wow, this is all so true. the last guy i was with, we broke up with the agreement to always be friends because we were friends before anything else. two weeks later, we were clubbing together and he brought his new gf and even when he was making out with her in front of me, i honestly felt happy for him. at the time, i thought we were friends and i was glad that we still had each other in some way, and that if we couldn't make each other happy in the way that we wanted, then at least he found a girl who could then. well, i didn't think to question why he had a gf so immediately after we'd broken up. when i did, i realized they'd been seeing each other for quite a while, a lot longer than two weeks. so, this definitely added to the equation of our not being friends now. some things i figure/learned: 1. most people you know will never deserve your full trust 2. you will more likely than not be an ex someday. if he's not friends with his exes, you probably won't be friends with him when you're done with him 3. people aren't together because they each choose the "best"; they choose who they're most compatible with