lizard23 Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 Anybody here married or planning a wedding? I just got engaged on Sunday and I explained some of me and my fiancee's thoughts and ideas to my mother and she's already giving me grief about the date and why I don't want her to invite a shitload of people that she thinks should be there that I've never even met before. I've talked to a few other people and they keep saying that if the parents (both bride and groom's) are paying, then there's really nothing you can do. I think that's BULLSHIT - it's still my and my fiancee's wedding and the parents shouldn't be paying to control it or have it their way, they should be paying because it's something nice they want to do. My mom said it's not up to just me and my fiancee to plan our wedding, but we're the ones getting married, so why should anybody else have a say?! I'm trying not to be selfish, but I really don't think I'm being unreasonable here. Anybody else ever been in the same boat? Have advice? Please share and thanks for listening to me vent! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rfkfreak Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 Originally posted by lizard23 Anybody here married or planning a wedding? I just got engaged on Sunday and I explained some of me and my fiancee's thoughts and ideas to my mother and she's already giving me grief about the date and why I don't want her to invite a shitload of people that she thinks should be there that I've never even met before. I've talked to a few other people and they keep saying that if the parents (both bride and groom's) are paying, then there's really nothing you can do. I think that's BULLSHIT - it's still my and my fiancee's wedding and the parents shouldn't be paying to control it or have it their way, they should be paying because it's something nice they want to do. My mom said it's not up to just me and my fiancee to plan our wedding, but we're the ones getting married, so why should anybody else have a say?! I'm trying not to be selfish, but I really don't think I'm being unreasonable here. Anybody else ever been in the same boat? Have advice? Please share and thanks for listening to me vent! Have fun, get drunk and screw in the limo ride home.That's my advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daemoncel Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 if they're paying then give them some flexibility on whom to invitebut make it clear that you and your fiancee will take care of everything elsecongratulations on the engagement:beer: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lizard23 Posted September 4 Author Report Share Posted September 4 Originally posted by daemoncel if they're paying then give them some flexibility on whom to invitebut make it clear that you and your fiancee will take care of everything elsecongratulations on the engagement:beer: Thank you! I did realize that it's not a big deal for either of our parents to invite a few of THEIR friends, even though we don't know them because it's a special day for them too. Other things that my fiancee disagree with are just going to have to be graciously accepted as suggestions and then discarded. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 Originally posted by lizard23 Anybody here married or planning a wedding? I just got engaged on Sunday and I explained some of me and my fiancee's thoughts and ideas to my mother and she's already giving me grief about the date and why I don't want her to invite a shitload of people that she thinks should be there that I've never even met before. I've talked to a few other people and they keep saying that if the parents (both bride and groom's) are paying, then there's really nothing you can do. I think that's BULLSHIT - it's still my and my fiancee's wedding and the parents shouldn't be paying to control it or have it their way, they should be paying because it's something nice they want to do. My mom said it's not up to just me and my fiancee to plan our wedding, but we're the ones getting married, so why should anybody else have a say?! I'm trying not to be selfish, but I really don't think I'm being unreasonable here. Anybody else ever been in the same boat? Have advice? Please share and thanks for listening to me vent! Congrats!! Your parents are probably just as excited about it as you are I'm sure they will calm down.......Why don't you just compromise with them...I mean it is YOUR big day...you don't wanna walk around your reception going "who's that?!" to a bunch of people.....Let your parents invite a certain amount of their friends...but just not too many Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 Here's to loooooooooooong engagements! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mangledx Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 i just got engaged before the summer....and now comes all this planning....and i am in the same boat...sorta...i have been with my fiancee for 5 years....and i mean i just want to have a small thing and get it over with...now it has become huge production....oh well gotta do what the lady wants.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted September 4 Report Share Posted September 4 It is a given that parents get a certain amount of invites for themselves to choose. But that is always how it was in my family. To each his own...Good luck and congrats... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted September 5 Report Share Posted September 5 remember to try to enjoy it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lizard23 Posted September 5 Author Report Share Posted September 5 Thanks guys, the drama has died down a bit, but I'm sure I'll have a few more "anecdotes" for you before the wedding. Stuff like my mom inviting a few of her friends I'll let slide, but I will let both my parents and his know that this is OUR wedding and we are planning it. Suggestions are welcome, but that doesn't mean that those ideas will make it to the altar with us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 5 Report Share Posted September 5 Originally posted by daemoncel if they're paying then give them some flexibility on whom to invitebut make it clear that you and your fiancee will take care of everything elsecongratulations on the engagement:beer: Agreed. Also, be thankful that your parents are footing the bill- that doesn't always happen these days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted September 5 Report Share Posted September 5 Originally posted by tastyt Agreed. Also, be thankful that your parents are footing the bill- that doesn't always happen these days. Very true... It is a rare occurance during these times... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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