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ok so i was pretty much sexually harassed at work last night

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im a bartender, for those who didnt already know, and i was serving these older men... 40s maybe... ::usually its a younger college crowd but we get some older people mixed in there sometimes:: so i just gave this guy his drink and hes looking at my chest ::at my nameplate:: and goes "im trying to figure out what ur name is... so i tell him its Lynne. and hes like oh ok.... so then i go to help the people standing next to those guys and his friend goes "whyd u ask her name? so u can ask her to show us her pussy?" and theyre talkin all loud 1st of all like i cant hear what theyre saying.... and i didnt hear what the guy said in response to that... but the same asshole then says "yea im lookin at her now... and i can see under those sweet lil panties that shes bald as can be" :worry2:

i ignored it...until 2 secs later one of the bouncers came over to see if i needed anything cuz i was workin the bar by myself last night..... i told him what they were saying so he hung around and my brothers came over every few minutes and made sure nothing else was going on... they eventually just got up and left and i didnt even acknowledge that they were sitting there after all that

can i just express to u how disgusted i felt???? i was literally nauceous. :yuck: the thought of dirty old men looking at me and talking about me like that purposely loud enough so i could hear? it made me so sick.

:(

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i guess when ur old , bald , fat , hairy , lonely , part of the construction crowd , kickin it with just a HS diploma to your name , perverted , morally corrupted etc etc you tend to disrespect women like that..that shit kills me ..wtf did they think? that its a porno and u were gona tell them to meet u out back after ur shift for a good old fashioned gang bang? fuckin dickheads..and to top it off..why the hell would u talk about the bar tender like that? i mean she/he is the person mixing ur drinks..U shoulda spat in their shit..

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Originally posted by linabina

im a bartender, for those who didnt already know, and i was serving these older men... 40s maybe... ::usually its a younger college crowd but we get some older people mixed in there sometimes:: so i just gave this guy his drink and hes looking at my chest ::at my nameplate:: and goes "im trying to figure out what ur name is... so i tell him its Lynne. and hes like oh ok.... so then i go to help the people standing next to those guys and his friend goes "whyd u ask her name? so u can ask her to show us her pussy?" and theyre talkin all loud 1st of all like i cant hear what theyre saying.... and i didnt hear what the guy said in response to that... but the same asshole then says "yea im lookin at her now... and i can see under those sweet lil panties that shes bald as can be" :worry2:

i ignored it...until 2 secs later one of the bouncers came over to see if i needed anything cuz i was workin the bar by myself last night..... i told him what they were saying so he hung around and my brothers came over every few minutes and made sure nothing else was going on... they eventually just got up and left and i didnt even acknowledge that they were sitting there after all that

can i just express to u how disgusted i felt???? i was literally nauceous. :yuck: the thought of dirty old men looking at me and talking about me like that purposely loud enough so i could hear? it made me so sick.

:(

Now you know Britney Spears feels.....Dirty old fucks with there fucking mid life crisis.

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Originally posted by linabina

im a bartender, for those who didnt already know, and i was serving these older men... 40s maybe... ::usually its a younger college crowd but we get some older people mixed in there sometimes:: so i just gave this guy his drink and hes looking at my chest ::at my nameplate:: and goes "im trying to figure out what ur name is... so i tell him its Lynne. and hes like oh ok.... so then i go to help the people standing next to those guys and his friend goes "whyd u ask her name? so u can ask her to show us her pussy?" and theyre talkin all loud 1st of all like i cant hear what theyre saying.... and i didnt hear what the guy said in response to that... but the same asshole then says "yea im lookin at her now... and i can see under those sweet lil panties that shes bald as can be" :worry2:

i ignored it...until 2 secs later one of the bouncers came over to see if i needed anything cuz i was workin the bar by myself last night..... i told him what they were saying so he hung around and my brothers came over every few minutes and made sure nothing else was going on... they eventually just got up and left and i didnt even acknowledge that they were sitting there after all that

can i just express to u how disgusted i felt???? i was literally nauceous. :yuck: the thought of dirty old men looking at me and talking about me like that purposely loud enough so i could hear? it made me so sick.

:(

That is what comes with the territory. Not that you should accept behavior such us that.

Lot of pressure , rise above it, harness the good energy, BLOCK the BAD. Harness, Energy, block bad, feel the flow, its circular. It's like a carousel, you pay the quarter and get on the horse it goes up and down, and around, circluar, circle, with the music, the flow. All good things!

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Originally posted by rdancer

That is what comes with the territory. Not that you should accept behavior such us that.

