nympho69 Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 well I am not the type to sit and around and analyze situationsOn the contrary, my actions are usually impulsiveand I like to let things happenHowever I am not one to intentionally hurt someone's feelingsSo now that a certain situation arose Im not sure what to do heres the situationIve been dating someone older and even though at first he said he wasnt looking for anything serious (great)He appears to be catching strong feelings for meAnd the conversations appear that he is ready to settle down etc.I on the otherhand am not at that point of my lifeHe is a great guy but also very sensitivethe point is I feel as though I would be wasting his time or being unfair because even though I like himI'm not looking for the type of relationship he isso the question isshould I end it now before it becomes more intense? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by nympho69 well I am not the type to sit and around and analyze situationsOn the contrary, my actions are usually impulsiveand I like to let things happenHowever I am not one to intentionally hurt someone's feelingsSo now that a certain situation arose Im not sure what to do heres the situationIve been dating someone older and even though at first he said he wasnt looking for anything serious (great)He appears to be catching strong feelings for meAnd the conversations appear that he is ready to settle down etc.I on the otherhand am not at that point of my lifeHe is a great guy but also very sensitivethe point is I feel as though I would be wasting his time or being unfair because even though I like himI'm not looking for the type of relationship he isso the question isshould I end it now before it becomes more intense? Are you sure you don't have a penis? On a serious note. Yeah I only think it is fair. I mean why lead the guy one. Especially if he is sensitive. Cause as much as you may have told him before that you dont want anything serious. He may take certain things that you may throw in his direction as signs that you want something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reeni Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 you should end it .staying with him will make him think you want a relationship and if your not into him cut him loose before its to late Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nympho69 Posted January 23 Author Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by elementx Are you sure you don't have a penis? On a serious note. Yeah I only think it is fair. I mean why lead the guy one. Especially if he is sensitive. Cause as much as you may have told him before that you dont want anything serious. He may take certain things that you may throw in his direction as signs that you want something. hahau know what's funny this is the first time I thought I was thinking like a womanYou know analyzing and shitsee its weird cause he says one thing and later on something differentat first he said he enjoys being singlethen he says he does miss having someone thereI think the scariest thing for me was when he said he could see himself living with mewith all that said I would normally drop a guy like thathowever he also happens to be great in bedAnd a guy hasnt been able to make me cum in monthsand he did right awaybottom line he is great in many ways and even though itwould be the right thing to drop himI want to be selfish and keep him arounddamn, I hate it when my conscious takes over Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 sweetie, your situation sounds a lot like the one I just got out of....Just make sure you communicate and let your motives be known. If you aren't serious about him and he can't deal....well, just let him walk. He'll survive.In the end getting laid just isn't worth it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by nympho69 hahau know what's funny this is the first time I thought I was thinking like a womanYou know analyzing and shitsee its weird cause he says one thing and later on something differentat first he said he enjoys being singlethen he says he does miss having someone thereI think the scariest thing for me was when he said he could see himself living with mewith all that said I would normally drop a guy like thathowever he also happens to be great in bedAnd a guy hasnt been able to make me cum in monthsand he did right awaybottom line he is great in many ways and even though itwould be the right thing to drop himI want to be selfish and keep him arounddamn, I hate it when my conscious takes over Why don't you come clean and tell him that you're not looking for anything serious, but you think he's a great guy and you'd still want to have some sort of relations with him?If he cares for you , he should understand. Granted, if the 2 of you still hang out, there will be some awkward moments where the 2 of you will stray the "serious" zone. But, according to what you've said, It would be a shame to let this guy go totally. \And if he says things like " i can see myself living with me" , just say that it makes u uncomfortable when he says that. When a girl tells me the ""U" word, i take 2 steps back hope it works out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by nympho69 heres the situationIve been dating someone older and even though at first he said he wasnt looking for anything serious (great)He appears to be catching strong feelings for meAnd the conversations appear that he is ready to settle down etc.I on the otherhand am not at that point of my lifeHe is a great guy but also very sensitivethe point is I feel as though I would be wasting his time or being unfair because even though I like himI'm not looking for the type of relationship he isso the question isshould I end it now before it becomes more intense? is it hugh heffner??? seriously, sounds like you pussy-whipped him. we men easily confuse that with love maybe talk with him about that and not with us? