well, my parents split when i was a junior in hs, and it caused major ripples in mine, my brother's and especially my sister's lives. my father's parents were divorced, but not my mother's so i dont know if u can really call that a pattern...all i do know is that i hope all the time that i am never put in that position ever again, whether i am in the relationship or one of my siblings, and def hope that my kids never have to go throught it....