Do you find that you are always the person initiating sex? I don't know what it is, but I always find myself trying to initiate things with my girlfriend. She's a 25 year old virgin who was brought up to believe that sex before marriage is wrong, but we do everything else. Sometimes it's hard to get her to do things, but once I'm down south munching away, she loves it! My therapist told me not to jump to conclusions and think that maybe she's not attracted to me (It's hard not to when you feel like shit about yourself to begin with) He told me that maybe she had some sort of traumatic experience in the past, maybe she's insecure about her sexuality, etc. I can tell you one thing, it sure is frustrating. Does anyone else have to deal with always trying to initiate things? I just wish she would jump on me once in a while!!