from your responses there is no right or wrong answer.. Each situation is uniques and may call for differnt decision making, whether as B2b says a joint while Blkueangel and othe women says it should nbe up to the woman. although i hat eto kill life, is it really life until teh baby comes into the world? while its still in my body it belongs to me. B2b has a good point in that the fathert should have a say it is not easy situation to resolve. thats why i am so confused.