I never thought people would actually look at this thread. I feel so loved online. I actually thought, when you guys asked who the attachment was you were referring to me. But obviously the huge signature in the nice pink lingerie! But the small pic was me.
Well, the person I mentioned ended up dumping me because we weren't meeting up often enough, which was true. Also we didn't have a bed in our relationship anymore, which didn't help.
But after that I literally went crazy, and was actually driven to misery! Which maybe means I had a bit of true love going on, according to granny's advice!
The thing about "being friends first" I find doesn't work. There is like a completely different approach to dating and being true friends, isn't there? And once you do have a platonic friendship, it's hard to see that person as more than a brother/sister, or break to them that you seem them as more than a friend in case it ruins your friendship and s/he doesn't feel the same way!
There's just a huge difference in the way you speak to and look at and feel with a lover, compared to a good friend, which is not interchangeable. You don't play mind games with your romantic interest, or tell them the worst, most embarrassing details of your daily life? And you usually chat to your friends about your relationship, dissecting every thought you have about it - you can't directly talk to the person you're going out with about certain things, otherwise they'd think you were obsessed and weird.
Maybe I just try and seem immaculate, faultless and problem-free when I'm going out with someone, almost putting on a front & trying to be the perfect g/f. When really, I should let my hair down and be the faulty goods that I am? Then I guess that would lead to true love, someone who accepts you for everything you are. Hmm...
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I never thought people would actually look at this thread. I feel so loved online. I actually thought, when you guys asked who the attachment was you were referring to me. But obviously the huge signature in the nice pink lingerie! But the small pic was me.
Well, the person I mentioned ended up dumping me because we weren't meeting up often enough, which was true. Also we didn't have a bed in our relationship anymore, which didn't help.
But after that I literally went crazy, and was actually driven to misery! Which maybe means I had a bit of true love going on, according to granny's advice!
The thing about "being friends first" I find doesn't work. There is like a completely different approach to dating and being true friends, isn't there? And once you do have a platonic friendship, it's hard to see that person as more than a brother/sister, or break to them that you seem them as more than a friend in case it ruins your friendship and s/he doesn't feel the same way!
There's just a huge difference in the way you speak to and look at and feel with a lover, compared to a good friend, which is not interchangeable. You don't play mind games with your romantic interest, or tell them the worst, most embarrassing details of your daily life? And you usually chat to your friends about your relationship, dissecting every thought you have about it - you can't directly talk to the person you're going out with about certain things, otherwise they'd think you were obsessed and weird.
Maybe I just try and seem immaculate, faultless and problem-free when I'm going out with someone, almost putting on a front & trying to be the perfect g/f. When really, I should let my hair down and be the faulty goods that I am? Then I guess that would lead to true love, someone who accepts you for everything you are. Hmm...