legendary

I don't know what happened, but although I already wrote a posting to this thread, I didn't get a notification anymore when the last view postings came in. Very interesting postings, I must admit, which made me laugh for the first time today. It's not that I really want to reply to anything that was said before. I just enjoyed Julianne's skills as an author, especially the ring that could replace a lighthouse was so original, I wonder where you get these ideas . I never proposed to a girl in my whole life. Guess I'm not rich enough Or maybe I just don't believe in making promises that are hard to keep. Why promise ever lasting love, if you can just show it? I don't need to be married to a girl to be happy with her. But how did I start to talk about marriage? I don't know... just slipped out of my mind Bye bye, Legend

This was the first message I got from this board in weeks, so I just HAD to respond right away. Actually I thought more people would respond to this rather unusal thread, but again - still surprisingly - I was wrong (until now). Tigereyes, I can tell you, there ARE more men like me in this world, only that they all are already married to girls they fell in love with right after Highschool No I'm kidding, of course. I think the main problem is that men just want totally different things when they go out. I just made up a real funny comparison for this: If you tell a man that you just want to have a nice talk when going out, it seems to him as if you are going to a restaurant looking for somebody who doesn't eat. Maybe the comparison isn't as bad as I thought. As I wrote before, that night in the pub I had it on my plate, and when I had it on my plate I totally felt the difference between appetite and hunger. So, when women go out, they have appetite, when men go out, they are hungry? To extend the image, for the man all women are like a big buffet, they look for the best food and then they just want to take it (and of course they don't expect the food to say 'no I don't want to be eaten by you' ). Don't give up, tigereyes, and next time somebody talks to you and tries to pick you up, just think of the food-comparison and you will laugh about it Have fun and don't forget to eat enough vitamins! Bye, Legend

This was honestly one of the most enjoyable postings for a long time. Your articulate and imaginative way of describing things really enlightened me, I wish I had more time these days to try one of these postings on my own. But besides that, due to my language handicap it is difficult to accomplish the level of elegance you definitely filled every sentence with! My compliments! Believe me or not, I tend to think I might be one of these nice guys you talk about. I meet most of the qualities you count up in your posting, my biggest mistakes might be that I am unfortunately short on time and haven't been able to meet you for three weeks now, and that I totally lost my mind somewhen at the age of 9 and wander through the world with an unbound crazy mind since then... Hope to get back to you soon... Don't think I forgot you (that means both of you) Have a lucky day! Bye bye birdy, the Legend also known as the Man who doesn't exist

Folks, I am still alive, work kept me busy for the last two weeks, I am sorry if you felt neglected, but I had no other choice. Besides that, I didn't have any good stories to tell lately, maybe I should go out more often, which then conflicts with the plenty of work I had to do, so maybe it's why I don't have anything to tell (Already confused?) Anyways, I will get back to you guys as soon as possible, Zeonstar just tell me what I missed, give me something to think and write about! Fairie, thanks for the compliments, you are just too kind! Have a nice day, I'll be back soon, with all best regards, Legend

Honestly, I would be shocked if a girl WANTED to take me home just because we had eye contact and a good dance. As you said, actually this is all just to have fun. Nobody signed a contract at the front doors saying 'Yes I agree to take home the person I have best eye contact with'. I wish people would not so much focus on obligation and taking someone home. For guys, it's always the 'how do I get to know someone' and for girls it's the 'how do I not make him think I'm interested'. That's not the way it should be. I can dance with a girl, have eye contact, dance close, talk to her and enjoy the evening, and still I wouldn't expect or think she'd take me home or something. But maybe it's because I don't expect much of other people. For me everything stays within the club walls. As soon as I leave the front doors, I don't expect a person to even know me anymore, not to speak of the next time I see that person. I never force somebody in saying hi to me just because I talked to her last week. I wait until I see some recognition or a smile or if they come to me and say hi. If they don't, I just let it be. Don't think you will lead a guy on just because you make him feel good by looking at him. It's their fault, not yours. Most of them are already mislead when they enter the club, because they have wrong expectations and will already see it as a sign when you bump into them incidentally on the dancefloor. Just be as you are and don't stop doing things because they could be misinterpreted! Best regards, Legend

You are totally right, that is exactly what I was talking about. When you look at someone and make eye contact, you recognize this person as an individual. For you it's a normal process, but many girls don't even do that. They never look at you, they treat you like a replaceable piece of human being, they don't really care who the guy is they are dancing with. That's all I meant by saying that a girl is interested when she makes eye contact. Your interest is in dancing, of course, and I did not intend to imply any further interest in a simple eye contact. In contrary, that is the problem that eye contact way too often gets overinterpreted by guys who think the girl really wants to say something by looking at them. And I think that is why these other girls just stopped looking guys into the eyes, because they don't want to cause any undesired reaction. So, in case you thought that we have different opinions, I hope I was able to clear that up a bit. I'm glad to know that in fact there are girls who still make eye contact, dance and have fun and show that they do care who they are dancing with. A womans look, deep in the eye, can make you live, or even die. Legend.

