funeralhome Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 this is bothering me a little bit 'cause i just can't figure this guy out. i can't help but overanalyze everything so i need some advice...i've been talking to this guy for like a month and surprisingly we haven't had sex, he doesn't want sex and i don't want to have sex with him either..i would assume that means he wants to get serious...but he SWEARS he doesnt want a girlfriend either. i kinda think he's in denial..i mean, what else could he possibly be looking for? i find it hard to believe that he just "wants to get to know me" and is avoiding the sex thing because he doesn't want me to get "attached".any thoughts? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullseye Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 if im following you correctly,have you told him that you dont wanna have sex, and just be friends. if you told him that, then of course he's not gonna wanna get attached. once you have sex, the relationship changes forever, either for the better or worse. if your both comfortable with the relationship as just friends, leave it. if sex happens, it will happen naturally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ou812 Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Well, they're few and far between, but not every guy wants to get in your pants. You said that you don't want sex either, so what's your motivations then? Maybe his are the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Sounds like you're both in denial... Each of you is waiting for the other to cave in... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 my intentions lately have been to stop fucking around and get serious with someone, i'm really tired of being lonely and just gettin off, you know?i just always highly doubt that a guy, any guy, would feel the same way. from my experience, they're all after one thing, one way or the other.of course we've spoken about having sex, and we both want to fuck each other, we just won't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullseye Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 so stay friends, and if things change in the relationship, let it happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 my intentions lately have been to stop fucking around and get serious with someone, i'm really tired of being lonely and just gettin off, you know?i just always highly doubt that a guy, any guy, would feel the same way. from my experience, they're all after one thing, one way or the other.of course we've spoken about having sex, and we both want to fuck each other, we just won't. its only a matter of time....and alchohol.... someone is gonna cave in Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 funny thing is, we've gotten extremely drunk in each other's presence..he comes to my bar every night and i get him wacked.. and still nothing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 funny thing is, we've gotten extremely drunk in each other's presence..he comes to my bar every night and i get him wacked.. and still nothing. It's hard to "make a move" at a bar... especially when you're working... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 lol.. you don't know my bar.. anyway, he drives me home every night afterwards and we just sit in his car and talk. I can't believe i'm even complaining about this, i just feel like he has other motives... :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ou812 Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 lol.. you don't know my bar.. anyway, he drives me home every night afterwards and we just sit in his car and talk. I can't believe i'm even complaining about this, i just feel like he has other motives... :confused: You get him inebriated at you bar and then he drives you home???You're both confused and don't know what you want. Neither of you seem to want to step up to either take it forward or end it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 and... how long has this been going on??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 about a month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 about a month. heh.... I'd say three more weeks.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by bumpdaddy heh.... I'd say three more weeks.... NO.. i forbid to do it. lol who am i kidding... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 He was just waiting for xmass to be over so he wouldn't have to buy you an expensive gift Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by bumpdaddy He was just waiting for xmass to be over so he wouldn't have to buy you an expensive gift haha.. i keep teasing him about that. we'll see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 I'd say you're looking at the weekend of Jan 11th...... then again he may really hold out and wait till after V-day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 26 Author Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by bumpdaddy I'd say you're looking at the weekend of Jan 11th...... then again he may really hold out and wait till after V-day shit, i'm not even looking that far into the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 you'd be surprised how some guys think... My nephew and his friends talk about shit like that all the time..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 this is bothering me a little bit 'cause i just can't figure this guy out. i can't help but overanalyze everything so i need some advice...i've been talking to this guy for like a month and surprisingly we haven't had sex, he doesn't want sex and i don't want to have sex with him either..i would assume that means he wants to get serious...but he SWEARS he doesnt want a girlfriend either. i kinda think he's in denial..i mean, what else could he possibly be looking for? i find it hard to believe that he just "wants to get to know me" and is avoiding the sex thing because he doesn't want me to get "attached".any thoughts? wow he sounds like my ex Same exact situation happened....a few weeks after he said that he didnt want a gf, things changedbe prepared to get caught off guard... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tubby Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 this is bothering me a little bit 'cause i just can't figure this guy out. i can't help but overanalyze everything so i need some advice...i've been talking to this guy for like a month and surprisingly we haven't had sex, he doesn't want sex and i don't want to have sex with him either..i would assume that means he wants to get serious...but he SWEARS he doesnt want a girlfriend either. i kinda think he's in denial..i mean, what else could he possibly be looking for? i find it hard to believe that he just "wants to get to know me" and is avoiding the sex thing because he doesn't want me to get "attached".any thoughts? Seems like he wants to be ur Friend.. and that's how a relationship should start out like.. Sheesh.. there is hope for humanity after all. Take it slow eckobarbie and don't be like most of these female cock mongers here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 lol.. you don't know my bar.. anyway, he drives me home every night afterwards and we just sit in his car and talk. I can't believe i'm even complaining about this, i just feel like he has other motives... :confused: Maybe he doesn't. Maybe he just wants to take time or whatever.THis guy actually sounds a lot like me Sometimes im afraid to make a move for whatever reason. But Why are you complaining? It seems like things are going well so far Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlr8ted Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Sounds like he wants to hang out, I do this all the time before I decide if i'm going to persue anything further. Alot of people just jump in, fuck and then realize that it isn't going to work out till a few months up the road, then your both disappointed.Or he gets so drunk at the bar he can't get it up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kahn Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Maybe he's gay, and just wants to be your friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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