Relax, man. You act as if people aren't trying. It's not very easy to open a new venue. You act like you're the only person with any fucking ambition. Why are "we" paying to get into restaurants when "we" can be paying to get into nicely done clubs? I don't know. That's for you to figure out. But, it's most likely because your promoter friends are convincing you to go out to places that you would not have preferred to go in the first place.