quoth Posted October 2 Report Share Posted October 2 Who else has or has had this luck?i mean when i look back upon things in my life i realize i have dated a shitload of sociopaths...am i just "TOO" nice of a guy??it's funny though..cause when women always rant and rave on how they can't meet a nice guy...they finally do and its the girl who turns out to be the fuckin sociopath.I guess some things are made to NEVER understand and this is just one of them.i found some interesting criteria concerning someone who is a sociopath...any of these ever happen to you? i see a few that have happened to me.check it:Profile of a SociopathGlibness/Superficial CharmLanguage can be used without effort by them to confuse and convince their audience. Captivating storytellers that exude self-confidence, they can spin a web that intrigues others. Since they are persuasive, they have the capacity to destroy their critics verbally or emotionally.Manipulative and ConningThey never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors permissible. They may appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. She dominates and humiliates her victims.Grandiose Sense of SelfFeels entitled to certain things as "her right." Craves adulation and attendance. Must be the center of attention with her own fantasies as the "spokesman for God," "enlightened," "leader of humankind," etc. Creates an us-versus-them mentalityPathological LyingShe has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities.Lack of Remorse, Shame or GuiltA deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at her core. Does not see others around her as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.Shallow EmotionsWhen they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since she is not genuine, neither are her promises.Incapacity for LoveWhile she talks about "love" she is unable to give or receive it. She is very harsh in testing it from her clients and expects them to feel guilt for their failings. Expects unconditional surrender. Need for StimulationLiving on the edge, yet testing the gullibility of their "clientele" with bizarre rules, punishments and behaviors. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal.Callousness/Lack of EmpathyUnable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. Their skills are used to exploit, abuse and exert power. Since the clientele cannot believe their government would callously hurt them, they rationalize her behavior as necessary for their own "good" and ignore the abuse. When the client become aware of the exploitation it feels like a "rape" to them.Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive NatureRage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believes she is all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for her impact on others. She sees herself as near perfect.Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile DelinquencyUsually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.Irresponsibility/UnreliabilityNot concerning about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blame their clients or others of their family. Blame reinforces passivity and obedience and produces guilt, shame, terror and conformity in the clients.Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/InfidelityShe may frequently practice promiscuity, homosexuality, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts. This is usually kept hidden from all but the inner circle. Stringent sexual control of their clients, such as forced breakups and divorces, removal of children from parents, rules for dating, etc. Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic LifestyleTends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future. Great contrast between the government employee's lifestyle and the client's impoverishment. Highly sensitive to their own pain and health.Criminal or Entrepreneurial VersatilityChanges their image and that of the agency as needed to avoid prosecution and to increase income and to recruit a range of supporters. Is able to adapt or relocate as needed to preserve the agency. Always "on vacation" or "retired" after pulling off a "high risk" caper with too much public attention. Can resurface later in a different agency and a new twist on the same old scam.Other Related Qualities:Contemptuous of those who seek to understand herDoes not perceive that anything is wrong with herAuthoritarianSecretiveParanoidOnly rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where her tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admiredConventional appearanceGoal of enslavement of her victim(s)Exercises despotic control over every aspect of her victim's lifeHas a psychological need to justify her crimes and therefore needs her agency's affirmationUltimate goal is the creation of a willing victimIncapable of real human attachment to anotherUnable to feel remorse or guiltExtreme narcissism and grandioseMay state readily that their goal is to rule the world Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
perns2002 Posted October 2 Report Share Posted October 2 O relax, you just haven't meet the right sociopath yet ha ha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted October 2 Report Share Posted October 2 hrm, i know a few. i also know a few men like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted October 2 Report Share Posted October 2 i just read through this and all i can say is blaaaaaaaahhhhh look at this closely, these are ALL generalisations, they are so vague you can fit them ALL or at least A LOT of them on ANY person if you JUST have these for choice and WANT to see it (and you see it due to lack of PERSPECTIVE (other choices)).that is along the same shit that palmreaders tell you: they throw you a generalisation, a vague "one size fits all" comment and give you an answer according to your body language "answer" on that comment.for example i use that shit when talking to girls too and it works pretty sweet and makes them think you "understand" them and you can "connect" to them after only knowing you for a sooo short period of time "you have a tendency to be critical of yourself."according to reaction (facial expression, body language, etc.):(if positive) i think you are frequently your own worst enemy, always searching for imperfections with yourself. it seems you are not happy unless you are finding fault with your appearance. your behavior. or your attitudes. sometimes this spills over into your evaluation of others. people disappoint you because you try to hold them to the same high standards which you set for yourself.(if negative) this is not a self-destructive criticism. but is instead a form of positive reinforcement. i think you, more than anyone, are aware of your past failings but you have also learned great lessons from them you know where your weaknesses are and you can fortify them. you don't allow those little imperfections to weigh you down. more importantly, you are aware of your strengths and have learned to amplify them. you are an optimist; your glass is always half-full. never half-empty.and you should look how they nod in agreement see how much BULL you can write that fits ANYONE? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted October 2 Report Share Posted October 2 kinda like horoscopes too... read any and they all apply a little to your life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted October 2 Report Share Posted October 2 Originally posted by somebitch kinda like horoscopes too... read any and they all apply a little to your life. exactly, cause if you tell your brain to SEARCH for a situation where the horoscope is TRUE, that is you BELIEVE in horoscopes to be true, it WILL come up with an answer where the horoscope fits Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
t0nythelover Posted October 3 Report Share Posted October 3 heres something to think about. there are over 100,000 psychopaths in manhattan everyday. this comes out of one of my girlfriends psychology textbooks. scary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suthrnbelle Posted October 3 Report Share Posted October 3 i don't know--i agree that you can generalize anyone into anything, but i see where quoth is coming from...i am a psycho magnet myself but being too nice is a problem, cause you then have a tendency to give a chance to people your radar should tell you not to, lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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