lollib Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 After all my posting about finding the right one and so on, I just thought of something. Maybe I am just scared to have be in a relationship since it has been so long and I have my life and honestly, I like going out and having fun. I couldnt imagine having to deal with someone else right now and checking to see what they want to do before I make plans. Is that selfish?? Am I crazy?? Would make sense since I never give anyone a chance and the only person I have liked since my ex had a girlfriend. Or once again, maybe I am just looking into things too much!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketfuel76 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 you know they we are gluttons for punishment. We always want what we don't have, and vice versa. Remember when your in a relationship your miserable and when your not in one your miserable. I think the worst thing to do is overanalyze which you know that you and I do. You know we like to geo out and have good times too right???? You see I ask for too much I want someone who wants to go out, doesn't stalk, and likes all my friends. Yhea thats gonna happen!!!! :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Casual sex and friends w/ benefits!That's the way to go! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketfuel76 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 too many of those, its cool, but then sometimes you catch feelings no matter how hard you try!!!!! YA KNOW???But true point!!!! ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by rocketfuel76 You see I ask for too much I want someone who wants to go out, doesn't stalk, and likes all my friends. Yhea thats gonna happen!!!! :rolleyes: Ha, ha, so true! You definitely need someone that likes your friends and vice versa. That is sometimes hard to accomplish though. And you also need someone who likes to do what you do. That is hard to find too. I guess though when we find a person like that, they will be a keeper!!! Seems like if they dont call, they suck and when they call too much, they are annoying and desperate!! hee,hee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Yeah, the grass is always greener, and all that. And no you're not selfish or crazy! I could've written that exact same paragraph a few years ago. You're just young, it's natural; I wouldn't worry about it too much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by spragga25 Casual sex and friends w/ benefits!That's the way to go! That could have it's benefits but someone usually winds up catching feelings and then the friendship could be ruined. I have actually done this once and yes, it did ruin the friendship. Could tend to make things awkward too. Like if they sleep with someone else, can you really get mad at them when you two are having just "casual sex." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketfuel76 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 That makes me feel better when you say young. I think Im a old lady with the experiences I've been through. And the scary thing is, is that I don't worry about being alone forever. It doesn't even phase me!!!!!!!Now that a feeling I hope I have forever. JUST IN CASE!! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 What about one night stands then? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by spragga25 What about one night stands then? I have had one of those also and honestly, I am not into that either. I have come to realize lately that honestly, sex isnt that important to me unless it is with someone I care about. I have learned from my past and dont regret anything but the next person I have sex with will be a boyfriend. For me, it is definitely more emotional then physical. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Whoa!! Party pooper!LOL j/k - good for you...you know what you want! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxlea Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by spragga25 Party pooper!LMAO!!! Spragga you always crack me up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by spragga25 Whoa!! Party pooper!LOL j/k - good for you...you know what you want! Now, that isnt nice, calling people names (j/k). I have just realized all this recently- after the summer. I used to take sex as something so lightly but now I am definitely looking at it differently. Believe me, I like to be pleased as much as the next person. And I am not saying anyone who believes in one night stands is a bad person but they arent for me (at least not anymore)! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by lollib Now, that isnt nice, calling people names (j/k). I have just realized all this recently- after the summer. I used to take sex as something so lightly but now I am definitely looking at it differently. Believe me, I like to be pleased as much as the next person. And I am not saying anyone who believes in one night stands is a bad person but they arent for me (at least not anymore)! Damn, Damn, Damn...why do peeps become celibate when the ragga's out on the prowl!! Can't y'all have like a "one night stand truce" or something!! I'm not a bad guy.........I'm just a squirrel......trying to bust a nutt!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by lollib I have had one of those also and honestly, I am not into that either. I have come to realize lately that honestly, sex isnt that important to me unless it is with someone I care about. I have learned from my past and dont regret anything but the next person I have sex with will be a boyfriend. For me, it is definitely more emotional then physical. I came to the same conclusion a few weeks ago- I don't know what took me so long to figure it out! When you care about the person sex is so good, but otherwise- it's just not worth it for me.And friends with benefits- NOOOOO!!!!! One person ALWAYS wants more- at least in my experiences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 I didnt say I was going to be celibate but just looking for the right person and all that crap- hee, hee.Not to go off the topic but I am LMAO because they are playing the Gimmee a Break theme song on Z100. How funny is that?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookie23 Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Aw man - I give up!Stick a fork in me - I'm done!I can't get the ladies to turn to the dark side! WHAAAHHHH!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonStephen Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Personally. I don't find anything wrong with casual sex with friends. I can't claim to have an extensive knowledge on it, but when I was doing that for a little while, our friendship wasn't ever ruined.Fact of the matter is, however, I do look at her a lot differently than I used to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollib Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 I guess it is different for ewveryone. Your friendship hasnt changed at all? That is good although I could never imagine that!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonStephen Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Yeah, I mean, I look at her now and it is a little different. Like the way you look at somone and know how they are. Its not unnatural.She has been seing this dude I have known for a long time and he knows too. We weren't with anyone at the time and we were just hanging out and getting into the subject when we decided to go for it.....and then go for it again.......and again. And we talked earlier about just keeping it cool and how we both needed advice on both ends so the experience would be good. Helped me out a lot. Nothing is weird at all. I do have that cocky approach whenever I am around the two of them though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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