Lets put it this way, I broke up with a long term boyfriend a little less then a year ago....I met a guy a couple of months ago and I kept feeling that I wasn't ready to settle down again, even though he was, I just wasn't...I met my current boyfriend and in like 2 days I knew I was ready to settle down, without any concerns about my ex....I think if you find the right person and it's there you make yourself ready, I wasn't ready for the other guy even though it wasn't too long ago b/c it wasn't right