peache5030 Posted January 10 Report Share Posted January 10 Serious question...This guy has been with only one woman before me...well.umm..he couldnt exactly complete the job...Swore it wasnt me..dont really think so...wants to come back for more...soooo WTF ???? ------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrdick Posted January 10 Report Share Posted January 10 First things first - did he finish the job for you with his tongue or fingers when Mr. Willy decided to lay off work early?If that is a yes and you like the guy and enjoy time spent together clothed or naked then I would suggest that you have fun with this guy. Why not?I'm gonna get whacked on for being long-winded and professorial here so I'll try not to be too boring.But here's my take on things. We guys are not machines. But we are expected to handle the lion's share of the performance. This is especially ironic since we are the ones with equipment that can actually fail to perform at times. And this happens to all guys from time to time.More than likely this guy is just nervous and not relaxed. When you are tense it is difficult to be aroused. Almost certainly this guy's problem is psycholoical - though you never know. But it certainly isn't you.While this is only my opinion I speak from a certain experience. When I had my first girlfriend I was a bit of a late bloomer so I was pretty old for my first time having sex. And I naturally have problems with stress. And I suffered this exact same problem for a few times. Condoms make things even worse. So what I am saying is what I wish my girlfriend could have done for me but she was too nervous and shy and uncomfortable herself to do it.This is a challenge to you. If you are not up to it then you have to be honest with yourself and just vacate the entire situation. But it is also an opportunity to do a truly special thing, have a very special memory or more and most importantly take your sexuality to the next level - To become really comfortable with sex and intimacy.Sex shouldn't be based on performance and there shouldn't be pressure to do any one thing either than please each other. Sure, good performance is nice and that is what you are ultimately aiming for, but a man has a whole sexual career and in thebeginning he has to kinda suck for awihle (sometime litterally hehe) while he learns. It can still be plenty fun. But for you to properly set the scene and make him comfortable you yourself have to be open and kind and comfortable. So if you can be like that then just defuse the tension. Tell him that you totally understand - that its ok. Tell him that you just want to fool around and have fun and whatever happens happens. Show him how to go down on you and bring you to orgasm in other ways so that you are guaranteed to be satisfied. Go down on him too. Obviously, the first times with him will have to be more relaxed than passionate (though you mightbe surprisd). Lots of talking, laughing, playing aroundand stuff. First off find a place where you can be together in privacy with a lot of time. Start off with a joint or some wine (not verymuch)and a hot bath together or a hot tub. Get him relaxed. Give him a massage. Get him to give you one. Lie around naked just laughng, talking and lightly touching - getting used to being nakled and intimate with each other. Don't hurry things. Even put on a good porno that turns you on and watch it together. Get him hard manually and orally. Really stimulate him and get him aroused before you even begin fucking. And then maybe start with you on top so that he doesn't have to worry about getting used to positions and how to fuck at the same time as learning how to stay relaxed and focused on his arousal in order to stay hard. Having to worry about whether he is fucking right is just one more thing to make him anxious. And then just go for it. If it doesn't work laugh about it or just saythat it doesn'tmatter - you have lots of time. Then give him some good head or a relaxed hand job until its hard again and go again until it works. Just always seem like you have all day, that you are enjoying whatever it is that you are doing together and that you are not disapointed or frustrated because you understand and realize that he will soon get over this.Also, give him ample time to pleasure you. That way he won't feel guilty when you spend so much time on him. As a bonus you can teach him exactly how to eat you and get off tons. He will be a willing student.Anyways, you have to decide if you are up for it and if the reward is worth the effort. If not just stay away because you will just hurt his confidence more. But if so then you will have done a special thing and you will have a very grateful and appreciative lover who will always remember you even if this is a casual thing and not a love affair. And to me there is nothing greater than being the person that is always remembered bysoemone else for having done a beauiful thing.As a bonus, a couple of girls I know have broken in a few virgins and they all described the experience as being suprisingly arousing and even awesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djustinh Posted January 10 Report Share Posted January 10 damn, longest post i ever saw good work ------------------"a mind stretched by new dimensions can never be the same again" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted January 10 Author Report Share Posted January 10 Lie around naked just laughng, talking and lightly touching - getting used to being nakled and intimate with each other. Don't hurry things. Even put on a good porno that turns you on and watch it together. Get him hard manually and orally. Really stimulate him and get him aroused before you even begin fucking. And then maybe start with you on top so that he doesn't have to worry about getting used to positions and how to fuck at the same time as learning how to stay relaxed and focused on his arousal in order to stay hard. Having to worry about whether he is fucking right is just one more thing to make him anxious. I did this... I think we are going to work through it..its soo funny since that night he has become alittle more sexual with me...I think this is as new to me as it is to him..Ive always been with men who have some experience...and in a way it feels sooo much more exciting knowing that im going to be his secound...lol I find it mind- blowing..and im sure this is going to be quite an experience for me..Thanks for the advice...------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeydollaz Posted January 10 Report Share Posted January 10 get in touch with me .. i'll get you off ... ------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrdick Posted January 11 Report Share Posted January 11 Peache5030,What can I say other than you are a peach If my first or second time had been with a girl like you I would have been so happy that I think I would have exploded. That and worship her for the rest of my natural born life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted January 11 Author Report Share Posted January 11 AWWWWW,,thank you..( blushing )..So Im going to see him tonight..woo-hoo..peach...yummy...Joey- I dont need HELP getting OFF..i could do that MYSELF...but thanks for the offer...------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrdick Posted January 11 Report Share Posted January 11 Peach,Keep us posted on the progress. Now we are interested as you are.Soon you will have your guy screaming your name and you will feel like a goddess in heat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted January 11 Author Report Share Posted January 11 OH BABY--- SAY MY NAME!!! lol I will keep you posted...more info tomorrow..hopefully...------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrdick Posted January 11 Report Share Posted January 11 Peach - you are one horny little spitfire aren't you.Now don't go to fast with this guy - you wouldn't want to break him I almost feel bad for this guy - he has no idea what he's getting into (pun intended) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted January 12 Author Report Share Posted January 12 All i have to say about last night is WOOO--HOOO... he had me like this... lol..i was quite impressed...lolAnd YES..this time he finished..and wanted secouds...alittle more on the actual experience..later------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted January 12 Author Report Share Posted January 12 All i have to say about last night is WOOO--HOOO... he had me like this... lol..i was quite impressed...lolAnd YES..this time he finished..and wanted secouds...alittle more on the actual experience..later------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrdick Posted January 12 Report Share Posted January 12 You have me quivering in anticipation. And its hard to type one-handed while quivering hehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted January 12 Author Report Share Posted January 12 Originally posted by mrdick:You have me quivering in anticipation. And its hard to type one-handed while quivering heheOH BAby...the thought of my passion exciting you..is exciting me...hahahahahaMR.Dick..do you ever come to NY??? ------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrdick Posted January 13 Report Share Posted January 13 Whatever makes you horny makes me horny I wil be here in the Spring forsure. Maybe sooner. And after that every 2 months with luck.Sometime we will meet and you can tell me all about your adventues. I even promise o keep my hands to myself. Very much to myself hehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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