lafemcaliente Posted August 2 Author Report Share Posted August 2 i appreciate the imput everyone, thank you..BB- ive noticed since ive been talking about this that its a hell of a lot easier giving good advice to people we care about, but quite another trying to actually put that advice to good use ourselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bling Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 im sure everyone has had this dilemma, when your head tells you to do one thing, and your heart another. can drive you crazy sometimes. more than likely your head will tell you to take the most logical course of action, while your heart tells you what feels best, and maybe theres no reason why it feels a certain way but it does. which do you ignore, which takes presidence? im torn, and there's no easy solution sometimes, so what to do?is it better to follow your head or your heart?I have always followed my heart. I am a romantic and emotional guy since i can remember . I have been hurt though that is def the downfall but i believe that if one puts their entire heart towards someone they love that experience is all the more fruitful and lasting..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullseye Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 bling, not for nuttin, but u need to do some squats Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
visio Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 Personally, I say go with what your head tells you to do. The heart usually thinks short-term, looking for happiness now, and hoping that things are still good later down the road. The head usually thinks long-term, you may have to suffer now but down the road, it'll be ok. As someone posted before, pain is temporary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
visio Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 nah you're dead on. i wasnt going to say anything at all, i was going by that theory thusfar... i was waiting to see if he came back to me. but its been a while and im starting to wonder if i should just see myself and try and move on or leave it be... and it really sucks letting him go completely, but its like if i dont ever try i'll kick myself the rest of my life. but you're right in the fact that if its possible to feel that way about one person, it could happen again.we'll see, it all comes down to whether i really have the guts to do it in the first place i think.. While that saying may hold true, what if you're waiting for them to make the move, and theyre waiting on you to make the move? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lafemcaliente Posted August 3 Author Report Share Posted August 3 While that saying may hold true, what if you're waiting for them to make the move, and theyre waiting on you to make the move?you're right.. i thought about that a few times, but i think ive just made up my mind that im not going to say anything and just let it go. i got a pretty distinct gut feeling that im alone out here, so im just gonna go with it i think. and if things seem on the contrairy, then i will maybe say something. but this case is officially closed for now.thanks for all the imput everybody.. i do appreciate it, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fliptoniaaa Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 Im gonna recomend people go with their heads!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gfofaguy69 Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 yup your heart can be naive and misleading!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilbarbiegirl Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 ... i wasn't asking... i was demanding Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 there's a certain someone that i used to date, and there's still ridiculous amounts of feeling felt, and im wondering if i should make it known or keep it to myself. im thinking if i dont make the effort to say something or hint soon then i may never get a chance to later. so its either say something and chance getting hurt, or not do anything and always have this in the back of my head...neither one seems very appealing to be honest, ughi just went thru the same situation. i listened to my heart instead of my head and i spilled my guts out. now im not so sure i made the right decision. i can deal w/ being hurt, but i dont think i can deal with screwin up the friendship, ya know wut i mean? i havent gotten any response yet, kinda left it as "take time to think about it and let me know" but i dont have a good feeling about it. part of me is glad i got it out, but part of me wants to take my words back just to avoid any uncomfortableness from here on out. idk, it could either turn out to be the greatest victory of my life, or the biggest letdown. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lafemcaliente Posted August 4 Author Report Share Posted August 4 i just went thru the same situation. i listened to my heart instead of my head and i spilled my guts out. now im not so sure i made the right decision. i can deal w/ being hurt, but i dont think i can deal with screwin up the friendship, ya know wut i mean? i havent gotten any response yet, kinda left it as "take time to think about it and let me know" but i dont have a good feeling about it. part of me is glad i got it out, but part of me wants to take my words back just to avoid any uncomfortableness from here on out. idk, it could either turn out to be the greatest victory of my life, or the biggest letdown.yep, so wherein lies my dilemma. you understand how i feel then. its crazy, either you put yourself on the line and it could be the greatest thing ever or you could be torn to pieces. thing is im wondering if taking the risk is better than wondering what if for the rest of my life. ive made the decision as of now not to say anything though. we talked yesterday and it didnt feel right. so im keeping it to myself, maybe forever... if it comes out one day then it does. i think ive been thinking too much about it and i need to get off it for a while, focus on myself.. maybe take stab at it later on. i kinda believe in if something is really meant to be then it will happen type thing, so im putting it on hold a bit.... we'll see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 yep, so wherein lies my dilemma. you understand how i feel then. its crazy, either you put yourself on the line and it could be the greatest thing ever or you could be torn to pieces. thing is im wondering if taking the risk is better than wondering what if for the rest of my life. ive made the decision as of now not to say anything though. we talked yesterday and it didnt feel right. so im keeping it to myself, maybe forever... if it comes out one day then it does. i think ive been thinking too much about it and i need to get off it for a while, focus on myself.. maybe take stab at it later on. i kinda believe in if something is really meant to be then it will happen type thing, so im putting it on hold a bit.... we'll see.eh...now its just wait and see u wanna just say screw it all and we'll get together and watch the repeat of last nite's nip/tuck. i didnt see it, went to Bar A. did u see it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lafemcaliente Posted August 4 Author Report Share Posted August 4 eh...now its just wait and see u wanna just say screw it all and we'll get together and watch the repeat of last nite's nip/tuck. i didnt see it, went to Bar A. did u see it?sounds like a plan to me, i was actually contempating bar gay last night... and no, sadly i did not see it either Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 sounds like a plan to me, i was actually contempating bar gay last night... and no, sadly i did not see it either well bar gay is only good cuz its cheap. and its outside which is nice. if it wasnt for that i would never go there. and i NEVER go inside. i hate cover bands and the ugly crowds they bring Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 o yea and i'll see at my front door say around 9? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lafemcaliente Posted August 4 Author Report Share Posted August 4 yea i go there on tuesdays sometimes cause its all outside... sumthin to do on a tuesday ya know.. not like out out, just whatever...oh, and i can probably be there 9:30... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 yeaaa...idk if i can fit u in at 9:30. someone else is scheduled to come over at that time. it would really benefit me if u could be in and out by 9:25. thaaaaaanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lafemcaliente Posted August 4 Author Report Share Posted August 4 notta prob... ill be there between 9:15 and 9:20... be out by 9:23 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 very nice. i think i can also fit u in friday afternoon around 4:45-5:10. that'll be an extra long session, but it is gonna cost u double. But u can also take advantage of my half price sale, so in essence, its the same price Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fliptoniaaa Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 lets give these 2 a hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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lafemcaliente Posted August 4 Author Report Share Posted August 4 ride it like you stole it....its on like donkey kong kid... only question is,can you hang? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 im already hungcan u take it all? blondboheme 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tstelkhuni Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 im already hungcan u take it all? that was great - actually laughed out loud - the whole office is prolly like "what the fk is she doing?" ":laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DJGaryMatthews Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 that was great - actually laughed out loud - the whole office is prolly like "what the fk is she doing?" ":laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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