misskittie Posted December 7 Report Share Posted December 7 It`s best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one available.Best to wait for the one you love than to love the one who`s around. Best to wait for the right one because life`s too short to be wasted on just anyone.Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don`t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.Keep your eyes open, and don`t fool yourself into believing that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren`t really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws,pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you`ve got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little things bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?Do you bring out the best in each other?Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?What do you bring to the relationship?Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?You can`t take someone to the altar to alter them.You can`t make someone love you or make someone stay.If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won`t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.What keeps a relationship strong?- communication- intimacy- a sense of humor- sharing household tasks- some getaway time without business or children- daily exchange (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)- sharing common goals and interests- giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure- giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitmentIf these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain will replace LOVE."If You Can`t Make Yourself Happy How Will You Do That For Someone Else?" Hmmmm.... Just something to think about. *smile*------------------ "Love is friendship set to music." ...E. Joseph CrossmannAOL = MadamKittE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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fou Posted December 7 Report Share Posted December 7 Or just go out with everyone------------------ <A HREF="/cgi-bin/redir.cgi?url=http://www.pharaoh1.com/images/pharaoh.gif" TARGET=_blank>http://www.pharaoh1.com/images/pharaoh.gif</A> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel1997 Posted December 7 Report Share Posted December 7 dammn these things are so true!------------------ This genie grants 3 wishes... Hey I'm not sharing! He's all MINE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quanto_magnus Posted December 7 Report Share Posted December 7 NICE!! and oh so damn true... ------------------Hugha.k.a. ibhugh, Bryan Adamsemail: ibhugh@yahoo.comaolim: hugesk8r Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
translucent Posted December 7 Report Share Posted December 7 ^^bump^^ ------------------ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ooana Posted December 7 Report Share Posted December 7 Just gotta add one more to your list, Kat...Very well said, btw!Focus on appreciation not expectation.-Oo------------------"When the soul wishes to experience something, she throws an image of the experience out before her, and enters into her own image."---"You have wings! Why don't I have wings?!"---"Cause you're a boy, silly." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
az-tec Posted December 8 Report Share Posted December 8 I agree------------------And Everything Will Flow....Flow....Flow.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misskittie Posted December 8 Author Report Share Posted December 8 I didnt write it guys. Thats why I put in the topic NOT MY WORK!Its actually from a friend of mine. I dont know if she wrote it or not but it seems like she may have. If its true...the inspiration came from a lot of drama giong on most likely.Sorry to confuse you all..------------------ "Love is friendship set to music." ...E. Joseph CrossmannAOL = MadamKittE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myrlin Posted December 8 Report Share Posted December 8 Hmmm. I might have to dig up the beggining of a relationship essay (book) I wrote... One of these days, I might actually write it all out to toss about.... ------------------Myrlin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shugabooga Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 great post, where do you get your inspiration? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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