Lot of pressure , rise above it, harness the good energy, BLOCK the BAD. Harness, Energy, block bad, feel the flow, its circular. It's like a carousel, you pay the quarter and get on the horse it goes up and down, and around, circluar, circle, with the music, the flow. All good things!

honestly it shouldn't come with the territory.. i just think that guys have absolutely no tact when it comes to females in that setting. I used to bartend and i'd always get the comments, the disgusting advances and the occasional slap on the butt..

however, most of the guys I worked with were hit on by girls but in a respectfull way.

I'm not saying that all mean are pigs but I am saying that there is a population of guys out there who just don't know what it means to be appropriate or respectfull...

for example when i was working one night we were short staffed on the floor so I was waiting tables instead of behind the bar.. Turned out that there were TONS of tourists in town that night and some guy literally picked me up of the floor and plopped me down on his lap... how disrespectfull...

:mad:

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i Have been a bartender for seven years(Oh my god, that's too fucking long) And if that shit happens at my bar to one of my girls he is getting knocked the fuck out or tossed out by his teeth. There' one guy with a permanantly crooked nose who can verify this. Being a hotgirl bartender requires some mental toughnesss. You need to stand up immediately and tell them to shut the fuck up. Most guys especially old men will shut the fuck up and apologize. Your a bartender it's a fucking job, your not required to take any more abuse than a fucking secretary, you just make more money and get to wear nicer clothes. If the people at the bar don't defend you get another job, because theyre supposed to.

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That's disgusting... by saying it "goes with the territory," you could also say it goes with being a woman... but does that make it right? And does that mean we should just accept it for what it is? It's degrading and condescending. I wish I could get inside the head of one of these guys just to see what the fuck they hope to accomplish by bullshit like that... Ugggh... And no matter how you try to play it off by saying they're just stupid and slimy, somehow YOU are the one left feeling gross... And to have to deal with that at work of all places??? Fucking disgusting. I feel for ya sweety.

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Originally posted by tastyt

That's disgusting... by saying it "goes with the territory," you could also say it goes with being a woman... but does that make it right? And does that mean we should just accept it for what it is? It's degrading and condescending. I wish I could get inside the head of one of these guys just to see what the fuck they hope to accomplish by bullshit like that... Ugggh... And no matter how you try to play it off by saying they're just stupid and slimy, somehow YOU are the one left feeling gross... And to have to deal with that at work of all places??? Fucking disgusting. I feel for ya sweety.

Your right, and when your right, your right! that is discusting I agree, but its a fact of life in which we live. Its our world, our society. I dont accept so I dont do it , I dont grab girls in clubs, I dont flaunt women in public unless they want me 2. So In a way I dont accept so I dont do it Kapeesh!:idea:

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thanks guys... i mean... when ur a female bartender... u r gonna get hit on... and i wont lie- it happens all the time... but most times its guys offering to buy me a shot, a drink, just harmless flirting cuz there's always one rule- the guy will never get the bartender lol... no matter how much she seems interested, all she wants is more money from ur pocket ;) kinda like bein a stripper.... but anyway... that has nothing to do with this... but yea- its gross when it happens like that... dirty men who have nothing better to do than come to a bar sit there gawking and making nasty comments about her body??? blech. nasty.

but like someone already said, it comes with the territory, but it doesnt make it right and u DO have to be emotionally and mentally strong to handle that shit and block it out. which i did.

but still.... :puke:

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Originally posted by rdancer

Your right, and when your right, your right! that is discusting I agree, but its a fact of life in which we live. Its our world, our society. I dont accept so I dont do it , I dont grab girls in clubs, I dont flaunt women in public unless they want me 2. So In a way I dont accept so I dont do it Kapeesh!:idea:

I was saying it more as a general statement rather than directing it at you... but these are still words to live by. :)

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Some guys just dont get it Lina, one of my good friends was a bartender. We use to go see her as much as we could and I remember always saying something to the guys who use to 'dis her. One night we had to take a guy outside and teach him some respect, sounds like these guys needed a "lesson!"

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. . . listen . . as the harbinger of booze, you're gonna have to come to terms with the fact that there are gonna be times when beer swillin yokels are gonna get unruly . . .

. . what'cha do is this . . . the next time the proverbial jackass says something snide, just tell him you're banging his wife . . . no. . wait that don't work . .

. . . ok. . . bear wtih me, I've been driniking . . the next time the jackass makes a comment just tell him that if he was a real man, he'd be wearing a pink tutu and hooking down in times squarewith the rest of the monkey spawn . . .

. . . ?? . . .

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