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Any tips?

My boyfriend keeps asking me to "talk dirty" to him in bed, but I have no idea what to say besides the standard "fuck me baby"'s, etc.

Any guys here have suggestions on what their girl can say to get them all hot and bothered? I'll probably have to practice saying it a few times beforehand so it doesn't sound forced in bed. :tongue:

Thanks!

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Originally posted by linabina

IMO u cant force dirty talk... if it doesnt come naturally to u, then dont try and practice what to say cuz its just gonna sound stupid.. let it flowwwwwww and if its just not u... then its just not u ;) and do something else to turn him on during sex

i agree w u on this one, i dunno but i feel wierd sayin it , i mean unless it just comes out
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I had the same issue with one guy I used to date. I couldn't get past the whole "oh yeah fuck me baby" thing either and between that I wasn't even thinking of the sex because my mind was wandering - trying to figure out what the hell to say next, or just wondering when it'd be over, not cause he was bad but so I didn't have to keep repeating the sverame thing over and o. Total waste for me.

So I muct agree, I guess it's natural for some people. I'm definately not one of them though.

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Originally posted by linabina

IMO u cant force dirty talk... if it doesnt come naturally to u, then dont try and practice what to say cuz its just gonna sound stupid.. let it flowwwwwww and if its just not u... then its just not u ;) and do something else to turn him on during sex

Lina,

I am going to have to disagree for the block. I believe there are some things in life which are an art, others which are a science. As such there are some things you are born with, others which you can learn & get better at. OF COURSE, some people have a head start & are naturally more inclined to excel at certain things.

I believe that being good at dirty talk is indicative of certain personality traits that coincide with confidence, creativty, sexual awareness blah blah blah in the bedroom.

actually, i dont feel like typing more.... im too lazy, but lets just say i think you can become better at pretty much anything you practice at.

"practice makes better" :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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I also disagree. Nobody comes out of the womb talking dirty. Just think of the first time you kissed a girl, or the first time you had sex, and compare it to how you are now. After you first did it, you compared notes with friends, you got more practice, you lived, and you learned.

So, without getting too specific, I would say that the things that turn me/most guys on are things that are either a sexual ego boost (making him feel like he's hot shit) or make him feel like he's fucking a hot piece of ass.

Without getting specific, you should just generally communicate in your own way how much you like his body (specific parts), how well-endowed he is, how much you like touching/fucking/etc him, how he's so good at turning you on, how good it feels when he does x, y, and z to you, how he's so skilled and can't get enough, blah, blah, blah. You have to make him feel like he's the mack daddy and how you're a borderline nympho who can't get enough of him.

Oh, and spanking your own ass while you're getting it from behind can't hurt, either. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

How you apply these principles is up to your own interpretation...

NOW: How about the girls? Ladies, what do you like to hear from a guy in bed?

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okay... .that was my own opinion and i am entitled to it... :D

however... tommy... u said that u think it can be learned even though some people are just better at it naturally... then u said this "I believe that being good at dirty talk is indicative of certain personality traits that coincide with confidence, creativty, sexual awareness blah blah blah in the bedroom."

i think there is a contradiction there. perhaps people who have such a hard time talking dirty simply do not HAVE that sexual confidence/creativity etc therefore they just cant get it out and have it sound natural...

i mean yea u can try and u can "practice" and still do it.. but IMO... if its not u then its not u... i mean porn stars fake it and do it for a living but i still think it sounds so superficial and stupid when u can tell that its just not natural....

so i stand by my original word ;)

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Well, it's true that the ability to talk dirty coincides with traits of confidence, but who's to say that confidence isn't something that can be developed, too?

I think most guys can relate to the first few times you tried going up to girls at a club/bar/whatever, being nervous and whatnot. But as you became more comfortable with yourself and developed more "game", then the confidence started to flow.

Of course some people are innately more confident, but that doesn't mean that insecure people can't develop and grow their confidence over time.

This girl wants to develop her confidence and her sexuality... I say let the inner vixen come out of her cage! It might never be Vivid Video but maybe she can crank it up a few notches from where she started...

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bottom line, some people are naturally better at it.

However, those that suck can become better at it.

Michael J cox was prone to being a good dirty talker, but he got better at it.

Ave joe is not prone to being good at it, but with practice, he can improve but will probably never be better than michael j.

Dirty talk is a learned behavior but there are also certain traits that can make one inclined to excel at it better than others. so yes, nature vs nuture or both.

why not both? :beer:

I used to be shy, conservative & introverted & of course quiet & not very adventorous in the bedroom. Now i am pretty good at dirty talk. yes, i learned to become better by practicing!

what the fuck just happened???? :confused:

:laugh::(:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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