dgmodel Posted April 24 Report Share Posted April 24 how come when youre in a relationship and the person breaks up with you they say youve changed, yet before the relationship women love to change men, lil fixer uppers, or like handywomans dreams and ish... or they say its not you its me ive changed... how come most ppl do not realise that ppl do not change but their lives do... very rarely have encountered an old friend or an ex or etc who really changed (outside of physically of course)... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassa Posted April 24 Report Share Posted April 24 i think change is inevitable when youre in a long term relationship..naturally there will be some things that you have to change, such as the amount of time you spend away from your beau, or certain characteristics about you that may make your mate uncomfortable...i don't think that's such a bad thing...but if you drastically change the ultimate and core elements of what makes you YOU, then that is not good...and actually would depict a weak personality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted April 24 Author Report Share Posted April 24 i agree with you a hundred and ten percent... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naughtybabe Posted April 24 Report Share Posted April 24 Dg you made me think of Reina's song! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghhhhhost Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 shitty song Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigpoppanils Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by naughtybabe Dg you made me think of Reina's song! great...now you made me think of it :cuss: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted April 25 Author Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by naughtybabe Dg you made me think of Reina's song! lol thats what made me think of this thread, i was driving alone and that song came on, and it made me think of this crappy thread... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by dgmodel how come when youre in a relationship and the person breaks up with you they say youve changed, yet before the relationship women love to change men, lil fixer uppers, or like handywomans dreams and ish... either the challenge of changing you is gone because she actually succeeded in changing you... or she simply GAVE UP changing you cause she now sees she CAN`T change you and can´t live with the things she wanted to fix in the first place. (look at the assholes that always have changing girlfriends... these girls TRY to change him and don´t succeed. they give up and usually act in a way that makes the asshole reject her)or it´s just a lame excuse for breaking up with you because she met a new guy / is dissatisfied with something she won´t adress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 oh and the solution:always let her change LITTLE things about you, but never something something big or something of importance. like the slot machine in the casinos. people never get the jackpot, the small wins keep them hoping though and keep them investing more money in the machine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted April 25 Author Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by tastey either the challenge of changing you is gone because she actually succeeded in changing you... or she simply GAVE UP changing you cause she now sees she CAN`T change you and can´t live with the things she wanted to fix in the first place. (look at the assholes that always have changing girlfriends... these girls TRY to change him and don´t succeed. they give up and usually act in a way that makes the asshole reject her)or it´s just a lame excuse for breaking up with you because she met a new guy / is dissatisfied with something she won´t adress oh this isnt me, just had this thought, so many ppl say this crap, so i was just wondering... (and it just so happends that a friends relationship ended 'cause of this reason as well) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by tastey oh and the solution:always let her change LITTLE things about you, but never something something big or something of importance. like the slot machine in the casinos. people never get the jackpot, the small wins keep them hoping though and keep them investing more money in the machine Thats a real idiotic solution Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by sweetie029 Thats a real idiotic solution Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by dgmodel oh this isnt me, just had this thought, so many ppl say this crap, so i was just wondering... (and it just so happends that a friends relationship ended 'cause of this reason as well) i wasn´t adressing you, i intended to use a "generic" you. as in "one should do"="you should do". i can´t use it that way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Maybe the person hasn't actually changed... it could be that their sig.o. is finally seeing them as they truly are, all illusions dropped. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by tastyt Maybe the person hasn't actually changed... it could be that their sig.o. is finally seeing them as they truly are, all illusions dropped. very good point too!i can talk as someone that used to put on masks ALL the time. those that are here longer may remember my posts. i was all "be the one that she WANTS to fuck". chameleon-style. it WORKED, but in the end it wasn´t as fulfilling. now i do it completely the other way round. i demonstrate value for a short time. like in the first 5 minutes i sell myself. THEN i pull back and start qualifying her for my needs (not only looks but also the character traits) and eventually become the BUYER she has to convince to BUY the product (her).and even though i became very good at holding up these images ("masks"), i lasted 3 months MAX. after three months the masks just fall or become very visible. so since dg mentioned this was about longer relationships and i suppose longer means at LEAST 6 months i dunno if this point comes into effect in this case Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by tastey very good point too!i can talk as someone that used to put on masks ALL the time. those that are here longer may remember my posts. i was all "be the one that she WANTS to fuck". chameleon-style. it WORKED, but in the end it wasn´t as fulfilling. now i do it completely the other way round. i demonstrate value for a short time. like in the first 5 minutes i sell myself. THEN i pull back and start qualifying her for my needs (not only looks but also the character traits) and eventually become the BUYER she has to convince to BUY the product (her).and even though i became very good at holding up these images ("masks"), i lasted 3 months MAX. after three months the masks just fall or become very visible. so since dg mentioned this was about longer relationships and i suppose longer means at LEAST 6 months i dunno if this point comes into effect in this case LOL... that's not quite how I meant it. I didn't mean that one person was consciously "masking" their true self from the other person, for whatever reason. I meant it more along the lines of... when you first meet someone, there's a tendency to see that person in a certain way... good or bad... ignoring things that contradict this image. It probably has to do with first impressions, and obviously it also has a lot to do with what we *want* from that person, or more like life in general.Then one day you look at that person... and its as if they're a stranger. That person hasn't changed any... you're just dropping whatever misconstrued ideas you had *in your own head*, and seeing that person for who s/he really is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 aha! THEN of course i agree wholeheartedly (lol is that a word?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted April 25 Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by tastey aha! THEN of course i agree wholeheartedly (lol is that a word?) Yup, it certainly is! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted April 25 Author Report Share Posted April 25 Originally posted by tastey i wasn´t adressing you, i intended to use a "generic" you. as in "one should do"="you should do". i can´t use it that way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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