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So we were getting freaky last night. One thing lead to another and he climbed on top of me, you know the rest. Anyhow, I don't know of any better place to ask for advice about this. So here goes nothing.

I can't cum, ever during actual penetration. All of my partners have never gotten me to orgasm and i'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me?

Is this normal? Is there anything I can do about it?

help!!!!!:mad:

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hey girl.. best advise i can give is to get to kno ur body. Seriously- read up on the female anatomy and how it works sexually, then grab a mirror and put up ur leg and check it out.

it's fuckin incredible ;)

now u kno there's 2 kinds of orgasms... one that comes from ur clit, and one that comes from ur g-spot. naturally the clit orgasm won't usually happen during penetration because it needs to be stimulated and the penis is busy stimulating the vaginal cavity..

(altho it's possible to penetrate and stimulate the clit too, with a finger, etc) so that's one way to cum

the g spot is the other orgasm-giver but it's a different kind of orgasm.. more like rolling orgasms, i'd say, and more intense..

anyhoo, the interpretation is up to you-- but alot of women don't have gspot orgasms bc it's not that easy to stimulate.. and when you Do stimulate is, u gotta be rougher than u are on the clit.. u gotta Really attack that gspot.. it's located on the front wall of ur vagina.. maybe about 2 to 3 inches in, depending on ur body.. best way to practise reaching it and stimulating it is to squat down and put 2 fingers in the shape of a hook (facing away from you, so as to stimulate that front face) and press around in circle.. it kinda feels like an elevated surface in that rough area of your vagina.. keep practising if you don't get it on ur first try..

It's Worth It... ;)

check out this website btw:

http://www.libchrist.com/sexed/Gspot.html

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Originally posted by bellaragazza

So we were getting freaky last night. One thing lead to another and he climbed on top of me, you know the rest. Anyhow, I don't know of any better place to ask for advice about this. So here goes nothing.

I can't cum, ever during actual penetration. All of my partners have never gotten me to orgasm and i'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me?

Is this normal? Is there anything I can do about it?

help!!!!!:mad:

Sweetie...you and I are in the same boat. Never have I came with out my own assistance.....

:idea: Sorry to say, but I think we need to explore older men.....The only one that ever came close was a wee bit older than me (a little more than a wee bit), and MY GOD did he know what he was doing......

Go out and hunt em' down like dogs!!!!

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Originally posted by bellaragazza

So we were getting freaky last night. One thing lead to another and he climbed on top of me, you know the rest. Anyhow, I don't know of any better place to ask for advice about this. So here goes nothing.

I can't cum, ever during actual penetration. All of my partners have never gotten me to orgasm and i'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me?

Is this normal? Is there anything I can do about it?

help!!!!!:mad:

you need some :tongue:

BG

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From my experience most girls can't come just from penetration... you need clitoral stimulation, and hopefully a little G-spot action. If the guy knows what he's doing he can use his body to please you during penetration. Sucks that it has to work out this way sometimes.

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There have been a few near-misses, but I've never cum from penetration alone either. The guy will stress about it, I don't. Just put it in perspective- some women don't know how to cum at all. Just experiment alot with different positions, and in the meantime either buy a vibrator or get yourself off while he's inside.

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I'm well aware of all this stuff, gspot and what not. Problem is this. All he knows how to do is stick it in and move back and forth, I guess he doesn't get the point that we can't get off on only penetration.

So here's the new questions.

What's the best non insulting way of suggesting something new to him? or for that matter telling him what to do without making him feel stupid or terrible in bed? :confused:

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Just be straight up, tell him or better yet show him, that you want to try something different. It's not insulting, and he should want to learn new techniques anyway. Or you could always watch a porno together and get really into it when something looks good "ooh, ooh, that looks like it would be really fun ."

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Originally posted by bellaragazza

What's the best non insulting way of suggesting something new to him? or for that matter telling him what to do without making him feel stupid or terrible in bed? :confused:

take over

jump on his face

do it up against a wall..then turn around..then bend over

go down on him then slide your pussy right on to his face

take control..i'm sure he'll wake up..this way your nosuggesting anything..you are showing him what your about and how you like it..maybe he'll start experimenting..if he doesn't wake up drop the slug

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Originally posted by bellaragazza

I'm well aware of all this stuff, gspot and what not. Problem is this. All he knows how to do is stick it in and move back and forth, I guess he doesn't get the point that we can't get off on only penetration.

So here's the new questions.

What's the best non insulting way of suggesting something new to him? or for that matter telling him what to do without making him feel stupid or terrible in bed? :confused:

lol. sounds pretty worthless. tell him to go back to his ex.:laugh:

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I tried going down on him and he told me "it doesn't really do anything for me"

this is fucking hopeless.

and..

I did try taking control he told me that he likes things pretty basic. Now either he's completely insecure with himself or he's down right embarressed.

:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

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Originally posted by reliant

sounds like maybe nothing you can do will change any thing.... maybe its time to look elsewhere, because it can be SOOOOOOOO much better. ;)

yeah so i've heard!!!!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :mad:

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