beaker2 Posted March 23 Report Share Posted March 23 I don’t know what to do, someone help! I’ve been married for a year and a half to a girl I’ve know for 12 years. She great and I love her but for the last few years our sex life has slowly dried up to like once a fortnight. Neither of us are refusing each other’s advances or anything, it’s just we don’t seem to get around to it anymore. She’s attractive physically and all, but she’s just not turning me on mentally any more and I think it’s the same for her. Anyway….enter stage left….my best friends ex girlfriend who is one of the most attractive woman I’ve ever seen and a really good sort too. So we’re all out clubbing one night and I’m sitting down chilling and talking to her and she says she loves me. I was blown away…..I mean this woman is sex on legs and although I kind of always suspected there was this spark between us I never thought anything would happen. I mean it’s poor form right, I’m married. O.k. so here’s where all the ladies start to hate me…….after trying to resist each other for about 3 months we both cave in and meet up to spend some time alone. I don’t have the words to describe what the sex was like, it was out of this world. Honestly, she is every fantasy I’ve ever had all rolled into one. We just blew each other away, it was sex on some sick level that I still find hard to believe, and I have had good sex before, but never like this. We were just so into each other. So anyway, we realized it was a very bad thing to be doing and haven’t done it since. It’s been 6 months and we both can’t get over each other. We move in the same circle of friends so are always seeing each other and talking, emailing etc. Now I’m in love with her in a big way and she feels the same. I don’t want to hurt my wife but we’ve talked and tried to do something about our sex life but it’s just not happening. I’m giving myself headaches thinks about what I should do. I love them both, one I’ve made a commitment too but the excitement isn’t there any more, and the other is some sick dream of mine come true. I know I’m a shit for cheating on my wife but then again it wouldn’t have happened if our relationship was fulfilling? Help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmb1975 Posted March 23 Report Share Posted March 23 I am not sure where to start on this one. It def hits home, so i will try not to bite your head off. Here we go...You have known your wife for 12 years, been married for 1 1/2 years, and suddenly your sex life is less than stellar. so you (both?) give up, and you start fucking someone else. Somehow you are surprised that sex with this new woman is amazing. Duh...its new. Its different. GIve it another 12 years and you will probably be in the same boat. After a while being together, it is common for people to get bored. But instead of running away and giving up, try to spice it up. Have you ever thought about using toys, going to shows, watching porn, tieing her up...there are so many kinky things you can do to change it up. And now, you say you are in "love" with this other woman. IMO, I think you are in "love" with the idea of her. She is new and exciting. I say try and work things out with your wife and stop fucking someone else...cause if she doesn't know now, she will find out... ------------------ The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scaredgirl Posted March 24 Report Share Posted March 24 I totally agree with cmb1975 but also a big BIG RECOMENDATION DON NOT HAVE ANY CHILD IF U ARE NOT SURE about this marriage ok ????try to solve this now that u guys are not parents,if u feel things will not work out never and u aready try hard,BE HONEST WITH HER and tell her what u feel remember comunications is the best.u should talk with her about it and plan some sex encounters out of house,that will really exited bouth of u ------------------ Making Love And Having Sex The Biggest Pleasures in This Life. ScaredGirL.[This message has been edited by scaredgirl (edited 03-23-2001).] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dabiatchka Posted March 24 Report Share Posted March 24 That's really sad that u made lifetime commitment and couldn't even resist cheating for a year. U already hurt your wife...tell her and break off the marraige...yeah u made a commitment but um hun u broke that already by screwing someone else didn't yahopeully u dont have kids togetherI dont mean to sound like such a bitch but come one cheating to me is one of the worst things u could do to someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starcapone Posted March 25 Report Share Posted March 25 Originally posted by dabiatchka:That's really sad that u made lifetime commitment and couldn't even resist cheating for a year. U already hurt your wife...tell her and break off the marraige...yeah u made a commitment but um hun u broke that already by screwing someone else didn't yahopeully u dont have kids togetherI dont mean to sound like such a bitch but come one cheating to me is one of the worst things u could do to someone.i also agree that cheating is so horrible even worse if your married, shit! well, i think 1st you need to tell your wife what you have done and take it from there. maybe she won't want u anymore or maybe she's done the same thing...who knows.------------------ * can't deny me, why would u want to .. u need me, why don't u try me .. baby u'd want to .. believe me * Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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