Bouncey, thanks for your answer, it's always good to hear some opinions from 'the other side'. When I went out last weekend I could see it many times again on others, you can really see if a girl is interested in the guy she is dancing with (and I am talking about interest in a personal matter, which does not necessarily have to do with sex) by the way she looks at him (or not). I only wish more guys would learn how to read these eye signs, this would safe you women a lot of annoying jerks. Back to work... so only a short answer... you'll here more from me soon! Bye, Legend

Hi RQ, this is only a short answer because I don't have much more time left right now, but I wanted at least to give you some feedback... I know I said it once, and I will say it again: Sounds to me as if you fuck the wrong guys? Don't give up hope on men, because you know me and you know them I am not like them. So there must be others like me out there, who actually appreciate who you are and respect and worship you the way you deserve it! I do. Happy New Year, Legend

Yo Zeonstar, happy New Year to you and to everybody else! I had a good time here in San Francisco, I hope you are all doing fine... not it's back to work and I didn't have as much problems getting up at 7am as I thought So tell me, who is Stacie? What does she doe, how old is she, where does she live, what does she do for a living, please post a complete detailed description and resume in here No honestly, I want to know more... what happened to the other girl who's name I already happened to forget? Shauna or something... and what about this other older woman who seduced you? Don't think you can hide anything from me, I will dig it out, no matter how deep you burried it So, let's get back to endless posting length and post some of the stuff I want to hear! Greetings, Legend

Yesterday I visited our local Irish pub, which I was looking for all week... as some of you might know, I work a lot, so I really focus on these few moments when I can leave the office and relax a little bit, go out to dance and have fun or just a drink, and hopefully a nice talk. I had everything above yesterday, especially the nice talk. I talked to a woman who was really deep into esoteric stuff, she already knew the names for her children which all were some celtic names for earth, wind, air and so on. I found this really amusing and better than the usual small talk. Besides that she was apparently attracted by me, especially when we talked about how I think a man should please a woman (of course I was teasing her, but hey, it was all fun) and that giving without obligation is one of the best things (and I truly believe that). But later that evening something amazing happened to me. As the night went on and the pub was about to close, I knew I could take her home or follow her home and do some erotic instead of esoteric. WAIT, this is not what is amazing about that. Amazing is that I said NO. Amazing is that in this very moment I realized that I don't want to hook up with some girl from a club, that I don't want some woman to take me home, that my need for tenderness and the touch of a woman does not overrule my principles. Sometimes when I meet someone I think about what could have happened, how it could have been like, but this time it was all in my hand, and I refused. She was nice, of course, attractive, great body, and she didn't seem at all like the girl who takes someone home everytime she goes out. The only reason why I didn't go with her was me. And I am only telling you this because I think it's a good thing. What do you think? Legend

As far as I remember I have been the older one in all but two cases. But I don't really look for the age. It's the chemistry that counts, and the older you get the more irrelevant age gets. Who cares when I am 50 and my wife is 56? So why then should it be a big thing if I am 24 and she is 30? I agree that it is a difference if I am 16 and she is 22, but it's only a matter of maturity. So let's drop the talk about age, I think we all agree that it doesn't really matter as long as you are 'compatible' Have fun! Legend

Damn it! I wrote a long posting (AGAIN!) and it got lost (AGAIN!!!), now I am really starting to hate it. Do I have to write my postings in a text editor first and then copy them into this windows to be sure they don't get lost by some stupid server error? What I was saying (and now I am really going to keep this short) is that I feel that me and some other nice guys out there have to pay the price because all the stupid and jerky guys scare the women away. I completely understand that you are carefull and picky about whom you look at or into his eyes or that you don't want anyone to think you could be interested or feel comfortable dancing with him, because he could turn out to be one of these never-let-go stalker all-over-you guys one minute later. Uh, I'm sorry, I wrote so much more before, but I really can't repeat all that now. I just want to say: Don't lose hope, there are also nice guys like me out there who will always help you to get rid of some unwanted drunk company. Maybe I'll come back later and finish the posting... But it has to be enough for now. Legend

To oldskoolgrrrl: This sentence with the no sex for three weeks was supposed to sound ironic, I know that three weeks is no time, I know what it means to be in a relation-ship where the partner is far away and you have to be patient for weeks and months. And I am absolutely not the type of guy who takes home a woman or lets himself taken home by a woman just to have sex because it has been X weeks and Y days since the last time. I can be quite resistant (which can also be quite appealing to some women who are just fed up with the easy-to-get type of guy). I am not challenging you or anything, this is just a fact. But apparently I am older than the average age of guys who ask you out, anyways See you around, bye bye, Legend