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 ugh, i just typed this whoel thing and it all got deleted... that sux. ok i totally understand your situation because im always looking for somethign casual and it never works out. i think all you can do in your situation is be straight forward about what you want. if he cant handle it then he should know to end it. i dont see why you see your situation as a waste of his time? youre going out, having great sex, talking.. doesnt sound like a waste of time to me (unless you could NEVER see yourself wanting to be with him in the long run). maybe you will want what he wants if he is patient with you. how long have you been seeing eachother? if you just met a few weeks ago and hes already talking liek he wants to be with you forever & settle down, i think he is a little psycho. i dunno, i wouldnt wanna hurt someone either but on the other hand, you have been honest & he is creating some kinda false reality about the situation in his head. maybe youre the one who is scared to get hurt? why wouldnt you want to give him a chance? he sounds like a great guy and they are hard to come by. goodluck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ou812 Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by nympho69 well I am not the type to sit and around and analyze situationsOn the contrary, my actions are usually impulsiveand I like to let things happenHowever I am not one to intentionally hurt someone's feelingsSo now that a certain situation arose Im not sure what to do heres the situationIve been dating someone older and even though at first he said he wasnt looking for anything serious (great)He appears to be catching strong feelings for meAnd the conversations appear that he is ready to settle down etc.I on the otherhand am not at that point of my lifeHe is a great guy but also very sensitivethe point is I feel as though I would be wasting his time or being unfair because even though I like himI'm not looking for the type of relationship he isso the question isshould I end it now before it becomes more intense? How old??? Are his pubes grey??? :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by gmccookny Why don't you come clean and tell him that you're not looking for anything serious, but you think he's a great guy and you'd still want to have some sort of relations with him?If he cares for you , he should understand. Granted, if the 2 of you still hang out, there will be some awkward moments where the 2 of you will stray the "serious" zone. But, according to what you've said, It would be a shame to let this guy go totally. \ I have to disagree with this...Actions speak louder than words... you can talk till you're blue in the face, tell the guy that you don't want anything serious, BUT if you stick around and he wants to be with you... chances are good that he's going to convince himself that he can change your mind. It's really unfair to keep him around for mainly sexual reasons when he's starting to develop feelings for you. Better to do it now before it turns into something really serious.Good luck, whatever your decision... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nympho69 Posted January 23 Author Report Share Posted January 23 Yes, I have discussed this with him from the very beginningAnd even though he said he wanted the same thingI can tell he is already taking things seriouslyI'm sure many of you have been in the same situationAnyways, I guess he is a grown man and if he tells me one thing but is taking it another wayWell, thats his problemall is fair in love and war Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by nympho69 Anyways, I guess he is a grown man and if he tells me one thing but is taking it another wayWell, thats his problemall is fair in love and war Perhaps he's not being completely upfront about his feelings b/c he's afraid (rightfully so) of getting hurt; he doesn't want to lose you and is trying not to frighten you away... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nympho69 Posted January 23 Author Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by tastyt Perhaps he's not being completely upfront about his feelings b/c he's afraid (rightfully so) of getting hurt; he doesn't want to lose you and is trying not to frighten you away... yes however I do not plan on spending my life making decisions on what I think people might be feelingdo u know what I'm sayingI am being completely honestSo if he wants to continue the ball is in his court Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted January 23 Report Share Posted January 23 Originally posted by nympho69 yes however I do not plan on spending my life making decisions on what I think people might be feelingdo u know what I'm sayingI am being completely honestSo if he wants to continue the ball is in his court This is true... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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