There are so many places that you can go, it all depends on what kind of music you want to hear. But I like Jersey and you had the same problem when I first moved back to NY, None of my friends here are in to this type of music. Just like Jersey said, just start talking to people when your there almost everybody is wicked friendly. The first places I went out alone to were Avalon, Crobar, Celilo. I had the best time @ Avalon, I know others think this place sucks, but I had a great time and its has the court yard to go hang out in when you need to smoke a butt, thats where I meet people before.