xxdonxlavitoxx Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 so i used to know and date a girl who had three abortions! The moment she told me she had 3 abortions it made her seem very unattractive and my feelings towards started to change! it was like she looked sleezy to me. i am against abortion. this girl treated me real good and i felt as i loved her but once she told me that i was like OH SHIT! i broke up with her. was i wrong? i mean i know mistakes are mistakes and people do change after time. but i dont know wether to feel wrong or right about breaking it up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pikachula18 Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Well... You did what you felt was best thing for you. It's hard to be in a relationship or date someone who doesn't have the same view point on such a strong subject like that. There would always be conflict when it comes to that topic. Would it had been better no knowing. Some girls don't take the pill because of the side effects. Some are just lazy. Unless she had sex raw at least 3 times of her getting pregnant that the feeling of disgust for her is reasonable. But remember, not everyone has your view and if it's that important for the girl to have the same, make that one of the first questions you ask a girl before falling for her deeply! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Well I dont think you were wrong...3 abortions is kind of a lot ..she might not be able to have kids so I dont even know why she would risk that on herself.....so I would agree with what you did...Stick to your beliefs and no matter how strongly you felt for her, what she told you seemed to have hit you pretty hard, and even if you did stay wit her your perspective of her would remain changed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxdonxlavitoxx Posted April 12 Author Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by destiny779 Well I dont think you were wrong...3 abortions is kind of a lot ..she might not be able to have kids so I dont even know why she would risk that on herself.....so I would agree with what you did...Stick to your beliefs and no matter how strongly you felt for her, what she told you seemed to have hit you pretty hard, and even if you did stay wit her your perspective of her would remain changed. it's so wierd how in one second my feelings for her changed! i mean it was literally a second! well maybe five. thank you both ladies! youre both right i mean even if i did stay i would look at her differently. I always stick to my beleives and that was not one of the times i was gonna change that! my question is if i feel that it was the right move, then why does it feel like i mightve made a mistake? ps imma go to sleep but any replies given to me, i will respond tomorrow.good night ladies and gentlemen!~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by xxdonxlavitoxx it's so wierd how in one second my feelings for her changed! i mean it was literally a second! well maybe five. thank you both ladies! youre both right i mean even if i did stay i would look at her differently. I always stick to my beleives and that was not one of the times i was gonna change that! my question is if i feel that it was the right move, then why does it feel like i mightve made a mistake? ps imma go to sleep but any replies given to me, i will respond tomorrow.good night ladies and gentlemen!~ because you cared a lot for the girl...but even like you said its not going to be the same...do whatever will make you happy:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jy Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 i understand where your comming from, i don't look highly on abortions.. so I can understand what your saying.but if you are for her then it shouldn't hold you back Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siceone Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by xxdonxlavitoxx so i used to know and date a girl who had three abortions! The moment she told me she had 3 abortions it made her seem very unattractive and my feelings towards started to change! it was like she looked sleezy to me. i am against abortion. this girl treated me real good and i felt as i loved her but once she told me that i was like OH SHIT! i broke up with her. was i wrong? i mean i know mistakes are mistakes and people do change after time. but i dont know wether to feel wrong or right about breaking it up! damn I would have to say you are a moron if this chick treated you so well.. not every one is perfect you know. I can't really say weather that was right or wrong cause thats relative but I will say it was very selffish and shallow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexyclubber01 Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 If you were no longer attracted to this person after finding this out, that was your opinion and I think you have a right to break up with her. 3 abortions is a lot. After the 1st one you should realize your mistake & take the precautions so it doesnt happen again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by siceone damn I would have to say you are a moron if this chick treated you so well.. not every one is perfect you know. I can't really say weather that was right or wrong cause thats relative but I will say it was very selffish and shallow. I agree, sort of... I mean I would say that *maybe* you were a little hasty... did you even bother asking about the circumstances surrounding the abortions? I mean it's easy to assume that she was just careless but really unless you ask, who the hell knows...Then again, I'm very strongly pro-choice... so I try to imagine if, say, a guy told me something like, he's an active pro-life protestor or something... I doubt our values would mesh very well... So who knows... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 Originally posted by tastyt I agree, sort of... I mean I would say that *maybe* you were a little hasty... did you even bother asking about the circumstances surrounding the abortions? I mean it's easy to assume that she was just careless but really unless you ask, who the hell knows...Then again, I'm very strongly pro-choice... so I try to imagine if, say, a guy told me something like, he's an active pro-life protestor or something... I doubt our values would mesh very well... So who knows... I agree with Tastyt....3 is a lot, but if the circumstances were "valid" then, it puts a lil twist on things...... Do what makes you happy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineones Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 This girl im kinda kicking it too...is rumored to have had a few abortions before is it wrong to ask if she did?cuz without them i like her, but with i dont think it'll workwho knowsFINE ROCKS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 Originally posted by fineones This girl im kinda kicking it too...is rumored to have had a few abortions before is it wrong to ask if she did?cuz without them i like her, but with i dont think it'll workwho knowsFINE ROCKS Don't ask her...o boy don't ask her...it's a very personal question to ask a girl so unless she brings it up,I wouldnt say nething Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 Originally posted by destiny779 Don't ask her...o boy don't ask her...it's a very personal question to ask a girl so unless she brings it up,I wouldnt say nething I am with her, don't ask, unless she brings it up...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineones Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 yeh no doubt ..i didnt really think i was gonna aski mean i guess i shouldnt really care either right?it shouldnt make a differenceFINE ROCKS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxdonxlavitoxx Posted April 14 Author Report Share Posted April 14 Originally posted by fineones yeh no doubt ..i didnt really think i was gonna aski mean i guess i shouldnt really care either right?it shouldnt make a differenceFINE ROCKS you def should care.. i mean this is a girl who you are dating. i mean dont go up to her and be like hey did you have any abortions? let the topic come up and then talk about it..thats what happened with me. but you should care and once you will find out it will make a difference...but it will be based upon what your feelings towards her are!peace,DON Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineones Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 I got yah..thats what i'll do..thanks i'll keep you posted FINEROCKS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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