wallflour Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 Just wondering: Is it possible to remain friends with your ex bf/gf? If so, to what extent? If you've been through this kind of experience, what kind of relationship(s) have you maintained with former significant others? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasonct5 Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 No such thing. You will get back together before you become friends again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blowflyii Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 You just have to be mature. I have rarely been able to do it because I love too much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teklord310 Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 FTFUsually not a good thing, but always nice. And always comes with strings attached if your X is involed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
illlogik Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 Its impossible in my mind (but this is just one mans broken heart speaking here)lol.. you will never be able to look at the person the same way. Or act the same way again.. its never the same, its just an unpleasent feeling. how can u go "hang out" with your ex? You certainly can't do the things you did b4 the breakup! (being physical etc etc.). My former girl and me aren't best of friends, she would like to chill alot, but i am not comfortable with it. so i blow her off. We do let each other know whats goin on in our life every couple weeks, thats as far as it goes... As for you, do what ever feels comfortable. Your not me. maybe u can b friends with your X. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
msoprano Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 if you can honestly be mature about it then i dont see why not but in most cases its never gonna happen....not right away for sure....give it time and later on down the road there is no reason you cant be friends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mugwump Posted October 15 Report Share Posted October 15 It all depends on the individual(s)and what kind of relationship you both had..I just went through the most heart breaking ordeal seperating with my EX a few months ago..Only to reunite in the best friendship I've ever had.we both love each other and forgave each other for many things and are now living in different places..(We use to live together for five years)We still spend time together and are physicaly involved but we areliving an open ended friendship that gives each other both space and freedom..After all the great years we had together it's impossible for each other to stay bitter at each other for too long..It takes time man.Give her space and if she ever cared about you she'll swing around to keep you in her life..If only just to be around you!But like I said,Everyone's different~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freefall Posted October 16 Report Share Posted October 16 Mugz is right...everyone's different.I just got out of a 5-year relationship where I was best friends with her for two years before we even started dating. We thought we could pull off being just friends because we had such a long history of just being friends...Every time we'd get together to hang out, we'd just end up slipping and it would get physical. Now she's in therapy and not talking to me...go figure. good luck... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sttarrkidd Posted October 16 Report Share Posted October 16 relationships??? what are those? hheheh ummm it is possible to be friends... it's really hard and you have to get past some issues, but after some time, it can happenpixie duststarr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
echostar Posted October 16 Report Share Posted October 16 me and my ex are friends now (with benifits ) and so far its working out relatively ok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flying_high Posted October 16 Report Share Posted October 16 It's definitely possible but it always depends on the relationship itself and on the maturity of both partners. I've been in a 6 years relationship and when we broke up it wasn't because we didn't love eachother anymore. We broke up cause we had changed on the way and we wanted to give eachother the space and freedom to further develop and not being limited by the other one. We always knew that we would be there for eachother as friends...and that's exactly what we are. We don't see eachoter that often but every time I go home to see my parents (usually 2 times a year) I meet up with my ex and since 1.5 years now also with his girlfriend. I don't have any problem to see him with someone else but yes it took us both a while. Still, I do think it is possible...especially after long-term relationships as you've shared such a long time together and usually know the other person really well. If the break-up wasn't bad or anything...why should you lose the person as someone you've shared soooo much with??? Anyway...I always tried to stay friends....at least with the people that meant a lot to me and didn't treat me badly or anything...I definitely think it is worth it and I wouldn't want to miss some of them in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guest00901 Posted October 16 Report Share Posted October 16 I have maintained pretty good friendships with my X'sNothing like calling me on a daily basis but you know the call to check up how are u doing and all. I think if your mature enough to just put the past behind you, yea u can defnitaly become friends, but i mean if u had a really really intense relationship i think it can be a bit harder. I dunno it really all depends on the people Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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