Check your persona! I have seen more fights in a lesbian party then a gay men event. Those bitchs’ are not like gay men, gay men have some code of respect when it comes to hitting on other guys, the girls just don't give a damn if you are straight or lez, they'll turn the heat up on you with no shame. I know this because I work with-in the events like white party, Gay Disney and such and from my POV the girls just don’t give a damn.?!? I think its more the persona you give off that would cause some guy to say hey babe. I have never have heard or have I ever seen a gay man say that to some one straight. And the whole thing about gay’s having their own night; that’s just the way it is. It’s evolving to where all people can feel comfortable with being somewhere were the same sex is pairing up or even the other way around where there are a lot of gay’s that rather keep that private in their life or just not ready to come out. Either way, it is what it is! I’m straight and at first when I started working in the scene, I felt I bit uncomfortable with the boy’s parties because it just not something I was subjected to as a kid growing up, so naturally you will feel uncomfortable or just amazed because it’s something you have never seen; unorthodox. But you get used to it and it’s the norm. Look for the first time every in my life I had to work an event that was all black gay men. I would have never thought that there were so many gay black men that a party would have to be done just for them. Once again, naturally shocked since it was something I have never seen and the day that I run into a black Japanese’ I would be just as shocked. People are edgy when it comes to things that they haven’t been subjected to. But the Rosa Parks of the gay community are coming out and helping to balance things out and make it a normal thing where gays don’t have to have a party just for them. And a lot of straight people attend gay hosted events. So it’s evolving. oh, did I ramble off? If you are BI? why even be concern with someone one saying that with you? I'm sure its a persona thing, do you live in a metrosexual lifestyle? You know dress, groom, care more then that avarge guy? a usually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothes; MetroSexual!