Ladies, when dealing with Stymie, follow these rules

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What Do We Recommend?:

Be skeptical for at least 3-4 months; that is, take everything he tells you "with a grain of salt" until you've thoroughly checked him out ... and DO check him out by following the methods listed in this editorial, saving yourself a possible broken heart ... a broken heart hurts ... bad. Allow yourself plenty of time to get to "really" know the man, which will also allow time for him to slip up ~~ and he will if he's not being straight with you.

Keep notes of what he tells you about his personal life. If in time, you find discrepancies in what he has told you, BAIL OUT and fast.

If he says he's new to AOL but knows how to cruise the web like a pro, knows how to turn off IMs, knows how to make a private room, etc. He's NOT new to AOL.

If he's not on line when you sign on but just happens to pop on every time you do, odds are he was online under one of his other names, saw you sign on, and switched names. Players usually have different screennames for each online love.

If he has a 'cutesy' quote on profile, engage in a conversation about it: ask him to expound on it more -- where did the quote come from? ( Stable men are consistent, regular, steady in all of the areas of their lives. They don't feel the need to impress anyone with a profile quote. ) If they take the time to make it 'cute', it is for ATTENTION ... or they are sending a significant message. Take time from the start to get him to explain it. You may uncover real quick what they expect from an online relationship.

If he broaches the subject of cyber or phone sex early in the relationship, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know where his REAL interest lies.

Pretend to sign off for the night, then sign on again to a screen name he doesn't know (or tell him that you won't be on that night due to a commitment) and go to the chat room he's in and observe his behavior with other women when you're not around.

If he gives you a long sob story and always has a new crisis in his life, Write him off ... he's only a sympathy hound. All he really wants from you are daily "pity parties".

All players have a mean streak underneath all that mush. Given time, it will surface and when it does, DO NOT ignore it!

He's flying in/driving to see you. So he must love you!!! OR is it, you live in one of the cities regularly visited on his rounds? Players who travel for a living often use the AOL member directory, personal ads, etc. to find women for the purpose of having a girl in every port.

Did he really sign off line, OR did he just switch to another screen name? Research the member directory to see if he has screen names you don't know about.

Is he blocking you when he's online? the woman he professes to love??!! If he's blocking you, then you should reconsider having a relationship with him.

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talk about a cock block!

[MysticRain]