SPYGIRL3 Posted March 19 Report Share Posted March 19 Originally posted by aboyfrombklyn Me? I've just been away trying to work things out with her. It was her birthday and our anniversary this past weekend. I don't know whether to call them good times or tough ones. How are things going??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aboyfrombklyn Posted March 19 Author Report Share Posted March 19 Originally posted by SPYGIRL2 How are things going??? Not too good. I think about leaving her all the time, but I just find myself going back. One of our biggest problems now is that she still wants to hang out with the people who are helping her ruin her life, a problem with both her therapist and I. Of course I'm the "bad" guy in this because they all think I'm running her life when I'm really just trying to help her make it better. She thinks she can hang out with her "friends" as long as they don't do drugs in front of her. She also thinks that she can drink, as long as she only drinks a little. My problem? How am I supposed to trust her with them when they all lied to me constantly in the past? You can't get better when you're with those people, even if they're not doing anything in front of you. Any urge she ever has will be easier to give in to when she's with them. It's that simple. They're called triggers. If you had an alcoholic brother, would you want him hanging out with his alcoholic friend? Of course not! I constantly tell her that I understand it's difficult to give up friends (I've done it plenty of times before), but if these people know that you have a problem and still continue to be a bad influence, then they're not really your friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 19 Report Share Posted March 19 Originally posted by aboyfrombklyn Not too good. I think about leaving her all the time, but I just find myself going back. One of our biggest problems now is that she still wants to hang out with the people who are helping her ruin her life, a problem with both her therapist and I. Of course I'm the "bad" guy in this because they all think I'm running her life when I'm really just trying to help her make it better. I constantly tell her that I understand it's difficult to give up friends (I've done it plenty of times before), but if these people know that you have a problem and still continue to be a bad influence, then they're not really your friends. I hear everything you are saying. It''s just so hard sometimes. Some people get in so deep, that they don't realize that people are trying to help them, not hurt them.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingartur Posted March 19 Report Share Posted March 19 why are you putting your self thru this, the longer you're with her the more harm you cause yourself. If she lied once she will always lie. you can't change people. break up with her and dont look back. My ex used to lie to me alot, i was depresed all the time. i broke up with herand my friends help me get thru it. Time heals!!! its hard to break up and not to look back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aboyfrombklyn Posted March 19 Author Report Share Posted March 19 Originally posted by kingartur why are you putting your self thru this, the longer you're with her the more harm you cause yourself. If she lied once she will always lie. you can't change people. break up with her and dont look back. My ex used to lie to me alot, i was depresed all the time. i broke up with herand my friends help me get thru it. Time heals!!! its hard to break up and not to look back. Why can't things get better? Isn't everything possible?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingartur Posted March 19 Report Share Posted March 19 Originally posted by aboyfrombklyn Why can't things get better? Isn't everything possible?? things will get better if she really loves you, and will lose you.After that she might relized what she done, and might try to change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Thats true...she's probably like o well i dont have to change because he'll always be back..once you leave and she knows its forreal..then she'll realize what she lost and change...thats my outlook on it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by destiny779 Thats true...she's probably like o well i dont have to change because he'll always be back..once you leave and she knows its forreal..then she'll realize what she lost and change...thats my outlook on it leaving/losing someone you love always hurts, but sometimes we have to do things that make us sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnneebee Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by kingartur why are you putting your self thru this, the longer you're with her the more harm you cause yourself. If she lied once she will always lie. you can't change people. break up with her and dont look back. My ex used to lie to me alot, i was depresed all the time. i broke up with herand my friends help me get thru it. Time heals!!! its hard to break up and not to look back. xactly what he said..and Time does heal...It's getting up the nerve to do it before you kill each other and prolong it. I know your reading this baby..And you agee with me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by johnneebee xactly what he said..and Time does heal...It's getting up the nerve to do it before you kill each other and prolong it. I know your reading this baby. Yep yep... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aboyfrombklyn Posted March 20 Author Report Share Posted March 20 How about you all help me get over her by joining me in a nice, big Clubplanet orgy (guys excluded)? What do you think? Just kidding, I'm a wreck.I've never been more sure of anything in my entire life, and I am sure that I want to marry her. It has to work!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingartur Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 how about we all help you get over it, by goin out and having few drinks:confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by aboyfrombklyn I've never been more sure of anything in my entire life, and I am sure that I want to marry her. It has to work!!! If that's the case, maybe she needs to miss you to see what a great guy are. Hopefully she will find herself and do some maturing.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aboyfrombklyn Posted March 20 Author Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by kingartur how about we all help you get over it, by goin out and having few drinks:confused: Thanks, but I find it difficult trying to get over my problems by drinking when that's one of her biggest problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingartur Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by aboyfrombklyn Thanks, but I find it difficult trying to get over my problems by drinking when that's one of her biggest problems. LOLbro i ment not drinking your problems away, but chillin with people keeping your mind on other things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnneebee Posted March 20 Report Share Posted March 20 Originally posted by kingartur how about we all help you get over it, by goin out and having few drinks:confused: I am starTing MY own healing process by getting a Lincoln Navigator Limo...Goin to Abyss..(first time back since nov 2000 when I quit)All are invited. Champagne on me....and brooklynboy...You don't need to go to a club and drink...they serve water...Enjoy the company you'll be with and the atmosphere that is around you.ME??????? Im gonna drink...DON'T ASK ME WHY I SMOKE...but I DRINK TO GET DRUNK!!!!1:drunk: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 21 Report Share Posted March 21 Originally posted by johnneebee I am starTing MY own healing process by getting a Lincoln Navigator Limo...Goin to Abyss..(first time back since nov 2000 when I quit)All are invited. Champagne on me....and brooklynboy...You don't need to go to a club and drink...they serve water...Enjoy the company you'll be with and the atmosphere that is around you.ME??????? Im gonna drink...DON'T ASK ME WHY I SMOKE...but I DRINK TO GET DRUNK!!!!1:drunk: Good plan:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted March 21 Report Share Posted March 21 Originally posted by johnneebee I am starTing MY own healing process by getting a Lincoln Navigator Limo...Goin to Abyss..(first time back since nov 2000 when I quit)All are invited. Champagne on me....and brooklynboy...You don't need to go to a club and drink...they serve water...Enjoy the company you'll be with and the atmosphere that is around you.ME??????? Im gonna drink...DON'T ASK ME WHY I SMOKE...but I DRINK TO GET DRUNK!!!!1:drunk: so i am thinking this is the one and only Johnee Bee from Yellow Jackets way back when..think hard...and try to remember NJClubs.com - Niko and Quest- we all came down and did a review with digital pictures and yada yada...if it rings a bell let me know...this is Niko... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnneebee Posted March 23 Report Share Posted March 23 The one & only...yes sir...How can I orget. I got yas Adios'd. How ya bin..PM me.JB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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