tastey Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 She says:I don't want to dance.But, what she is really saying is:Physically, you don't turn me on, and since that's all I see and knowabout you, I'm not interested in being with you.She says:Don't touch me, or get your hands off of me.But, what she is really saying is:You haven't said or done anything that emotionally turns me on and makesme want to be with you, let alone touch me.She says:I don't want a relationship right now.But, what she is really saying is:I don't want involved with you.She says:Women mature faster.But, what she is really saying is:Men are such jerks.She says:Men are such jerks.But, what she is really saying is:Somehow convince me you're not like every guy I've been meeting.She says:Women know more.But, what she is really saying is:Pretend that I and the rest of my gender are really superior to men by notsaying that which goes against what I am wanting to believe.She says:God, I'm tired --or-- I'm beat --or-- I really am tired this evening.But, what she is really saying is:You better not be expecting to be with, let alone have sex with me this evening.She says:I don't get paid enough.But, what she is really saying is:I want you to spend your money and buy me things.She says:I don't understand how some people can have sex with someone they just met.But, what she is really saying is:If you want to get into me, be prepared to wine me and dine me for awhile.She says:Not now.But, what she is really saying is:You haven't made our being together exciting/loving enough to make me wantto have sex in this environment/now.She says:I'm afraid.But, what she is really saying is:I'm so damn excited I'm almost ready to piss in my pants. I just need youto reassure me that everything is going to be fine and I won't regret it.She says:I won't do it.But, what she is really saying is:If someone were to somehow convince me that I would feel great in doingit, I'd do it in a heartbeat.She says:My last boyfriend was cheap.But what she is really saying is:Any guy who wants me now, is going to have to spend some serious money onme first.She says:What do you do?But, what she is really saying is:How much are you worth? How much money do you have? What's your creditlike? Can you support me? Can you support a family?She says:Do you live around here?But, what she is really saying is:Do you have your own home? Are you financially stable? Will I have totravel far to see you if you have your own home and are financiallystable?She says:Tell me about your last girlfriend(s).But, what she is really saying is:Tell me what you like and don't like in a woman so I can compare myself toit and see if I am like that, or if I'm going to have to make somechanges, and if so, will those changes bother me?She says:Describe the kind of woman you're interested in (or like, or want).But, what she is really saying is:Tell me about me, and how much you like/love/want me.She says:Tell me (a little) about yourself.But, what she is really saying is:I have this mental checklist of what my kind of ideal man should have, beand so forth, and I want to see how you measure up.She says:I'm not very pretty (beautiful).But, what she is really saying is:Tell me how beautiful I am and help me feel really great about myself.She says:I'm not very good at...But, what she is really saying is:(1) I'm so damn good at it, I have to force myself to lose.(2) I'm playing the helpless woman and allowing you to build up your bigmale ego by winning.She says:I don't know much about xBut, what she is really saying is:(1) I know so damn much about it, the only way I can learn more is topretend I don't.(2) I know so much about it, that I'm going to watch you make an ass outof yourself.(3) Everyone has taken care of and done things for me, and now it's yourturn to do the same.She says:I like you--a lot!But, what she is really sayings is:Tell me you love me so I can admit/say I love you too.She says:I love you.But, what she is really saying is:You better not say anything other then you love me, because if you don'tI'll be devasted.She says:Do you like kids?But, what she is really saying is:(1) Are you ready to settle down with just one woman?(2) I'm tired of birth control.(3) I feel my biological clock ticking.(4) I sure would like to stop working in business for awhile.She says:Tell me (a little) about your family.But, what she is really saying is:I wonder what our kids would be like if we were to have kids together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattm2o Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 OK Terrific! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 She says:What do you do?But, what she is really saying is:How much are you worth? How much money do you have? What's your creditlike? Can you support me? Can you support a family? She says:Tell me about your last girlfriend(s).But, what she is really saying is:Tell me what you like and don't like in a woman so I can compare myself toit and see if I am like that, or if I'm going to have to make somechanges, and if so, will those changes bother me? :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dknybabe2929 Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Some of those were so funny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedqt Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by tastey She says:I don't want a relationship right now.But, what she is really saying is:I don't want involved with you. Very true :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by browneyedqt Very true :laugh: is it always though I've had a girl tell that to me who genuinly wasn't ready . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedqt Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by gmccookny is it always though I've had a girl tell that to me who genuinly wasn't ready . Lets put it this way, I broke up with a long term boyfriend a little less then a year ago....I met a guy a couple of months ago and I kept feeling that I wasn't ready to settle down again, even though he was, I just wasn't...I met my current boyfriend and in like 2 days I knew I was ready to settle down, without any concerns about my ex....I think if you find the right person and it's there you make yourself ready, I wasn't ready for the other guy even though it wasn't too long ago b/c it wasn't right Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAZE Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by tastey She says:I don't want a relationship right now.But, what she is really saying is:I don't want to be involved with you.She says:I'm afraid.But, what she is really saying is:I'm so damn excited I'm almost ready to piss in my pants. I just need you to reassure me that everything is going to be fine and I won't regret it. I know these two all too well.Ugh... :worry2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedqt Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by DarrellG I know these two all too well.Ugh... :worry2: the "I'm afraid" one is a good thing, trust me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Well, i still think that if a girl says "i don't want to be in a relationship", it does mean she wants to keep her options open, but it doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want to get involved with you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAZE Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by browneyedqt the "I'm afraid" one is a good thing, trust me What if she says both? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedqt Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by DarrellG What if she says both? Combined??? Like.... I don't want a relationship now cause i'm afraid?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted February 3 Author Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by gmccookny Well, i still think that if a girl says "i don't want to be in a relationship", it does mean she wants to keep her options open, but it doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want to get involved with you... dude, girls know very well if they want to get with you or not after a pretty short evaluation time."i´m not ready for a new relationship" or "i don´t want a relationship right now" means she is either -letting you down ("rejecting you") gently OR -in some rare (well, not rare, but more rare the first option, which is QUITE common) cases she is saying she is open for a fuckbuddy relationship / ONS cause she´s physically attracted to you, nothing else though.welcome to reality... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAZE Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by browneyedqt Combined??? Like.... I don't want a relationship now cause i'm afraid?? Yea Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedqt Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by tastey dude, girls know very well if they want to get with you or not after a pretty short evaluation time. Very true Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedqt Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by DarrellG Yea I think it's still good because it means that they are scared you will hurt them, and you are scared of being hurt when you care about someone....to me if someone combines the two they want to be reassured that you aren't gonna hurt them cause they actually do want to be with you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted February 3 Author Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by DarrellG What if she says both? i´m assuming you are getting this when you are already close (meaning, she presented interest in you, you are sitting/standing somewhere close together, bodies touching, talking slow and deep, etc.)validate what she´s saying, demonstrate understanding of "her world", reassure that it´s "allright". move on with going for the kill (=kiss). if she lets you continue you´re "in". if not you´ll get a CLEAR sign now from her that she doesn´t want anything from you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 OK, i appreciate all your input, but i don't think my situation fits into any of these cateogories And everyone i've explained my situation to is totally clueless about how this girl is acting. Sux when relationships make no sense :worry2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAZE Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 Originally posted by browneyedqt I think it's still good because it means that they are scared you will hurt them, and you are scared of being hurt when you care about someone....to me if someone combines the two they want to be reassured that you aren't gonna hurt them cause they actually do want to be with you Well, I've assured her I won't about a million times, so now it's up to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kelly0616 Posted February 3 Report Share Posted February 3 very true Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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