dgmodel Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 i have to make my first public speeking debut this friday... and i am a nervous wreck... i am the bestman at a friends wedding, and i have no clue where to start or how do go about this... im more worried about what to say then saying it though... anyone have any suggestions??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eurolisa Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 giving a speech at a good friends can be one of the most happiest and scariest time in a persons life i think it really is nerve racking so i do feel for but as your speech and what u r going to say the best i can say is to keep short and sweet and talk from your heart. speak from past experiences with him and now with him and her and why you are happy the are together. after all the weddings i have been to thats the one thing i know those speeches can be long boring and sometimes embarrassing to the bride and groom (oh and try to be somewhat sober also ) but the best speeches were the ones that spoke from the heart.dont be nervous i am sure you will do a GREAT job. and remember your friend must really trust and care about you to give that honor to you.good luck and congrats to your friend and his future wife i hope they have a long and happy marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimk29 Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 I did it last summer for my friends wedding... i hate speeking in public. What made it easier was the bottle of champagne that i drnk in the limo on the way to the reception. Hope that helps! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erica127 Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 i just took a class called Business Communications and we learned a lot of things & one of them was about public speaking...I HATED getting in front of the class & speaking cuz i would always get nervous....don't tell yourself that you are nervous cuz that WILL make it worse...don't have everything that u r going to say right in front of u cuz that's a crutch & u will look down all the time...whereas, if you only have short sentences or kep words or phrases you will be most likely to do better...also, reading a speech makes you look unprepared...if you feel like you are going to say umm or maybe blank out, don't tell the audience cuz they have no idea that you messed up or what you are even going to say..just pause for a few seconds to get back on track...as of now that's all i can really think of, but if i remember more things i will post them...i hope this helps you & doesn't sound too dorky, but this class helped me out alot about getting over my fear... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by dgmodel i have to make my first public speeking debut this friday... and i am a nervous wreck... i am the bestman at a friends wedding, and i have no clue where to start or how do go about this... im more worried about what to say then saying it though... anyone have any suggestions??? whatever u do....don't say how you REALLY feel....lol....that won't go over to well.btw....this is the best man thing, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trancerxn112 Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 when speaking make eye contact with everybody... use a power think method... tell yourself that when you are done they are going to clap no matter what... speak sloooooow... your voice may sound like your speaking normally but you are actually talking REALLY fast... ckeep gum in your mouth itll help stimulate saliva so you dont get annoying cotton mouth... dont talk directly into the mic... dont fret the more you worry the more anxious you will be... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 2 Author Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by eurolisa ... thanks bebe... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 2 Author Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by jimk29 I did it last summer for my friends wedding... i hate speeking in public. What made it easier was the bottle of champagne that i drnk in the limo on the way to the reception. Hope that helps! yeah im going to have a few shots but not get tanked... im going to post my speech here as well... let yall tell me if its good enough... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 2 Author Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by erica127 don't have everything that u r going to say right in front of u cuz that's a crutch & u will look down all the time...whereas, if you only have short sentences or kep words or phrases you will be most likely to do better...also, reading a speech makes you look unprepared... i wouldnt dare... my mother suggested that, and i feel its gauche to read from cards at a wedding... the flipside to that i thought of simply winging it, and going from the heart off the top of my head but then i quickly realised that wasnt a good idea... i think im going to go with a minute long speech and just have a nice closing line and thats it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 2 Author Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by marcid21 whatever u do....don't say how you REALLY feel....lol....that won't go over to well.btw....this is the best man thing, right? lmao... yes... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 2 Author Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by trancerxn112 when speaking make eye contact with everybody... use a power think method... tell yourself that when you are done they are going to clap no matter what... speak sloooooow... your voice may sound like your speaking normally but you are actually talking REALLY fast... ckeep gum in your mouth itll help stimulate saliva so you dont get annoying cotton mouth... dont talk directly into the mic... dont fret the more you worry the more anxious you will be... i was thinking of simply panning the crowd from one side to the other and look at everyones foreheads... thanks for the gum tip as well... however the speaking fast part... i already speak fast as it is... so control my speed is going to be the second hardest part... grrrrrr... best man is the worst job... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eurolisa Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by dgmodel thanks bebe... anytime hun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trancerxn112 Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by dgmodel best man is the worst job... I never understood that title... if you are the best man... then why is she marrying the other guy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nSyNcBaBy Posted June 2 Report Share Posted June 2 a few tips....3. try not to memorize anything... cuz if u mess up ull freak out2. remember that ur among friends... so who gives a shit if u screw up and # 1. JUST RELAX!!!!! its a wedding!!! no one cares what u say as long as u wish the bride and groom the best of happiness and health and raise ur glass Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 2 Author Report Share Posted June 2 Originally posted by trancerxn112 I never understood that title... if you are the best man... then why is she marrying the other guy? lmao... good point... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 5 Author Report Share Posted June 5 okay here it is... let me know if its okay... and if you have any suggestions:It is difficult to define what love is, However, we all can agree that In the soul it is a ruling passionIn the mind it is sympathy and affinityIn the body, well we'll leave that for them to define on their honeymoon...However who and what we love remains a mysteryFrank and Britney solved this mystery for themselves one evening in CaliforniaThey say the secret to loving and lasting marriage is 80% in finding the right person;seems as if fate has led them here inviting one another into their hearts to begin a new life in unisonAnd In this life they will feel no rainFor each of them will be shelter for one anotherThey will feel no cold For each them will be warmth to one anotherthey will feel no greater powerthan to share sacred admiration for one anotherThey will feel no loneliness for one anotherNow go into this life before you…Lets raise our glasses, Frank, Britney I wish for you both with all my heart, That your glasses may be filled with champagne, Your pockets always filled with money…And your hearts be filled with love…Salute…:NewYorkLove:Marko:\"'_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted June 5 Report Share Posted June 5 wow that was beautiful Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 5 Author Report Share Posted June 5 seriously? or are you being sarcastic??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nSyNcBaBy Posted June 5 Report Share Posted June 5 i knew u could do it!!! that was so nice! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 5 Author Report Share Posted June 5 thank you... i hope it goes over well... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineones Posted June 6 Report Share Posted June 6 yeh man thats pretty good...im sure ull do fine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 6 Author Report Share Posted June 6 i hope sooooo.. im so damn shook... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghhhhhost Posted June 6 Report Share Posted June 6 i love public speaking... i was always that kid with the lead in the school play..all the pre pubescent bitches wanted me back then...dont sweat it man...the worst thing that can happen is u embarrass urself in front of a bunch of drunk people who arent gona remember anyway...thats a good speech though...i give it my OF APPROVAL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineones Posted June 6 Report Share Posted June 6 Originally posted by ghhhhhost i love public speaking... i was always that kid with the lead in the school play..all the pre pubescent bitches wanted me back then...dont sweat it man...the worst thing that can happen is u embarrass urself in front of a bunch of drunk people who arent gona remember anyway...thats a good speech though...i give it my OF APPROVAL :laugh: alli keep singing in my head is...'sombody spilt coffee of my faceeee....' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted June 6 Author Report Share Posted June 6 Originally posted by ghhhhhost thats a good speech though...i give it my OF APPROVAL thank you... :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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