SPYGIRL3 Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 If someone has a reputation and then reforms themselves, do you think the the "bad" will over shadow the new changed person more than the good? Or even vice versa, someome having a rep for being a "goodie goodie"??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdeep Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 I'd think that it would be way easier for the "goodie-goodie" to change their reputation. They might be looked at in new light as simply, "spreading their wings" or loosening up. It's tougher to lose the bad reputation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 12 Author Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by cdeep I'd think that it would be way easier for the "goodie-goodie" to change their reputation. They might be looked at in new light as simply, "spreading their wings" or loosening up. It's tougher to lose the bad reputation. THat's what I was thinking...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdeep Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Why? Are you a "goodie goodie" or on the other end of that spectrum? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 12 Author Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by cdeep Why? Are you a "goodie goodie" or on the other end of that spectrum? I party like a rock star, go out to have a good time, wreck some havoc every now and then, but usually know when to say when. I guess I am about 60 - 40..... It all depends on the mood, time, and the place:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdeep Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 I hear ya...me too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 12 Author Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by cdeep I hear ya...me too. I like some trouble and fun every now and then, but I also like to be mellow and chill. Good company can be hard to find:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rammelsberg Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by SPYGIRL2 If someone has a reputation and then reforms themselves, do you think the the "bad" will over shadow the new changed person more than the good? Or even vice versa, someome having a rep for being a "goodie goodie"??? I belive there are only two factors invovled there.A) The sincerity of their reformation and actionsand The level of open mindedness and acceptance of the people whom they associate with. If somebody really does what they belive is best and are selfless about it, it's very difficult for onlookers to deny the person's benevolence. (sorry, serious question; serious answer) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nitro449 Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by SPYGIRL2 If someone has a reputation and then reforms themselves, do you think the the "bad" will over shadow the new changed person more than the good? Or even vice versa, someome having a rep for being a "goodie goodie"??? I believe in the power to re-identify yourself as a person...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wannabeclubchk Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Reputation? You mean as in High School? Or as in Professional Reputation in the business community?I am assuming you mean the former. As time passes, it won't matter if you were a "goodie-goodie" or "on the other end of the spectrum". IMHO, as we mature, we depend less on others for validation, and define ourselves less by Other People's Standards. Integrity comes from within, by living up to your own standards. Besides, look around at society as a whole. Their standards are way too low! I would rather set my own criteria, and I can acheive MUCH more when I tune out what I "should be doing". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonStephen Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 One thing I hate about the whole reputation thing is that it can be given out unfairly and be misguided. After all, its just another gossip piece to be spread around.I've known girls that have reputations as flirts or sluts and the truth of the matter is that they are the complete opposite and vice versa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flying_high Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by djjonstephen One thing I hate about the whole reputation thing is that it can be given out unfairly and be misguided. After all, its just another gossip piece to be spread around.I've known girls that have reputations as flirts or sluts and the truth of the matter is that they are the complete opposite and vice versa. I so hear you on that. I hate reputations as they don't really reflect the person itself only the way the person is seen by other people. And a lot of how a person views another one is by assigning different meanings (from their own experience/history) to certain stimula/situations.So, if someone is outgoing, happy and friendly...some people immediately associate "flirty" and other things with it. Which all in all...is just sooo much bs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 13 Author Report Share Posted March 13 Originally posted by wannabeclubchk Reputation? You mean as in High School? Or as in Professional Reputation in the business community?I am assuming you mean the former. As time passes, it won't matter if you were a "goodie-goodie" or "on the other end of the spectrum". IMHO, as we mature, we depend less on others for validation, and define ourselves less by Other People's Standards. Integrity comes from within, by living up to your own standards. Besides, look around at society as a whole. Their standards are way too low! I would rather set my own criteria, and I can acheive MUCH more when I tune out what I "should be doing". Not high school and not professional, just as a general everyday thing. I;d like to think that but, I don't think all people reach that level... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 13 Author Report Share Posted March 13 Originally posted by djjonstephen One thing I hate about the whole reputation thing is that it can be given out unfairly and be misguided. After all, its just another gossip piece to be spread around.I've known girls that have reputations as flirts or sluts and the truth of the matter is that they are the complete opposite and vice versa. Very true valid point. It is like gossip and hearsay.... But say it's true, or used to be true and that person as reformed themsaelf and made a new stake in life, how do they dispute that??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 13 Author Report Share Posted March 13 Speaking of which, anybody see the movie Gossip??? good flick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted March 13 Report Share Posted March 13 If they reform themselves then if they want to keep the change enough then they're gonna force themselves not to change back ...my friend is doin that now..he changed for the better and he's all worried he's gonna have bad tendencies now but he wants to be a better person so he's gonna watch how he acts now....and yes i saw the movie gossip Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 14 Author Report Share Posted March 14 Originally posted by destiny779 If they reform themselves then if they want to keep the change enough then they're gonna force themselves not to change back ...my friend is doin that now..he changed for the better and he's all worried he's gonna have bad tendencies now but he wants to be a better person so he's gonna watch how he acts now....and yes i saw the movie gossip You know he's changing for the better and he's doing it to make himself a happier person, but does he still have to deal with his "past" so to speak? Or are people willing to let by gones be by gones? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted March 14 Report Share Posted March 14 He's still dealing with some inner demons if you want to put it like that but other people are still having the idea that he is still the same person...they believe and always will believe his original reputation...and its really bad ..they wont drop it and people dont know how to mind theyre own business and they talk trash Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 14 Author Report Share Posted March 14 Originally posted by destiny779 He's still dealing with some inner demons if you want to put it like that but other people are still having the idea that he is still the same person...they believe and always will believe his original reputation...and its really bad ..they wont drop it and people dont know how to mind theyre own business and they talk trash Sticky sitituatiion either way.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted March 15 Report Share Posted March 15 yes it is so now to get a new start he's moving:bounce: reputations are crap..half the time theyre based on rumors Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmw4jay Posted March 15 Report Share Posted March 15 Originally posted by SPYGIRL2 I like some trouble and fun every now and then, but I also like to be mellow and chill. Good company can be hard to find:D I prefer a 50/50 Spygirl combo...chilling and partying ....Good company is closer than you think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 15 Author Report Share Posted March 15 Originally posted by destiny779 yes it is so now to get a new start he's moving:bounce: reputations are crap..half the time theyre based on rumors Rumors suck......They always wind up hurting someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 15 Author Report Share Posted March 15 Originally posted by bmw4jay I prefer a 50/50 Spygirl combo...chilling and partying ....Good company is closer than you think With you always:love: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted March 15 Report Share Posted March 15 Good company definately is hard to find:bounce: Luckily enough i've had good company n the past;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 16 Author Report Share Posted March 16 Originally posted by destiny779 Good company definately is hard to find:bounce: Luckily enough i've had good company n the past;) Good company rocks:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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