tommyarmani Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 My girlfriend wants to have a 3some with another girl & I'm reluctant because I find it hard to believe that the effects of her watching me have intercourse with another girl would not be detrimental to us. I mean wouldn’t that bother her in some way & stick in her head at all times. Maybe im just looking at it from how I would feel if I was her. Has anyone or anyone you know had one w/out bad repercussions? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabo Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 Originally posted by tommyarmani My girlfriend wants to have a 3some with another girl & I'm reluctant because I find it hard to believe that the effects of her watching me have intercourse with another girl would not be detrimental to us. I mean wouldn’t that bother her in some way & stick in her head at all times. Maybe im just looking at it from how I would feel if I was her. Has anyone or anyone you know had one w/out bad repercussions? I guess there are guys out there... guys that think with their brain and not their dick all the time. good for you! youre a better man than i am Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 Maybe you don't have to have intercourse with the other girl, just make out and have fun with the both of them at the same time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabo Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 Originally posted by gmccookny Maybe you don't have to have intercourse with the other girl, just make out and have fun with the both of them at the same time yea but kissing will lead to more kissing and that will lead to touching and we all know how it will end up. I couldnt resist 2 naked women going at it right in front of me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 Bad news... It might work if you don't mind just sitting on the sidelines and watching, like Papa Smurf said. But then you have to ask yourself... how would it make *you* feel, watching your girlfriend have sex with another person? I know it's something that guys love to fantasize about, two women together... but do you *really* want to share her with someone else??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dani672 Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 well everyone is different... to experment like that i think is fine.. to do it on a regular basis i don't think is tht healthy for a relationship... that is my opinion... my bf and i tried it out once.. it actually was really fun.. but it was with pretty much a stranger and we never saw her again... my bf didn't have actual intercourse.. b/c she was a stranger... i am not a jelous person that way.. like i think its hot when girls try to talk to my bf or look at him.. its a compliment to me.. that is the kind of attitude you have to have as a girl to make a 3some ok..i know a lot of girls that have done it.. just to make their bf's happy.. thats when there are problems Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thrillfire Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 its kinda interesting that its your girlfriend who wants it. Has she done it before? I think I saw on hbo, the real sex show and they talked about a threesome saying that the most important thing is to talk it over and make sure that you understand what both of you want out of this and what are the rules and such before doing it so that neither of you gets hurt, and than just have fun with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted May 15 Report Share Posted May 15 My 2 pennies... Sure everyone wants 2 woman.. But personally I would not do it with someone I care about. It would have to be 2 people who I am not in a relationship with. I have seen people get torn apart because of it. The 3 sleep together a couple of times. Then it goes to just 2 of them sleeping with each other. But it is not the couple sleeping with one another. It is the partner they took in as a 3rd sleeping with one of them. Don't know. Just to much negative possibilities... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehog Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 man you have to be joking:confused: I would be on that like white on rice:idea: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rdancer Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 I wouldn't do it, there is no way in hell that I want to see my girlfriend do anything with another girl or guy for that matter.Call me old fashoined or conservative... But its a definete HELL NO! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francismhwhite Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted May 16 Author Report Share Posted May 16 update..just to test the waters, last night before bed i pleasured myself to thoughts of my girlfreind eating another girl out & it seemed to be a rather HOTT visual but i think i would rather have them fool around than me actually do anything than little rubbing & touching.no penetration or "serious" contact on my part. im sorry guys, i am going to chicken out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rdancer Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 Originally posted by tommyarmani update..just to test the waters, last night before bed i pleasured myself to thoughts of my girlfreind eating another girl out & it seemed to be a rather HOTT visual but i think i would rather have them fool around than me actually do anything than little rubbing & touching.no penetration or "serious" contact on my part. im sorry guys, i am going to chicken out Use a camcorder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djinnom Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 Originally posted by thehog man you have to be joking:confused: I would be on that like white on rice:idea: Hehehe, but it looks like he really cares for this girl and doesn't wanna risk it.but......it could be a once in a lifetime experience......tough choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