I guess you must be my lost twin brother or something, you almost behave like me now, I guess my little self-confidence speech made you a ladykiller There's almost nothing to add, only that you should be careful about seeing her again. She might not behave the same way next time you see her, but on the other hand she also might do... just don't expect too much, but it looks as if you pretty much figured it out by yourself now! I sort of envy you, didn't have sex for quite some time now (oh my god, exactly 3 weeks by now) and I could use a female hug (and a blowjob). Oh now I shocked everybody who liked me until this point. But I have to admit that although I seem to have a divine personality, I do have some of these human basic (and awesome good) sexual desires, but unlike most other men I am able to control them (that's why it has been 3 weeks). I just don't see any reason not to talk about it. So, I guess there nothing left to say than good luck Zeonstar, welcome to the world of men who actually get the woman they want to take home Cya soon, keep me updated with the latest news, Legend

Oh how I hate this... I wrote a big fat long nice message and then the fucking site wouldn't load anymore when I tried to submit it and all I had written was gone. I really want to tell this story, so I will repeat it one more time, but not as detailed as before because it's just too much for me right now Okay, remember when I told you about women and eye contact while dancing? I think I said that most of them don't look into your eyes, or very rarely, or they just turn around and dance with their back towards you, which can be quite appealing for some time, but gets boring after a while because you get the feeling that she really isn't interested in you very much. You feel replaceable - and that's what you are! Last weekend proved me wrong. And I'm glad it did. First of all I have to admit that we cheated on San Francisco Polly's because we went to the San Jose Polly's (CA, not Costa Rica!) instead. I had never been there before so we wanted to check it out, it was supposed to be bigger, three dancefloors and all that stuff. Actually it was bigger, but as you will see in a minute I didn't spend much time on checking the interior of the club, because all my attention got melted down to one point - a woman of course. She is the absolute incarnation of THE pinup girl with long blonde hair, a beautiful face and curves that give the expression Silicon Valley a totally new sense. Real or not, she was an eyecatcher, and I saw her after a few minutes when I was standing upstairs at a point where you can look down to the people dancing on the dancefloor. This was just a few seconds before she saw me. She looked and smiled at me, but I didn't think much about it, because se had a guy with her and women look and check out men all the time. But I just couldn't look away from her, and the most amazing thing was, she kept looking at me. Her guy was behind her and didn't even notice it, although he tried to get her attention, but she kept looking and smiling at me. I waited to see if she also does it with other people, but even when she turned around for a while, as soon as she looked back up, she looked at me. I am a gentleman type of guy, so I really don't dance with women usually who have a guy with them, and surely not when the guy looks like the macho-I'll-knock-you-down type of guy who could cause serious damage to himself trying to hit me But then I thought, okay there is nothing wrong in getting a little bit closer, he didn't notice me until now anyways. But when I went downstairs to the dancefloor, they left the dancefloor at the same time, heading to another room. I didn't want to look like a stalker, so I waited for a few minutes and then I slowly followed them, only to see that as soon as I entered the room she saw me at the entrance just as if she waited all the time for me to get it. When she saw me, she smiled at me again and I smiled back, heading towards her position. At this time, I really didn't pay attention to anything else than her anymore. Actually she had another girlfriend with her who also had a guy with her. Both the guys seemed to be sort of drunk, and they did nothing else (for the rest of the evening, as I was going to find out) but try to grasp and touch the girls. So the girls pushed them away (although they were with them, but it looked as if they were for sure not in a closer relationship yet) because they wanted to dance. Then the guys made them get on a little platform and dance there. After a few minutes they finally gave in and got up there, which draw the attention of quite a bunch of men on them. They all looked at the girls, me amongst them, but she still looked at me. She danced on the platform facing me (I was about 10 feet away from her), still looking and smiling at me, and I looked and smiled back. She never looked away from me, not when the guy tried to get her attention or touch her or make her get into some sexual movements, and she looked at me so much that even the other guys who where standing around noticed it, asking themselves why she was looking at me and what the hell this other guy was trying to do at her ass. To shorten this a little bit, I never got to know her name or anything, and I never really danced with her, but when she was dancing on the platform (and later when she was dancing on the floor right in front of me), I was dancing too, so it felt as if we were dancing together. And we were looking at each other all the time. The end is more or less unspectacular: She went home with that guy after he wasn't even able to have the last dance with her. You know, when they play this smooch song at the end and the couples just get close together and dance, he still tried to grab, grasp and touch her in a sexual way, which she obviously disliked, turned around and left the scene. That was the last time I saw her. Don't get me wrong. I am not planning on seeing her again and I don't put any emotion into this girl. It's just that I really liked the way she looked at me and that apparently she was as amazed by me as I was by her. I call this spontaneus attraction, even though we both knew there is no room for that, having her guy all around her. But still, I feel that she gave me more than any other girl I ever danced with, even when they were dancing closer with me, because she paid 100% attention to me, even more than she paid to the guy she brought with her. I felt appreciated for my indivuality, because there were lots of other guys she could have looked at, but she chose me. Of course she doesn't have a clue about my personality, but at least something between us made us look at each other for the whole evening. I like that, when suddenly the unexpected does happen and I just feel good about myself, enjoy my time and go home with a smile End of story. So, what unexpected things happened to you lately? Have a good time, Legend