i understand where you're coming from, but the thing of it is... you love her, you want to be with her, but you wanna 'do ur thing' too? well, how would you feel if SHE wanted to be with you, but 'go play the field' and keep you around during the process? you gotta look at it through the other perspective. and on a more personal note, i was with a guy for almost 3 years. he was great to me, we were great together, but i was his first girlfriend and he was away for college. so we broke up, not because anything was wrong, but because thats what he needed. so now we are great friends, and he insinuates that he wants to get back together all the time, but unfortunately that part of me that loved him in the romantic sense isnt there anymore. so you'll take a risk, but if its one that has to be made, then follow ur gut instinct.