atmosphere...create something you guys haven't done in the past, rose petals on the bed, whatever... (use a bedsheet you can throw out, they stain like crazy) candles, the right music...you know, the usual and then some xtra's etc...romantic nights first, and w/ enough of those she'll start to come out of her shell...it'll take time but there's a sexual person somewhere in her just like most people, you just gotta find it dude. Go to your bookstore...tons of books on romance, creating a great night...all that stuff. I've had some awesome nights with just a little creating first. ------------------