marcid21 Posted March 21 Report Share Posted March 21 >Do you believe in Soulmates?? >SOULMATES >It`s best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one that`s available. >Best to wait for the one you love than the one who`s around. >Best to wait for the right one because life`s too short to be wasted on just someone. >An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open and after you marry, close one eye." >Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don`t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make >you blind to warning signs. >Keep your eyes open and don`t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren`t really that important. >Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves and differences will become more obvious. >If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you`ve got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. >You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses and strengths. >You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. >Neither one of you are perfect but... >Are you perfect for each other? >Do you bring out the best in each other? >Do you compliment and compromise with each other or do you compete, compare and control? >What do you bring to the relationship? >Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? >You can`t take someone to the altar to alter them. >You can`t make someone love you or make someone stay. >If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment and "a life" you won`t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for >your pain. >Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. >Seeking status, sex and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. >What keeps a relationship strong? >Communication >Intimacy >A sense of humor >Sharing household tasks >Some getaway time without business or children >Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note) >Sharing common goals and interests >Giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure >Giving each other a sense of belonging >Assurances of commitment >If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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