i usally find these steps to be sucessful in oral sex 1. Begin by KISSING your way down her stomach... and then her inner thighs and legs... anticipation. 2. Ask “are you comfortable.†Women usually like to feel clean and ‘fresh’... and she might feel self-conscious because she hasn’t showered in several hours, etc. If this is the case, you might want to ask her if she’d like to share a shower with you. If she seems uncomfortable, ask if she’d like to join you in a shower. 3. Begin by kissing her gently. Kiss her and lick her slowly and deliberately. Make some “Mmmmm†noises and let her know that you’re enjoying yourself. 4. You have a couple of major tools, and a couple of ways to use them. Use your tongue on her clit, and your fingers on the inside. 5. Start with kissing and licking, then a few minutes later insert one finger. If she likes this, ask if she’d like two fingers. Go slow, as most women need to relax and get used to the stretching. If you don’t know where a clit and a G spot are, get a book. 6. Mouth options: Licking up and down, side to side, in circles, directly on her clit, around it, sucking. 7. Finger(s) inside options: Sliding in and out, staying still, rubbing top or bottom or sides, rubbing a spot inside, slow, fast. 8. Try each of the mouth options until you find the one she likes best. 9. Try each of the finger options until you find the one she likes best. 10. Combine. Once you find the magic combination, keep doing it EXACTLY that way, at EXACTLY that speed and pressure. Men like faster and harder, women usually like the same way until orgasm.