Originally posted by gmccookny

I have a question.

When they were offering a life, did you purchase one?

man i wasnt even trying to be funny, i was asking a serious question

and did u ever think the next person that uses the computer will come across the site and wonder why u were looking at those sites urself

now would u like them to go to ur gf or whatever and say hey gmc was at my house and when i logged on after him i saw all these gay sites he visited, i think he's gay

now now, wouldnt that be a dumb thing for someone to do

[georgym]

Originally posted by nympho69

:laugh:

well like i said before what if it isnt the dad and its one of the son's???

or what if it was the wife looking at that shit?

sometimes i look at gay porn...

bottom line people should come out of the closet when they feel like it, not cause someone was snooping around in their room and opened the door...

The husband is a widow

1 son is getting engaged, the other has a girlfriend.

But i will agree that they might have just been browsing, or accidentally come across it.

And listen, im not trying to FORCE anyone to come out of the closet. It was a simple question, requesting a simple respone. Do you always have to let things spiral out of control

[rdancer]

could have been pop-ups. But if it wasn't then I still wouldn't say anything to anyone. M.Y.O.B unless you want to get a blackeye !

[georgym]

Originally posted by nympho69

man i wasnt even trying to be funny, i was asking a serious question

and did u ever think the next person that uses the computer will come across the site and wonder why u were looking at those sites urself

now would u like them to go to ur gf or whatever and say hey gmc was at my house and when i logged on after him i saw all these gay sites he visited, i think he's gay

now now, wouldnt that be a dumb thing for someone to do

Well, with you i never know if it's a joke or if it's real.

And actually, i left my aim name and password on at this guys house, and he was pretending to be me with some of my friends.

then my friends said "why did you curse and act like a fool", when it wasn't me!

So yeah, i wouldn't like someone to abuse their priviledges and snoop around my shit.

But when you're just using someone's computer, and these sites just pop up out of nowhere, you can't deny you'd be a little curious as to why they are there --

[tastyt]

Wait, I'm confused... you think your friend, or your friend's boss, is gay? And which one is married???

[georgym]

Originally posted by rdancer

could have been pop-ups. But if it wasn't then I still wouldn't say anything to anyone. M.Y.O.B unless you want to get a blackeye !

Gotcha

its none of my business, so i'll let it slide

[georgym]

Originally posted by tastyt

Wait, I'm confused... you think your friend, or your friend's boss, is gay? And which one is married???

friends' boss.

And a co-worker of mine who worked with him (law firms often exchange employees) asked me if THAT GUY was gay.

So naturally, it just makes me wonder. But that doesn't mean i'd act on it

[tastyt]

In that case, fuck it. No need to concern yourself w/ the business of someone you barely know.

[nympho69]

Originally posted by gmccookny

The husband is a widow

1 son is getting engaged, the other has a girlfriend.

But i will agree that they might have just been browsing, or accidentally come across it.

And listen, im not trying to FORCE anyone to come out of the closet. It was a simple question, requesting a simple respone. Do you always have to let things spiral out of control

ur accusing me of letting things spiral out of control???

by considering to approach someone about their sexuality from some internet use, well thats letting things spiral way out of control

plus u dont even know who it was that was looking at the sites??

and by accusing someoen of being gay that is in fact forcing them out of the closet

anyways u never answered my initial question

did u look at the sites urself??

[somebitch]

whats this got to do with your brother?

[georgym]

Originally posted by nympho69

ur accusing me of letting things spiral out of control???

by considering to approach someone about their sexuality from some internet use, well thats letting things spiral way out of control

plus u dont even know who it was that was looking at the sites??

and by accusing someoen of being gay that is in fact forcing them out of the closet

anyways u never answered my initial question

did u look at the sites urself??

No i didn't.

And i base my opinion on more than just "internet" Do you hear anything i've said before?/

1) MY COWORKER WORKED WITH HIM, AND ASKED ME IF HE'S GAY

2) HE TALKS SOMEWHAT GAY, AND HIS MANNERISMS CAN BE CONSTRUED IN A GAY WAY

i know these are only minor things, but that's how it started with my brother, and he turned out to be gay. But that's my brother, i love him no matter what. Im not going to interfere with another family like that.