india22 Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 I've fooled around with girls (who were also friends) when I was younger, but I've never done it while I had a bf - I think the only way to make it work out is to agree to certain conditions. I wouldn't want my bf to have intercourse with her, but getting blown or hand job I don't think I'd have a problem with. I'm just so squemish about germs and stuff that I'd rather know the person rather than just hooking up with some random girl I met at a club, 'cause then you don't know what they have & even eating her out would just have me paranoid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rdancer Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 I think the trick is the third partner has to be a stranger to the both of u, just someone u pick up ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 Originally posted by rdancer I think the trick is the third partner has to be a stranger to the both of u, just someone u pick up ! I agree. If it were something you decided to do, just pick someone up and once it's over, never see them again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kkitten Posted May 16 Report Share Posted May 16 The only way I've ever had a successful threesome is if you don't care about the people ivolved at all. If one person even has a little bit of feelings they will probably get jealous at some point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
housedog Posted May 18 Report Share Posted May 18 My thoughts excatly Originally posted by elementx [but personally I would not do it with someone I care about. It would have to be 2 people who I am not in a relationship with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koky Posted May 18 Report Share Posted May 18 I THINK THIS IS A VERY DELICATE SUBJECT & IT COULD TURN OUT EITHER VERY GOOD OR VERY BAD.. IF IT DOES EVER HAPPEN FOR YOU I SUGGEST NOT PAYING TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO THE 3RD PERSON THERE. LET YOUR GF DO MOST OF THE ACTIVITY ... YOU JUST WATCH & TOUCH HERE N THERE . IF YOU MAKE IT LOOK LIKE YOU CANT HANDLE IT & MAKE IT SEEM YOU JUST WANNA BANG THE OTHER PERSON THEN YOU ARE SCREWED & YOU MIGHT ENDANGER YOUR RELATIONSHIP.. I KNOW THIS MIGHT SOUND FUCKED UP , BUT ID SAY USE THAT 3RD PERSON AS IF THEY WERE A TOY IN THE WHOLE SCENARIO.. I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRUEL OR WHATEVER BUT HEY , THAT PERSON IS THE 3RD PERSON & SHOULD EXPECT TO BE TREATED AS THE THIRD PERSON.. IF IT GOES WELL FOR YOU THE 1ST TIME & YOUR GF FELT COMFORTABLE & NOT THREATENED BY THAT PERSON SHE WILL BE MORE & MORE SECURE AS TIME GOES ON & IT WILL KEEP HAPPENING ... BUT OF COARSE , MAKE IT ALL ABOUT YOUR GF .. GIVE HER 80 OR 90 % OF THE ATTENTION & IT WILL BE AN AWSOME EXPERIENCE TIME & TIME AGAIN .. THE MORE IT HAPPENS YOU WILL BE ABLE TO TELL & FEEL OUT WHAT YOUR GF IS OR ISNT COMFORTABLE WITH YOU DOING .. SO JUST TAKE IT SLOW & YOU WILL BE STRAIGHT .. HOPE THIS HELPS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
covetoys Posted May 19 Report Share Posted May 19 Originally posted by thrillfire its kinda interesting that its your girlfriend who wants it. Has she done it before? I think I saw on hbo, the real sex show and they talked about a threesome saying that the most important thing is to talk it over and make sure that you understand what both of you want out of this and what are the rules and such before doing it so that neither of you gets hurt, and than just have fun with it. thrillfire is right. The most important thing is the rules. if you cant get through them before you start, then it's not for you guys at all. Most important rule in inviting a third party into the bedroom is "no kissing on the face" from or to the third party. Kissing can be the most jealous making move as it shows more passion and more endearment. Stay away from the mouth-to-mouth, trust me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spinsaikel Posted May 19 Report Share Posted May 19 Originally posted by koky I THINK THIS IS A VERY DELICATE SUBJECT & IT COULD TURN OUT EITHER VERY GOOD OR VERY BAD.. IF IT DOES EVER HAPPEN FOR YOU I SUGGEST NOT PAYING TOO MUCH I agree koky. Or avoid the payment issue altogether. paying for sex is like getting a rental car anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted May 19 Report Share Posted May 19 Originally posted by koky I KNOW THIS MIGHT SOUND FUCKED UP , BUT ID SAY USE THAT 3RD PERSON AS IF THEY WERE A TOY IN THE WHOLE SCENARIO.. I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRUEL OR WHATEVER BUT HEY , THAT PERSON IS THE 3RD PERSON & SHOULD EXPECT TO BE TREATED AS THE THIRD PERSON.. Funny, that's what my ex suggested, about this girl we were fooling around with. I just couldn't do it, I can't look at another person that way! And then, after all that, he went and got attached to her... I'd say that this suggestion is probably easier said than done.Originally posted by covetoys Most important rule in inviting a third party into the bedroom is "no kissing on the face" from or to the third party. Kissing can be the most jealous making move as it shows more passion and more endearment. Stay away from the mouth-to-mouth, trust me! That's another thing I couldn't ever imagine doing. I mean, I understand the idea behind it, but why oh why would you ever think of fucking someone you couldn't even kiss??? If you're going that route, you might as well pay for an escort. I would never do either, but honestly, in my eyes, they're almost on the same level. And if you need to follow all these rules... do you really think it's going to be that much fun??? Unless it's with people you aren't romantically involved with... skip it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehog Posted May 20 Report Share Posted May 20 I think your going to hate your self every day for the rest of your life the sec. you 2 break up................DO IT MANwhat if she is already doing some chick? YOU might as well just do it. What if she just whants to do it and thinks you are a prud for not doing it. maybee she whats to be with a girl for the first time with you and you don't do it and she does it alone. What if she has been doing this with all her ex bf'sI think you should think about all of this before say now way no how. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxsweetie Posted May 20 Report Share Posted May 20 Tommyharmani:I'm having a similar problem with my bf right now. He wants to have a 3some, but I'm not too sure about how this would affect our relationship. I dont want to feel pressured into doing it and if I decide to go through with it I want to be comfortable with it.He's had 2 3somes before, but they weren't with "girlfriends". I'm not against the idea per se, but I'm worried that things will get weird afterwards, even if we agree to ground rules before; I think in situations like that its hard to control your feelings sometimes. And besides, eventhough I've never had one, I think a 3some is better if you're not in a relationship with any of the people From a girl's perspective: it depends on whether or not your gf has had 3somes before, and what her take is. It also depends on what your take on them is and if you've had one in the past Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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