druwishprincez: I tell him all the time that I love him, but I'm not in love with him the way I used to be. Doesn't seem to work, he kind of just responds with "Yea I feel the same way..." He gives me mixed signals... I'm getting so sick of it. kahn: I've heard it a million times, and I'm trying to practice it when I speak to him. If I feel myself coming to a point where I'm getting upset, jealous, sad, etc. I usually say goodbye and get off the phone. When he senses my happiness or I don't share much of myself with him, he gets angry and starts to tell me how he doesn't trust me-I'm hiding things from him-blah blah... captainpec: 1st- My ex bf came from a broken home-he was physically abused as a child by his father, had a verbally abusive mother, and basically no love. When we dated and he told me he loved me, he told me I was the only one who ever loved him, and that if he knows the feeling and meaning of love it's 'cause of me. Doesn't mean anything! My mom told me how can one be a good bf or husband when they have had no role model?(Not to say that goes for every man in similar situations) Throughout our whole relationship we were very up and down. He'd be good one month, a dick for the next two, and when he'd realize how tired I was of it, and how I'd slowly back off or not deal with it, he'd come around and say how he was going to change and try hard at it, yadda yadda... He'd make a huge difference for about a month or so, and then it was back to the same ol' person he was. It never lasted and I have a feeling it never will. He's not willing to change, maybe he doesn't want to, can't, or maybe not for me. I gave him two years of many chances and that is why we are currently not togethor. 2nd- I love him with everything I have within me, but it doesn't mean that I like who he is. I think he's a good person, but as a bf he just doesn't cut it. He's hurt me so much. Throughout our 4 1/2 months broken up, he's made numerous attempts at making me extremely jealous, hurting me by going through my friends and family, threats, etc. Everyday I think to myself "He gave up on me... but yet he states he loves me so much." I hope that one day he'll seriously grow up, realize, change, and love me the way it's meant to be. As the days go by, I doubt that and lose hope more and more. 3rd- Good for you that you did what you did for youself and your ex.