dgmodel Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 how come more of you ladies do not approach men in bars??? how come most men have to approach women??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nycmuzik Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 It sucks...Things need to change... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted January 2 Author Report Share Posted January 2 maybe its just us??? maybe they do... but not towards us??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nycmuzik Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 It needs to change in general....You'd think that with all the progress we've had over the centuries this would change as well.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted January 2 Author Report Share Posted January 2 or maybe the problem lays amongst men??? maybe we're not approachable??? or maybe most men would feel intimidated??? hrrrm... there has to be a rhyme and reason to all this... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nympho69 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by dgmodel how come more of you ladies do not approach men in bars??? how come most men have to approach women??? cause i do not want to meet anyone at a bar or clubbut perhaps if someone approaches me and catches my interest i will exchange numbers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted January 2 Author Report Share Posted January 2 same thing here... i highly doubt i will find ms.right in a bar/club... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 altho we may not meet our soulmates at a bar....guys, who's to say women don't approach????IMO, when i see a guy out that I really find interesting I always find a way to approach. But, we do it in subtle ways, so we can sneak away with ego intact if there's some sort of rejection...which probably dosen't happen to often anyway...I say, learn to recognize the signs...then maybe you boys will be happy campers... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 ...do you people ever stop to think that if there are people like you in a bar/club, why is it hard to fathom that your mate couldnt be there either...thinking the same damn thing......as far as women being aggressive, i think it is more of what Marci is saying...if I dont pursue, it could be for various reasons...but many a times, women will give us a clue, a hint, a simple action we need to pick up on...but sometimes men are too dumb to see it OR as is the case with me at times, we choose to ignore them due to lack of interest...just cause we dont react doesnt mean we dont see it, just might mean the feeling's not mutual... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nycchic24 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 i did once.... it ended up in a year and a half relationship. one of my gf's did too... they have been together for four years and just got married this past fall! granted i share the same feelings most others on the board as well that you aren't going to find "the one" in a bar/club setting... but you never know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by phatman many a times, women will give us a clue, a hint, a simple action we need to pick up on...but sometimes men are too dumb to see it Oh God...I so fit that description! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 there has to be a rhyme and reason to all this...Well im naturally laid back and initially shy, so that kind of puts me on DG and nmuzic's side~I'd be kool to see the gals come on stronger, to break the ice, and not simply wander~Then again it's only natural, for guys to be on the prowl, catch the gaze of a kitty kat, and approach with a howl ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted January 2 Author Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by phatman ...do you people ever stop to think that if there are people like you in a bar/club, why is it hard to fathom that your mate couldnt be there either...thinking the same damn thing... what are the chances of the two of us meeting??? oh fate you say.. .well then fate keeps bringin' me psychos and golddiggers, or even better the ones with pyscho boyfriends.. awesome!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by dgmodel what are the chances of the two of us meeting??? oh fate you say.. .well then fate keeps bringin' me psychos and golddiggers, or even better the ones with pyscho boyfriends.. awesome!!! ...and i thought i was the only one bitching on the new year...lighten up Francis...there's phreaks even in the town library... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigpoppanils Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by phatman ....but many a times, women will give us a clue, a hint, a simple action we need to pick up on...but sometimes men are too dumb to see it thats me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by phatman ...do you people ever stop to think that if there are people like you in a bar/club, why is it hard to fathom that your mate couldnt be there either...thinking the same damn thing... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by tastyt why don't you do an irish jigg for us all, while your at it.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by marcid21 why don't you do an irish jigg for us all, while your at it.... Not yet, I still have a few dance lessons with Michael Flatley left... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by phatman ...there's phreaks even in the town library... The whole club/bar thing is bullshit...granted you don't go out to deliberately find someone....but do in fact end up hitting it off with someone they are no less of an asshole than the next guy/girl who walks past you in the street....There are idiots everywhere not just in clubs/bars it's up to you to decide wether they are good people or not...As far as going up to a guy in a club/bar....I personally don't do it b/c you don't know who exactly they are out with (there could be a girl with them who they are dating) & I have a talent for speaking with my eyes so I give a glance/stare..if they respond it's all good if not oh well..but I get the point across Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by sweetie029 The whole club/bar thing is bullshit...granted you don't go out to deliberately find someone....but do in fact end up hitting it off with someone they are no less of an asshole than the next guy/girl who walks past you in the street....There are idiots everywhere not just in clubs/bars it's up to you to decide wether they are good people or not... I'm sorry, but your wrong. You forgot to factor alcohol and drugs into that equation.If your comfortable meeting someone who is under the influence, and unable to make concious decisions...well then, whatever floats your boat Yes, there are idiots floating around everywhere...but chances are, we'll be in right mind enuf to not speak to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 why are you people pigeon-holing this shit...there are people that DO NOT drink or drop at clubs...this is so ironic...people on a night club board talking about how they wont meet someone in a club...and add to that, the numerous hook-ups that have occured between board members...ay yay yay...canta no llores...porque cantando...eh....whatever... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by phatman why are you people pigeon-holing this shit...there are people that DO NOT drink or drop at clubs...this is so ironic...people on a night club board talking about how they wont meet someone in a club...and add to that, the numerous hook-ups that have occured between board members...ay yay yay...canta no llores...porque cantando...eh....whatever... good points Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetie029 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Originally posted by marcid21 I'm sorry, but your wrong. You forgot to factor alcohol and drugs into that equation.If your comfortable meeting someone who is under the influence, and unable to make concious decisions...well then, whatever floats your boat ..Yes...lotss of people in clubs are under the influence of something....THAT'S ones judgment to walk away from a person whos absolutely shitfaced & retarted....HOWEVER....I don't go out & get wrecked every single time I'm at a club & I've managed to strike up a convo many of times w/ guys who weren't wrecked off their ass who actually made my night more enjoyable due to the fact I had to deal with friends who couldn't walk straight.....For as many people that are on drugs or drunk...there are people who do go out sober who ARE in fact good people & cool to chill with& btw- an OPINION isn't wrong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Anyway... does it really matter that much how and where you met someone? Isn't the important thing where you take it from there, what happens afterwards? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 ok...phattie, sweetie..your both right...but....let's be real.I'm not saying everyone in a bar / club is shitfaced and completely out of their gourd...but it is possible, even after 2 drinks things start getting a lil' sketchy. . . Are you guys going to tell me that you've never woken up the next morning, with an awful feeling in your gut, as a result of the previous night??Sure...maybe there were one or two times that you didn't, and tried to get in touch with the other person...but something usually falls through, no? I'd say 95% of the time either way, that's the case.Once in a blue you can stumble into someone that has a lil' more substance than the others....but those instances are few and far between.AND...yes, there are hookups on boards such as this...but as for me, those instances as well are few and VERY far between... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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